First love

generally yes, because one may find some things out about them that you didn't know before, and then your dream guy/girl just popped.

 

Dog food.

 

Yeah the only relationship that I had that I felt love was in high school, when I was pretty stupid and shy, and I fucked it up really bad. Now, for some reason, I was bored and I found out she is actually going to the same university as me and I've been going here almost a year and I still haven't seen her. (and the university has a pretty small student body) I don't know if i have feelings for her anymore though... I feel dead inside from past relationships and failures...

 

When you learn to love everyone, you never have to stop thinking about one person.

 

hey mistress....can i ask you what do u mean u didn't try hard enough?

 

over her already?....woah that was quick...as long as ur more happy now...but how did u get over her....becos im still tryin to get over my first love and its been 3months since we've broken up...and we hav been together for 3yrs and she immediatley went with another guy...but she keeps callin me and confusing me with the idea of her still liking me and missing me..which gives me hope..but then when i see her with the guy..my heart gets totally crushed again...sigh

 

Yeah. Definitely over. He was a relatively decent guy but young. We could have perhaps gone through life learning from each other but to be brutally honest, he was plain clueless. And I was too. We were both blind to many things, most of all to each other.

He didn't know who I was and neither did he accept me. It was the same on my part. Neither was better, neither was worse. We were just on parallel planes that did not meet. And after all of this, one might ask, "then was it really love??" For me, it was because I learned to stretch to limits I didn't know existed and I found something in myself that I hadn't known I was capable of. I'm sure he also feels the same because.. well, we still do run into each other and we talk and laugh about it especially during the first couple of years after the break.

Time passes, more men also come and go. I don't know why but I've been honoured to find everything from the players, to the liars and psychos, and finally, the steadfast and loyal. I know now this boy will be one of the steadfast and loyal ones one day but where he was when I knew him, and where I was when he knew me, it would never have lasted. Let's just say I know myself a little better, thankfully, though there's still much to learn.

As I mentioned, him and I still do run into each other and we help each other out but I feel more protective or motherly than anything else. I don't think I can recover the naivete or the passion that used to be there - so, you could say it's over. I'm happy where I am now also. Sort of like finally tasting more than half of the icecream flavours in the parlour, and I know what I want. It isn't him. I have known, and have loved others, others who have been more compatible - sexually, intellectually, spritually and emotionally. Yet one still remembers, yea? Another story.

 

I was 16 years old and he had just turned 17 (we were exactly 11 months apart from each other). I had been friends with him before he transferred schools and his sister learned I had a crush on him, so she talked to him, then one of my friends talked to him at a speech tourney and he decided to call me. I wanted to learn the guitar, so he started giving me lessons. He told me that he knew I liked him and that he "dug me as well" but at the time had a girlfriend. Well, by the first week of school after Christmas break was over, she had broken up with him for some other guy and he called me up and asked me if I wanted to be with him. Those were his exact words. I laughed and said, "Are you asking me to be your girlfriend?" and he said, "Is that a yes?" Hehe. We saw each other about once a week because while we lived in the same town, neither of us had our licenses and we went to different schools and were both very busy with theatre and speech. I had been in love with him for awhile, so I wrote him a letter, telling him. He wrote me one back. 7 pages long, pouring his heart out about how he was trying desperately to break his ties to his first love, but how he was almost sure I was the girl that was to be his "saviour." We dated for 3 months, in a wonderfully passionate romance. There was so much fire between us. Then a girl moved into town and apparently she was fated to be his saviour because that was ultimately the end of us. It took me forever to get over the heart break, but my heart still loves him deeply. When you truly fall in love with someone, you don't ever fall out. Of course, that was 3 and a half years ago and I've fallen in love twice more. You eventually get over the pain and the heartbreak and are able to move on, but I think love forever leaves deep footprints in your heart.

 

Im in love for the first time!
And I really want this relationship to be the real one!
I dont want my heart to be broken coz I love him more than everything

 

Haze 9999

"hey mistress....can i ask you what do u mean u didn't try hard enough?"

we let stupid things ruin us. like when we would gte mad at eachother for something we would just stop talking to eachother instead of tring to work it out. sometimes we wouldnt talk for months!

"over her already?....woah that was quick...as long as ur more happy now...but how did u get over her....becos im still tryin to get over my first love and its been 3months since we've broken up...and we hav been together for 3yrs and she immediatley went with another guy...but she keeps callin me and confusing me with the idea of her still liking me and missing me..which gives me hope..but then when i see her with the guy..my heart gets totally crushed again...sigh"

Well I guess I didnt "get over her". I just finally realized that there was nothing to get over. We dated she fucked around. I told her how she was making me feel and she told me I was full of shit, and that the problems we were having were all my fault. Thats when I realized that things would always be the same. We spent so ong talking about how we would make sure things were different, only to have things remain the same when it got tough. Thats when I accepted that we aren't really in love. I think that we could have been in love at one point but it stayed in that immature point...you know...when your like oohhhh this might be love....and you get all excited. usually this lasts for a bit, than you discover you are in love and things get serious and commited. well for us the seriousness and the commitment weren't happening. Thats not true love. Thats lust. Thats infatuation. Thats tring to make something more than it really is. AND ITS A FINE LINE! it took me years, but I can honestly say that I have gotten over her. I guess this response offers no solace to you. All I can say is give it time. life goes on even when you dont, and eventually time will catch up too you and this girl wont be an ache in your heart anymore!

 

Libertine
I wish I could change my vote.
I wanna vote yes now.

I think that whole you never get over your first love is bullshit now.

 

nope...i was 14and he was 15 soit was freshman year of high school and we didnt date for that long..but he opened me up to a whole new world( sexually active one) lol and for that no i will never forget or stop loving him...its like when you first say those three little word to someone theyhave sucha powerful menaing that you just dont forget!! its perfectly normal!

 

i just broke up with my first real love. i dont think ill ever loose all my feelings for him, they will always be there, no matter how much i move on.

 

My first love died... Five years ago now. I will never completely stop loving him, although there were things about him that I definitely had problems with. I guess I never had a chace to fall OUT of love with him though. Who knows? Maybe it wouldn't have lasted if it had been allowed. As it is, I still dream about him. I still love him, and feel like part of me died with him all that time past. Even though I'm over and past it, very much in love with another man. Pooo.... Why'd I have to see this thread? It's got me all depressed now...

 

im still with my first love i met him when i was 17 i am now 20 we have a 1 year old he wants to get married, i want to talk about it, we have been through alot a fuckin heap and yet we cant say goodbye to each other. when we are not fighting we are best friends.

 

I'm sure he loves the woman he saw that beautiful baby girl come out of. What a lucky guy. Where is he now? are you with him?

 

My first love was a raging asshole! I'd knock him the fuck out if I saw him today, too bad I left town long ago!

*ahem* Thanks, I feel calmer now.

 

well i din't want to get that in depth but i moved to orlando to pursue a singing career and fell in love with a guy i met at a pool hall.we were together 9 years with lots of moving and bullshit, but in the end while i was in massachusettes working he cheated on me with a girl he met through his work , they started hanging out and he got her pregnant after knowing her 6 months. they got married and needless to say i was a wreck for a few years. they divorced shortly after the birth of their child. now every once in a whle he calls to beg for me back. there are many times even now that sometimes i want to take him back but i am a taurus the bull and am very stubborn, plus i have been with my current bf for 7 years and i don't think he would be very happy.

 

my heart breaks a little more everyday.
im starting to think that love is not worth its misery

 

im still with my first love. and i love it. everytime i try and leave, she threatens me with suicide, so i end up staying... funny thing is, i would never leave her anyway.