Do I have something written on my head that says 'don’t date me'?

Hey chinaman: You can't be serious. The lack of male bonding is what is wrong with so many guys out there. It has nothing to do with sexuality.

 

The sexuality bit was slightly tongue in cheek, but the rest was serious. An excess of male bonding prevents men from growing up & keeps them in a state of emotionally stunted protracted adolescence.

 

No it does NOT!!!!!!!! There is no such thing as excessive male bonding. Where did you get that garbage statement? Some feminist. Seriously dude: Read More, Post Less, you have a lot to learn and apparently a lot to unlearn.

 

I for one am in a state of mentally stunted protracted adolescence due (at least in part) to not enough male bonding.

 

hahahahaha wish i could rep this!

 

You chat shit mate - And no amount of capital letters and exclaimation marks can ameliorate for that. Also, please don't presume to patronise me by making assumptions about what I have or have not learned.

I'm guessing you're an American, and if I'm correct then your cluelessness is only partially your fault - Didn't James Baldwin say something about the virtual impossibility of the American male growing up to be a man? I'm fairly sure he did.

Btw, addressing your male brethren as "dude" is, without doubt, indicitive of the very immaturity to which I referred in my previous post.

 

Like I said, a lot to learn and a lot to unlearn. James Baldwin was referring to the excess amount of young boys being raised by single women and how a woman cannot teach a boy to be a man.

 

To the OP: a good life rule is don't take advice from people who read books about meeting women. If they were any good at it, they wouldn't be reading other peoples' bullshit about it.

 

Repeating yourself won't give your nonsense any more credibility.

And you know as well as I do that wasn't what Baldwin was talking about at all. Anyway, a boy doesn't learn to be a man, he simply grows into manhood and (hopefully) learns what he needs to from the lessons life teaches us all.

 

This is good advice for sure.

 

Sitka: That book is not about meeting women. Nor is it a pickup book. It is about being a male adult, written for guys who were raised by single mothers and have a hard time with people walking all over them. It's how to be assertive without being an asshole. How to pay attention to your needs as well as others needs without sacrificing either. A good rule of life for Sitka would be to not comment on something you are completely unfamiliar with.

 

And he tries to impose ludicrous "rules of life" on others. Oh dear.

And he has to read books to learn how to be a man. Oh dear oh dear.

 

Really? I would have guessed it was about being an online pseudo-intellectual with no social skills.

Self-help books are for people who suck at life. If you need to read about being a man go read Hemingway.

 

Thank you for your time guys. I will use your posts as examples to guys what they should not do.

 

If you are acting desperate, women will not date you. And by the looks of your post, you are desperate.

Give yourself some time. If a date doesn't happen the first time, don't push the issue...just let the right woman come to you.

 

I'm sure men come up to you regularly asking how they can be as great of a man as you are. Maybe you should write a self-help book, you pretentious jackass.

 

you're probably just going for the wrong girls.

 

Hemingways a ****

 

I thing I knw is that u dnt take advice from women on how to pick up chicks. I mean how many women have u picked up? Women are usuaally not the chooser but chosen.

Real talk baby boo......

 

Yeah am sure its "them"...