I don't take offense when my boyfriend asks me if I have cum because I know he is doing it because he wants to please me. He will not cum unless he has either gotten me off first, or I tell him that it is ok, because I don't think I will cum this time. Then he always asks me if I want him to do something else to make me cum and I decide. I actually love the fact that he cares enough to make sure I'm satisfied. I also, like it when he whispers in my ear in a raunchy way "are you gonna cum for me baby"... just typing that gives me chillie willies.
Gotcha. I guess I just assumed that a guy could always feel it. I know that I contract a lot when I cum, so it kinda struck me as funny that some guys can't feel it. I guess different girls are different in that way.
mine don't contract that much but i like it either way i guess cos my main pleasure in the whole thing is knowing i satisfied my partner...i couldnt' even care less about me reaching climax...just as long as he's happy and pleasured.