Do you believe in "the one"?

people waste time looking for the perfect love, instead of creating the perfect love--tom robbins

 

i would say that love is an entity ....that u cant create ...you can plant a seed ....you can nurture the seedling ect. .....but the seed is a sacred combination of protiens that you dont design or create !!

 

well a lot of seeds could potentially be 'the one'

 

i guess thats true ...... but if you select what bellpepper your gonna pick to dry up seed for next crop ....the obvious ones pop out at ya

 

I don't have anymore seeds. I've been fixed.

 

riley the dog gets fixed tuesday ....its outta my hands but i must say i have mixed emotions on the subject

 

i'd have to disagree with you, justin. love can be created. you cannot create or control love in other people, but within the self it can and should be created and crafted. to love is a decision that one must chose to make, although often that decision is made unconsciously. love is a process that requires attention, and a discipline that demands practice.

give my condolences to riley.

 

i believe we have more than just one. this is all larger than us and we are larger than our physical selves but we still have a part to play in this...in creating our reality and connecting with our soulmate(s). bring them into our reality. creating them into existance. a time when you realize all your fuck ups were for a reason.

ahhh. i'm not gonna try and articulate these thoughts any further...time for bed.

good posts makno

 

i did, then i didnt, then i met pablo, and now i do again
...and yea, i'm too tired to say much else

 

yes kitty one can enhance and refine their ability to love , as in loving all creation , especialy their advarcaries - enemies and themselves ....what i thought we were talkin bout is that heavy duty magnetism and stuff that just happens between people..... and i dont think its a thing you can create controle turn on or off ...like that kind of.. the one... stuff not love in general .... know what i mean ?

 

i have to get this off my chest before i go to bed....who decieded by butchering a perfectly fine animal we are "fixing" them.

i do see the purpose but i refuse to use this term...own up to whats going down...riley is perfect and tuesday will get broken.

i think you should all join me and refrain from using the term "fixed" in this way.

thank you.

 

thats very true ,hes going to be broken as it were ....anyway he my sisters dog and if it were up to me id rather see how his personality would develope with the testosterone thing ....i have stated my preferences and there is no reprieve in sight

 

pardon my cynicism, but more often than not even the heavy duty magnetism has more to do with sex than love. that attraction, or sometimes the attraction of friendship, can be cultivated and directed towards love by a couple who feels it, but the growing of love is a process. and yes, i believe in that sense it is created and requires making the decision to love, to practice loving. it most certainly does not "just happen".

most people don't do that, though. most people can't tell the difference between being in love and getting a really good fuck. moreover, love is something that they expect to "just happen". when conflict arises - and conflict is necessary because it clears the clogs, and helps to maintain movement, so to speak - they often believe that they no longer love, or that their love is being injured or attacked. many people are not aware of love, they don't pay attention to it or take care to maintain it, much in the same way they do not fix their motorcycles or their plumbing or their lifestyle habits. love is mindful, and relationships require mindfulness. it is the mistaking of attraction for love & the expectation that love "just happens" that causes so many marriages to fail. including mine.

attraction may not be so predictable & controlable. the love is. you may not be able to shape that love relationship according to the kind of attraction you want - you can't get a rose off a rhododendron - but the ability to love is always within your power. one of my best friends is an ex-boyfriend. we dated for two years, but that love grew away from romantic partnership, and into friendship.

when speaking of "controlling" love, you also take into consideration that there is "control" and there is self-control. and by this i do not mean restriction. there is the control of trying to force one's will on people and situations, and there is the self-control of being able to move with the process. i have a friend who is taoist, and had some interesting things to say about japanese gardening. and that is the kind of "control" i am talking about.

as a pagan, i practice a sort of witchcraft. this does not mean that i believe i can light a red candle and stick pins in a felt doll and change the way people and events behave against the flow of the process of life. but people ask me for love spells. the desire for love spells comes out of the confusion over love and attraction, and the desire to exercise the wrong kind of control. a "spell" cast to make someone love you will never work, because it confuses attraction and love tries to force one's will against the process, the flow of things. but you can increase and improve your ability to love, and nurture loving energies in your life. you can move with the flow of the process in a loving direction.

 

neo, you are The One...

 

Ofcourse it is bullshit, people just romanticize love.

 

For some there is one love. For others there are multiple loves at different stages of development. For others there is no love. And for the majority of us there is just mediocrity that helps pay the bills.

 

mediocrity that helps pay the bills. thats funny shit. funny, but incredibly true.