Married nearly 25 years and sex for us has always been pretty good. There have been periods when either illness, injury or life has just got in the way but during those times, more often than not, whoever isn't either horny or able will still help out while the other is masturbating. Works for us but being open each other is the key.
Used to have a good sexual relationship. Highs and lows over the course of 25 years. Now with some medical issues we do not have sex anymore. Was just physical things for her but now… let’s just say it’s complicated