Do you ever get the feeling

That most definitely doesn't make you terrible unless I am the face of evil and I'm not. You can have feelinwithout letting them control you. They are just feelings. Hey like to be acknowledge d
It helps to not judge yourself and think about why you feel the way you do and then let it go. Don't Triton force things one way or another. Don't try to pretend you don't feel what you feel. Just let it be.. its natural really for people to be attracted to people who are happy and couple because they represent a sense of hope.

 

You have had a bit of a rough patch lately and that tends to make us reflect a little on who we are and where we are going. That is not such a bad thing but it sure can send us into a bit of a spiral until we level out again and see that there is light at the end of the dismal tunnel.

You are in a place of transition and it will level out.

Then you will see the great person that we all do. Hang in there.

 

I think that is it really. I think I am more in love with his life than with him, he has everything that I've ever really wanted. A good relationship, a good job as a Park Ranger that pays well and he lives in my absolute favorite place in the world.

And thank you Heather, you are totally right about transitions. I just have to try to keep calm and carry on, as they say.

 

I meant coupled, but I think you know what I meant. I am on my computer now so there should be no more typos!

I can relate to that feeling, so I'm glad that hit home for you too.

 

no i don't, but i don't see why you would think i'm a terrible person either. other than maybe a couple posts years ago, but i think that's all well in the past by now.

 

After The End Of Your 6 1/2 Year Relationship You Could

Best Be Described As Being In A Spin, When You Are Spinning You Do Not......

.........Repeat......Do Not Attach Yourself To Anyone, Let Alone A

Married Man, Cause That Is Most Certainly Going To Cause A

Truckload Of Hurt For All Involved...



Cheers Glen.

 

Lol....you know I wasn't talking about you

 

There are no terrible persons. Just terrible opinions.

 

You are not a terrible person Antithesis. We all do what we do in any moment based on our past experiences and our coping skills in the present. We all have limited control over our feelings. We all do, feel and think things that we regret later. All we can do is live and learn...and forgive ourselves and others. Don't be so hard on yourself.

Just by being open and honest and posting this thread you are giving everyone the opportunity to reflect on their own lives, give advice and learn from others' advice.

 

Everytime I sit down and think about this I conclude that I'm not :biggrin: But yes, a lot of people think about themselves like that at some point in their lifes. It definately doesn't have to mean that you are.
If you are doubting feelings or decisions that you regard as dubious I already think you could be much more terrible than you think you might be!

 

no. because i don't believe there is such a thing. nor as a wonderfully good person.
we don't loose the option of choosing how we prefer to behave by how we may have previously acted.

guilt is only useful IF it prevents you from giving yourself things to feel guilty about.

in most adults that's a very big if indeed.

instead of feeling guilty, make the best, most honorable and most considerate choices of behavior that you can. and then understand that this is all that anyone can do.

whatever your patterns of behavior in the past, "today is the first day of the rest of your life". always.

 

Sometimes guilt from my past comes creeping in and I realize I am soooo not perfect and did somethings I shouldn't have. But you can't change the past, so let it go.....

 

people tell me I am a terrible person sometimes..hell, even I think I am a terrible person sometimes, but then I sit back and think, what was my intentions? where they good or bad? My intentions are usually good, so I then tell myself I am not a bad person..

but there are times when people piss me off, then, it is hard for me not to be a terrible person, to that person.

 

Not really anymore. I'd say I'm about an average decent human being...these days at least

 

Feelings don't make you a terrible person, it's how you decide to react to those feelings that determines that.

 

^ i agree 100% with that


and to answer the original question ..I am not a terrible person

 

Everybody has their issues, and their own reasons for doing what they do.