Doesn't wash his hands after going to the bathroom?

That is true I think. I know I need to be alone right now and only compromise that if I find true love and become friends first. I was trying to become friends with him first and he was okay with that. I think I was just so smitten with a guy being okay with being just friends that I got blind sided and didn't look at his actual traits. He'll be a great friend and is a very kind (but unhygenic hah) guy so he'll find a foxy lady who wants more than friends.

he's 35 too and I forget that a lot when asking him to do things I like to do.

 

I'm a footer too...those handles man erghhhbahhhhh

 

The whole hand washing thing is totally illogical. I've never done it and never will. I shower. I think that's probably one of the cleanest areas of my body anywa, since it's always protected inside my pants. How many germs do you think there are on money, or store counters, or anything else? A whole fuckload more than there are on your dick. Of course, I don't touch anything in public bathrooms - flush with my foot. But still, it's pretty paranoid to wash your hands every time you take a piss. Sometimes I drink a lot of something and I'm taking a piss every ten minutes. Gonna wash my hands every time? No way.

 

My boyfriend doesn't wash his hands after going to the toilet. He showers every few days and rarely brush's his teeth too. Most people would find this extremely disgusting and i must admit every once in a while it gets to me so i tell him to have a shower and brush his teeth, besides that i'm fine with it. He doesn't smell or look dirty so it's not a big deal.

 

They still make women like you? I thought yall were extinct. Just kidding! How does it feel to have narrowed out 95% of available guys right off the bat?

 

Bella - more power to you. You seem to have a good grasp on what you want. I am sure you will find it when the time is right.

 

yeah...it's like a vintage chanel suit...never really goes out of style...never extinct, always recreating into a modern day classic.
Suprisingly guys don't care that much...I haven't had sex with anyone I have dated since septemberish. It's for my own betterment and growth. Someone needs to enter my soul before they can enter my body.

 

Having spent lots of time at Rainbow gatherings and whatnot, where you just go squat in the woods somewhere to pee, then drip dry, I've come to terms with the fact that, unless you have an infection, human urine is sterile.

I still think that anyone who doesn't wash their hands after using a public restroom is foul, nasty, gross. You touch anything in there, including the handle of the stall door, and you are picking up the germs from whoever was in there before you. Frankly, it's polite to wash, but not so gross if a guy uses a urinal in a bathroom that has no door and doesn't flush -- if all he touches is his own dick and he doesn't have herpes or genital warts, he should be fine. But women who go in an handle the stall door, then don't wash??? Ewwwwwww!

Having worked as a janitor in a mall (first job, man it sucked), I can tell you that the toilet seat is probably cleaner than the tp dispenser (so if you bump the plastic cover over those huge rolls, for example) or the stall door. After all, it gets sanitized far more than the stall walls, door, tp dispenser, or handle.

But, then, I do wash my hands after handling cash, after shaking hands with people I don't know, etc.

 

Oh, totally. I wasn't advocating not washing, merely pointing out that I've been there, done that in terms of the stuff that the person I quoted thought would make one not mind people not washing. If you're clean and all you did was pee, it's technically not likely to spread disease... Of course, that goes out the window if you haven't had a shower recently and your hand comes into contact with any part of your anatomy! But if you're, say, squatting in a shitty somewhere for a few days between gatherings, you may not be able to just go wash your hands whenever you may want to, and you get used to reduced standards in your personal sanitation. Though, when I volunteered at a day center for homeless people (warm place to stay when shelters are closed), most of them washed their hands before coming out of the bathroom, regardless of how long they were in there.

And that was totally my point. Not everyone who has gone off to "live in a muddy field for a few days" is going to equate the sanitary standards that may prevail there with what is acceptable in normal life (despite what one poster seems to expect people to do).

So, I agree with the OP -- I wouldn't date someone who doesn't wash his hands before exiting a public restroom, unless he was visibly using hand sanitizer. If a friend did that, I would be very wary of what they touched, especially if we were at a restaurant where they give you free bread in a communal bowl or something!

 

Frankly someone's washing habits does not affect how I feel about them personally.

 

well we had a really great time last night, but didn't kiss or anything so I think we are going to be very close platonic friends. I also heard him wash his hands
I think he thinks I am too young for him and he is also afraid of getting hurt, which is fine I respect that and think things are turning into a beautiful friendship.

 

exilent!!!, high five!!

 

thank you I am happy I can always use antoher good friend. I am annoyed though because I talked to my 'best friend' today and she said 'oh that's too bad he doesn't want to have sex with you' and she said it in this annoying innocent tone like she didn't know exactly what she was doing.

Please...I turned down sex with him our first date...she doesn't understand that not every male encounter doesn't have to end on their living room floor fucking.