Facebook friend requests from annoying people at work

weak sauce!

I guess some people feel the need to be totally fake.

 

I know a good way to solve Facebook drama..dont participate

 

It's only weak/fake if you think Facebook friends necessarily fit the same concept as regular friends. I certainly don't. Just because you are friends with someone one FB doesn't mean you actually consider them a friend--more of a connection.

I am much more open to Facebook friendship--even if I don't even consider the person my real friend. I guard my real relationships much more closely. If accepting someone's FB request makes them happy and means not rocking the boat at work when you need a job, than that is strategy, not weakness.

And to people who say Facebook is full or morons/drama: so is life. People don't stop sucking when they log onto a computer.

 

How is that fake? I just don't give enough of a shit to care either way. I barely even use facebook for one, and if they see or read something that offends them I fail to see how that's my problem. So who cares. But passive aggressive bs from a coworker who takes that kind of thing seriously.. I'd really prefer not to have to deal with.

 

I don't think its fake at all. I think its an easy solution to keep the peace with someone he has to see and deal with on a daily basis.

 

Calling someone a **** behind their back and secretly hating them, while putting on a fake friendship for whatever reason….is fake.

 

Wanting to avoid bad blood at work is not fake. Although i think just ignoring the request would have been easier.

 

Its fake, but according to most it is a permissible level of fake in this case because it promotes a greater good of avoiding conflict.

 

oh, well thanks for coming on and bitching about something you willingly participate in.
we're all better people for that, truly.

 

I frequently ignore friend requests. It's really pretty easy to do. I have never denied a request, I either accept or ignore. You can also put your settings to a default "who can see" list and then change it if you want others to see certain posts.

If you're a good actor you can say your girlfriend/boyfriend is very jealous and freaks out when you get another friend they don't know. That's weird, but I don't know, if you feel you need to justify not friending her.

Also, I like facebook, though I have to say anything, facebook, hipforums, TV can become addictive for someone with an addictive personality. Facebook isn't anymore full of attention whores than this site! Don't use it too often and don't spend time on things you don't want to see on there and you should be fine. Take long breaks if you want or just don't use it if you really don't want to. I think in a few years I probably will pay someone to manage my account.

I love it pretty often because for one, I get connected to the things I care about the most in a really easy way. Most of my list is full of activists or people in my field. It's inspiration to me, reminds me of what's going on and I end up networking or planning things with people through that site. It has helped one of my older friends and I become much closer than we were before.

I first got onto it because my family begged me to when I was living far away. Now that I live closer I have deactivated that old account and created a new one. Because I don't want to be tagged and have my personal life all over facebook, I don't tend to have my real friends on facebook...or my people that I hang out with regularly. I guess facebook is kinda business to me, and I don't wanna mix business and pleasure too often.

I have seen a lot of people struggle with how they wanted to approach using that site. I think it's a valid thing to consider. If you want to share things you'd rather some of your friends not see, you can get a separate account. I did that, but it meant for me that I phased out the other. Some people maintain two.