Do you make yourself unlikeable?

The best way to deal with crazy is a restraining order - if they get that far along, nothing you can say will make any difference.

 

Why waste everyone's time when you know things are awry?

I have never had the slightest compunction about ending something that doesn't feel right. Maybe I'm lucky, but in the relationships I've had, the other person was always really cool about it, excepting two strange cases. You sit the person down, get a couple drinks, tokes in you, whatever makes you guys comfy, and make it a joint decision. Such as, "we both know this has been fun, but we're not going anywhere, right?" I've been lucky, maybe, but I've usually always ended up friends with the guy in question.

Time is precious, and goes by too quickly to meander all over the place once you've made up your mind. I've never been one to cry on someone's shoulder, like, "what do I do, this sucks", etc... Use logic. You're going to string someone along when you could them(and yourself) free to find someone who makes you indescribably happy? THAT is cruel.

 

I've already had that idea of waiting for the other person to find better and move on. But I've always just ended up saying what I really wanted, because I can't bear to be lying. I'd think it over for a few days and realize I had to talk and say what was bogging me.

On a positive note, I'm friends with all men with whom I had to break up. We just live all very far from each other, but whenever I visit, the reception is very warm and friendly. So, I think being honest is really the best way to let people know you may not feel about them the same way they feel about you, but you do respect them.

 

Yeah, being direct is my biggest desire. Direct can always be followed up with some reassurance or alternative or proposal or option that lessens the pain of truth. But mainly direct means a complete acceptance of sense of self, and that there is no fear showing who/what/why you are who you are.