Explain marriage to me.

that totally owns

 

U and Dave , I suppose some people , marriage is like a best friends thing.
I get the feeling it really works well for u.
( altho I pity what I supsect Dave must have to tolerate...

Waking up with a grump , yeah some people are like that.
I couldnt.I'm really laid back- then go ballistic

Personally , I'm just not born for the lifelong marriage thing.
I prefer the 5 yearly trade in -partic after they reached say 30 odd.
But I'm an eccentric who's into cryogenics and stuff...

 

A declaration of intent to stay with someone for as long as you live.

 

Word. It is something you remember for the rest of your life... so why remember it as being a drunken party?

Its people being present at the joining of two people who love each other.

I know that people will get drunk but I know John and I won't be.

 

A legal agreement that allows a man to get women from 3rd world countries into the U.S. and Europe.

 

Marriage is Boss for us.......







The ceremony is all about meeting expectations of in-laws, family friends society. No prob with that here. Real marriage starts when the party is over though.

 

:cheers2:

 

Wow, this thread has turned into marriage bashing...people are pulling statistics out of their asses...

A lot of people are happily married. No, 50% or 65% (both are mentioned in this thread, by tomorrow it could be 75%) of the people I know are not divorced. Actually, out of the people I do know who are divorced a few of them are on their 3rd spouses, so that throws the statistics off right there. Repeat offenders...

Some of you are divorced, so what? Don't blame society for your poor choices. I myself could have married a couple of times before I met my husband. One was an alcoholic and went to jail and the other is on his 3rd marriage. You have to be selective.

And the "piece of paper" argument is getting old. I have next of kin rights. I'm a SAHM, I have my husband's medical and dental benefits. If anything happens to my husband, I still have everything. If anything happens to me, he still has the kids, no having to prove they are his, them going to a foster home even temporarily.
We get to make any major decisions for each other. If your SO's family hates you, you are shit out of luck, and would probably not even be allowed at the funeral.

No one is "forcing" us to stay together. How many old people do you know who want to be free to cruise around picking up? That sex drive is going to slow down some day, you know. Then what? I guess then you just sit around staring at the walls with no one to talk to. Taking care of yourself is easier if you have a reason to get up in the morning.

Sorry I wrote a book, but I get sick of people bashing on marriage just because they aren't happy.

 

that was hawt.

 

sizzle sizzle

 

haha, Kozmic, with the way our third family is, the drinking doesn't happen at the reception or the wedding, but the after parties (because there are always several in that one day span) are off the chain. I think we might skip our honeymoon night because those wedding afterparties are epic.

 

B.bb..b.bu.bu.bu.bubububububut the honeymoon is the best part!? haha

 

Nobody said that you can't have drunken sex at the parties. And I mean, come on, it would be encouraged, we'd be married, so it would be okay.

 

I can almost kind of somewhat understand the point of having kids but that might come along a lot more spontaneously than marriage.

 

I would hope so. Marriages often end in aborted messes but people don't usually get married by accident.

 

Spontaneity is not part of it. It's the having and enjoying.

 

I like big white wedding dress
hm...may be I should just start wearing it everyday lol

dude, marriage is a social thing, to some women's opinion, when a man proposes, it shows his "serious" attitude and will to take care of his woman, because marriage throws some serious responsibilities at you according to the law, meaning after lets say 15 years of a "good relationship" if you suddenly change your mind, you cannot be just up'n'go, leaving your woman with 5 kids and 1 ton of bills. so a lot of women think this way- if he loves me and wants to create a family with me, why would he try to escape those responsibilities, why wouldn't he want to marry me? therefore marriage is about creating a family. not that you can't have a family without marriage, most women I know who are independent and can make their living without man's support, do not force their men to marry them. therefore there is another group of women who try to secure their living through the marriage.
however a good relationship isnt always about creating a family, so in this case may be a woman really just wants to experience a fancy wedding thing

now, it is only my humble opinion, so please dont kill me, anyone who disagrees