Explain marriage to me.

yeah, i was perfectly content to not get married to dave. i never had a very positive attitude towards marriage, either. but it did make a difference that he asked and that we went through with it. we had a big wedding and it was awesome to celebrate it with friends and family.

 

We're not getting married legally, lol. We're going to be married in a ceremony, all the hooplah, preacher and stuff, and not get a marriage license. That way the government stays the hell out of our relationship. My dad is insanely against it. I love it because he raised me to make my own decisions.

 

I agree with what Kozmic said.

I don't want a big white wedding... we are getting married in my parents back yard with 80 close friends/ family present. Its something you want to share with those closest to you. Everyone is helping with the planning of the wedding as well.

Relationships are hard and I think that anyone who doesn't want to change you and wants to share the rest of your life with you... then why not?

 

right on, never thought of that before. =] thank you. lolz. =]

 

SCORE

 

I'm lucky because in Texas, common law is still counted, and we can just claim to be married and the law has to recognize us as so. But I enjoy my dad's health insurance right now. I don't ever use it, but it's nice knowing it's there, lol.

 

Marriage is about not being so spoiled you can share your life with someone else

 

Anyway, I want to get married. I definitely want to get married actually, I just think it'll be a fun experience and there's no point missing out on an oppurtunity to like, celebrate love and get presents and y'know, have fun.

 

We eloped...so we didn't get married for "the big white wedding".

We got married to make legal shit easier.For the papers.We lived together a few years before that.Plus, I had a really goofy last name ,and happily took his normal plain one.

 

Is Jai an English boy ?

 

Marriage can be a great thing, one of the greatest experiences you can ever have actually. But It's not that likely because as was mentioned before, most people rush into it and end up with the wrong mate. I'm not gonna say it never works, but it is rare these days. I want to get married, assuming the right person comes along and we can actually make it work.

 

marriage= 2 independent people who were doing their own thing, decide (for whatever reason) to commit to & depend on each other and share life's happy little road through life together.

divorce=when u no longer want to take the same road through life with the person u married.
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My mom's younger sister has been with the same guy for about 35 years...they have never had a wedding and say they don't need one....maybe their right cuz they are happier then most people with the paper.

 

I think of marriage as a big party that celebrates your love, people make more out of the legal side then they need too.

 

I wonder about marriage.
Firstly waking up with an old person is nauseatingly grotesquely hideous.
Secondly , divorce laws are idiotic if u marry with someone who's got less cash than you.
Thirdly , my parents marriage looks worse than the sentence Osama Bin Laden would get if he was caught.Why would I mimic hell on Earth?

Plus people can get very boring over a long time.

 

Bingo. But to each their own, I suppose.

 

Common law is where it's at, if you do decide to reside together. I think marriage takes away one's independence.

 

See marriage don't change, nothing but your name
Unless it's real love, through the sunshine and the rain
For better or for worse, girl this is not a game
See marriage don't change, nothing but your name

 

The more socially adjusted people are, the more celebration and ritual becomes important to them.

And loving someone makes you more socially adjusted. Especially as you reach middle age.

But I'm not an advocate of happy, loving, socially adaptive lifestyles. I think a life of loneliness, struggle, and suffering is just as good.

And we probably have less say in which way we'll go than we admit to ourselves. About 50%?

 

we got married in a cheesy but oh so funny chapel in Reno lol. So obviously it wasn't the big white wedding.
I didn't need a marraige certificate, but I needed an engagement ring before I would move to relocate for my husband. An insurance policy.
I needed to make sure he was serious enough and made a sacrifice too, if I was going to leave my family and hometown.
It was for both financial and emotional security. If he ever left me I could pawn my ring for a down payment on a car, first and last months rent on a place and moving expenses and enough to get me by until I found a job.
So for me, it was about both financial and emotionals ecurity.

 

also, it's a partnership. Men eventually want a home, dogs a wife, maybe some kids. They want someone to miss them and need them.
also, two incomes are nice. well...my husband was better off financialy before he met me, even though I do work, but we had to move, he's bought me a car this past year, we got two new pets, some new furniture a bed and stuff. before he got to save all of his money or buy cool lcd tv's and stuff.