First love

70% of the people here believe in this horseshit?

Must be mostly chicks.

 

Libertine, maybe women are just more emotion in general.

 

I found my first love and am with him now and wont let him go...no matter how much he begs me to let him out the basement or cries for me to untie him..I shall never do so...

 

I say no.
I met my first true love when i was 15 and he still has my heart to this day. He and i just decided to stay friends rather than lovers.

 

It just simply amazes me how many people are so insecure that they can't get over the first time they goo-gooed over someone.

Shit, it was love and you fell hard. But, you get up, dust yourself off and experience it again with someone else.

And about the person that said someone killed themselves because of the loss of a lover...good fucking Lord!

Anyone who kills themselves over something like that is weak-minded. No one is worth killing yourself over. No one.

Love is a subjective and beautiful experience, but it isn't objective and anything that would make you act abnormally and irresponsibly is more than "love"...it is OBSESSION borne from a hidden lack of self-love, self-knowledge and self-esteem.

 

I don't think you really get over it but you do get past it. Am I in love with him now? No. Do I love him? Yes. Was I in love with him at one time? Without any doubt in my mind, yes. Sometimes people grow together and sometimes they grow apart. With infinate possibilities of why relationships start and end I don't think anyone can ever really put a limit of what can be experienced in the realm of love. Each pairing would be completely different.

 

Lib, I think your too harsh on the subject.
I dont consider myself insecure.
The part about someone killing themselves over it.. okay.
But just because I love someone and have had a hard time getting over them, I dont consider myself insecure.
Instead, I think I dont want to get over her. And I haven't. We are back together now. And this time if things end I hope they end in a way that will make it final, instead of always ending in ways that make me feel like we just didnt try hard enough.
So, do you think Im just being insecure???

 

I voted yes.

I was with my first love at a very young age. I fell HARD for him. It took me years to get over him. Moving to a different State helped. If I had to see him every day or run into him from time to time my answer might be different but having the seperation we have from one another I fell in-love with someone else and I know I am right where I am supposed to be.

My only regret is that I wish I could of said I was sorry for some of the things I said and did.

I hope things work out for you.

I don't think you sound insecure. I think you sound like you went through a lot when you broke up and now that you're back together again you know if you don't make it together it will be all much more harder to get over her. You are protecting yourself from feeling that hell.

 

Okay I believe that no one is worth killing yourself over. I am one of the most secure people i know. I LIKED the feeling of my first love. But ofcourse i rarely end relationships badly. Im still friends with most of my ex's. I don't think ill go chasing someone around or being obsessive or anything. but i do think that a profound experience like falling in love for the first time (when its a good experience ) is something beautiful and special to hold on to. I have WAY moved on. My life if full of beautiful things and i have loved others and very deeply but not like my first love. I saw my first love through eyes i no longer have. Through innocent eyes that was willing to see all the good and see none of the bad. Not just of him but of most things. It was a good time. I think ill hold that precious. Maybe im just sentimental. But def. not insecure. I have nothing to be insecure about im a successful business woman/artist/mother/. yeah.. i think im good

EDIT: OH and id like to add that when people act irrisponsibly or do things like killing themselves.. its not about the relationship they had or the "love" they think they have. Its about some other issue in their life acting itself out in the form of some feeling they have projected.

 

I will never get over my first love. It will be the love that all other relationships are compared to.

 

what i'm about to say may sound like it doesn't make sense, and it may be hard to understand, but think about it really hard (and it may not apply to everyone, i know)
you can get over your first love, but you never get over your first love

 

Maybe "insecure" was the wrong term here.

Maybe it isn't necessarily insecurity, but something else. Something which promotes an "image" of the relationship (which went sour) to some sort of "legendary" status because it was the first one of a kind. I can understand that. It's just these people who can't get over the person (rather than the experience itself) that I call insecure and weak.

 

I’m still wrestling between my first love and a new love and its hell. I love the first with every bit of my heart and will always, but it just isn’t working but I’m afraid to move on because it was so beautiful that I just don't want it to end. Love is so stupid...it kind of makes me laugh because it’s ridiculous but it’s worth every moment most of the time so whatever...

 

I never got over my 'first love' even after more than 15 years and her turning gay..[true].. i will always think.. one day... one day.


Of course it is just a ideal and we probably would never work or 'fit' anymore.. but for a breif moment all those years ago.. she was it for me..

shucks..

 

I never get over any of my loves, especially my first.

 

an ex is an ex thats why they are exs. But first loves are different ..Depending on trhe circumstances... But in many situations everyone leaves on a bad note or things didn't work out. So thts my opinion.

PG

 

I'm still not over my first love. Granted, it was only a year ago. I still love her with every fiber of my being.

 

Don't first loves become exs.. or is it 'unrequented first love' you mean.. yeah i think that is different if thats what you mean ?..

Unrequented first loves have the bonus of never going wrong.. probably why people don't get over them so easily .. nothing tarnishes dreams.. and we do whatever is in our hearts and thoughts .. if only they knew eh ?.

 

Nah,i dont love that guy anymore.I`m not shure it was love,so.....

 

My first love just broke up with me a couple weeks ago, and no, I cannot for the life of me get over her....