Explain marriage to me.

Whatchu need boyz fo?

 

Thats actually a very good question.

The answer is - I dunno.

 

You need them to make children.
Sad fact of life.

 

Marriage is great! I don't have to shave and he gets regular sex. Everyone wins!

 

i've been living with Dean for 2.5 years. we will probably get married because his mother and my father will be sad if we don't have an enormous wedding. i want my friends to all come and get drunk. also, my money combined with his credit will be a wonderful thing.

i dunno, i'm not concerned about the growing old with him factor because he is an extreme badass and he lets me be very free in every way imaginable. i love waking up next to him every day. i suppose we will be among the few left in america who don't get divorced. i'm definitely keeping my last name, though

 

?WHAT!?
Getting married because friends or family what a big party seems sooooo silly. Why do u have to have a wedding in order to have a party?

What does being married have to do with having regular sex and not having to shave if u don't want to?

 

I'll go apeshit if anyone gets drunk in my wedding, though all our friends know that already and we don't have any alcoholic uncles to worry about either. Seriously though, my wedding will definitely not be a party. It'll be a special day for us, I don't want people ruining it with drunken dramas and by vomiting everywhere. You can get drunk anytime, but NOT in my wedding.

 

I don't really care if people get married, I'm all for it, it's just not for me.
Luckily Brad agrees with me, we've both have our fair share of experiences with divorce, which is probably why neither of us want to.
We have a kid, we live together, we're really happy together and everything, it's just not our thing.

Although, you say you don't want to but you're pretty young and that will probably change and that's good, just don't do it for the wrong reasons.

 

Is this thread about weddings or marriage? You don't have to have a giant wedding to get married...I didn't. I got married in a house with about 20 guests.

Trying to explain marriage is kind of like trying to explain parenting, you just don't understand it until you have one of your own.

 

marriage is the nicest way possible to put someone in a chokehold for the rest of your life, which i fully intend to do someday

it used to be that people got married so they could fuck and not have to go to hell. or so their parents could get rid of them when they turned 13...

 

i've been married, and i wouldn't ever do it again. i think that while it's possible to love someone for a lifetime, that doesn't necessarily mean you're supposed to be together for a lifetime. i think relationships need more room for fluidity, in order for people to truly be happy. finding your own flow within the relationship and then going with that. for some, that means marriage... a committment for lifetime partnership, a big wedding, etc. etc. or a small wedding, or whatever other variations on traditional marriage. for i think the majority of people, something more flexible is what makes them happy. i think the majority of people unhappy in a marriage aren't unhappy with the relationship, their unhappy with the fact that they are forced, by societal standards, into a lifetime of committment based on the way they felt when they were 20-30 years old. fuck that.

 

The truth is that, for the most part, love is extinguished in attempts to elude its nature: which has to risk love again and again...Ponderousness is the price paid by impatience, by a search for security. - Georges Bataille

 

i think marriage would be lovely.

i dont think its necessary, but i also dont think its pointless.

and the legal benefits are a nice bonus, too.

 

i also dont think the wedding makes the marriage, personally.


i used to "not believe in it" but i dont know....i like the idea of being married.

i would like to get married someday, find a wonderful woman and make it work. and the older i get, the more i want to have some kids, too

 

Im sorry but to me that sounds extremely frivolous. I can understand wanting a ring as a symbol of love, a promise, whatever.
But an engagement ring as plan b in case things dont work out? That I dont get.

 

To me marriage is *just* a piece of paper and *sometimes* a great party with lots of presents.

I personally can give a commitment to someone without marriage, and marrying them will definitely NOT stop me from leaving (that's what divorces are for).

It's the *commitment* that counts.

 

What makes a commitment?

A serious conversation between two lovers?

 

Marriage is just a legal contract that ends in divorce 65% of the time..

I am engaged though, I have been with my girl for almost 5 years and she always wanted a ring so I bought her one.

It makes her happy to tell people she is engaged so it’s good.

But we made an agreement that we were just having a small non-formal ceremony one day with no legal bullshit.

 

a commitment is an understanding between two people that they want to make it last not because they have to for any reason, but because they want to.