Fess Up: Love Making Is Just Propaganda

I guess the bonds are special and therefore the sex is special by default... But on the other hand, what if you were stranded on a deserted island with someone you didn't like and/or thought was unattractive. Are you sure you wouldn't have sex with them? It could be that our drive to procreate means that we honestly would have sex with just about anyone given the right circumstances. And therefore what makes sex special with someone you share a bond with? Maybe we just have the luxury in our society of getting to sleep with people whose company we enjoy/people we find attractive.

But then again, maybe we would choose species suicide if it came to pass that we could only have sex with people we didn't love. I sure hope so.

I think you're right, though. It was a horrible thing to say.

I feel like I'm naturally zen. Which is why my thoughts come off as rambling and incoherent, perhaps. But like dogs...do they have partners they love? Not really. They just declare dominance and mount a bitch. My dilemma is you can't be zen in our society and expect to have sex. Because would you fuck a dog?

I think the thing with younger girls is they're too understanding. I think it's natural for females to be more understanding than men, maybe. But with young girls it's like, they see a bad boy, and they want to understand what a great guy he is. They want to believe their feminine instincts peer beneath the surface. In reality they're just rewarding disgusting behavior. And men will go through their whole lives never embracing their feminine, empathetic side, because they've always been rewarded so often for being a dick.

That said, I can see the appeal of bad boys, because honestly I think most men are decent inside, and it takes a good woman to nurture this decent side. It just disheartens me greatly when the bad boy uses the girl and spits her out.

 

I hope you know I was teasin' you before on this thread, neon. I believe in real connections, as well....but there are different kinds of connections and not everyone is everyone's cup of tea like ST said...I am glad you said that ST, btw.....
I get annoyed when you tell someone 50 different ways to bug off, and they don't......it is like they think you are just challenging them.....and i don't know how else to say things sometimes, but be downright mean about things at times....which I am not btw....I am not mean at all....but some people force my patience.....

I don't know about this bad boy thing....I don't like pushovers and milk toast....but the person does have to have a good heart, and know how to take care of his own, at the same time.

 

lol...it is like

Do you hear me?

Do you hear me?

Do you hear me?

Do you hear me?

Do you hear me?


still no?
all the curse words proceeding......this time.....

DO YOU HEAR ME NOW!!!!!!!

 

I don't hang out with or see many teenage girls so I wouldn't know BUT I will have one in a few short years here and I hope I am raising her better than to blindly follow social trends.

The part I have highlighted and underlined...you ever have that experience vs having sex with someone that you are disconnected from? You make some interesting points but I disagree.

 

Good luck with that. Teenage girls love chasing after the guys that piss off their parents. I remember that much from high school. I wasn't really like that but my sister was, and we were both brought up the same way, in the same house. I don't have an explanation for it. My perspective on it was very much in the minority, at school.

 

I went in a VERY different direction to all my siblings. Hopefully an honest and open relationship with her will lead to her making choices she will be happy with, "bad boy" or not.

 

Yeah, but he's only in there until the boys 14th birthday. Hence why priests generally don't violate post-pubescent males.

 

When were you teasing me? I didn't take offense to anything.

Some guys think women are just like one-dimensional sex robots, seriously.

I just wonder if having sex with people you don't connect with somehow cheapens your performance when you're having it with someone you care about. It's very difficult for me to say that sex can just be a casual thing and also be a meaningful thing within the same individual. Because aren't you ultimately saying that the act of slipping your penis into a vagina is no big deal? How does it become a big deal when it's with someone special? To me you generally don't see women as special enough if you're willing to have sex with just anybody on occasion. Same goes for women. That's just me, though, and I'm obsessive about people I like. I'm pretty much not even interested in casual sex. When you reduce each other to objects it just seems ridiculous to me. Because honestly, guys look really dumb naked. I mean, what's cool about a guy between a girl's legs squeezing his hairy buttocks together? I just imagine what his mother thinks about his buttocks.

 

My husband and I can do it both ways in the same day. There's nothing better than lots of foreplay in a wonderful romantic setting, but sometimes I don't have time for that, and I just want a good pounding, because I need it and it feels good. When he wants it quick and basic, I try not to ever say no without a very good reason. I don't see why we need to wait until we have the time and energy to make it special every time.

...to another straight man. Also, it's such a stereotypical straight guy thing to make everything about appearance.

 

Yeah but that's with one person, so I would say it is special every time. But I feel like, if a girl should even wink at a guy, not that girls do much winking these days, but if a girl should even wink at a guy, then it is her duty not to have sex with anyone else. And the same goes for men. Don't express interest unless you are willing to love until the death.

I insist that guys look objectively stupid when having sex, even if the woman can't understand that. She is blinded by chemical reactions in her head, just as if she was on drugs. And if you're on LSD anything can look cool, even a naked dude's little baby buns. I assure you, though, there is nothing cool about a dude's buttcheeks repeatedly clenching over and over. I don't care if the front of him is inside of a hot chick, the back of him looks idiotic. His feet aren't even straight, they're probably splayed apart. If I walked down the street naked with my feet splayed apart clenching my buttocks, do you think that would be cool?

 

Why should we care?

You're talking about a lot of stupid shit that shouldn't matter to anyone, unless you're making porn.

 

The thrill is gone... :sunny:

 

Hold it. I'm not saying you should care. I hope that you wouldn't care, as you ought to be accepting of your lover whether he looks silly or not.

I was only joking when I said I insist that men look objectively stupid, as obviously I can't prove that, because how can an object be stupid? This thread is about how sex isn't all its cracked up to be, and I think the point that men's butts look stupid rather than gallant (or what have you) when they're having sex fits in with that subject. Because if you're taking yourself really seriously when you're having sex, but your butt looks silly, well then the joke's on you.

But again, I can't say that the male butt looks objectively silly. It's just my opinion that it looks silly when it's clenching over and over again.

 

"Yeah but that's with one person, so I would say it is special every time. But I feel like, if a girl should even wink at a guy, not that girls do much winking these days, but if a girl should even wink at a guy, then it is her duty not to have sex with anyone else. And the same goes for men. Don't express interest unless you are willing to love until the death."



LOL, Neon.......

I never knew a wink meant I want to have sex with you before....To me, it just seems non threatening and friendly. I never used to use the winking emoticom, but then when I saw it here and there from other people...i thought...hmmm...that looks kind of friendly....and I mean no harm kind of thing.....and I like you sort of thing....so here is a wink for you....
and a smile, too....

 

idk...do i want to watch animals have sex?...no...do I want to watch other people have sex?....no...Do I even want to hear about it?.....no.....sort of thing for me.

 

Sorry.... I don't recall.

 

Old joke that has a lot of truth in it: Love is blind, but lust has eyes like a hawk.

 

Guys look pretty dumb naked to lesbians too, just sayin'.

 

I didn't mean the wink on here, moonglow. I meant if a girl winks at you in person it means they won't have sex with anybody else. But it doesn't have to be a wink. If a girl even looks at you the wrong way, she shouldn't have sex with anybody else. And she can't determine how she is looking at you. That is up to the man to decide.

 

I dunno, man. I'll wink at anyone as long as they givin' up dat ass ya know what I'm sayin'?