divorce

If you're truly unhappy, and you really feel that there is no reconciliation between the two of you, you have to do what you feel in your heart is best, and if leaving him is going to make your life a better and more positive one, then you need to do it.

The sad thing is, in this day of age, so many divorces happen. I feel that many times, not all mind you, that couples are too eager to throw in the towel before really trying to work matters out. In marriage, or any relationship, you are bound to have your good times and your bad. What really makes or breaks a relationship is how the two of you cope with those not-so-good times.

Of course there are situations in which all that can be done to salvage the relationship have failed. There are times when a break must be made because the relationship is a destructive one, harmful physically/and/or emotionally.

And wizarddrew77 had a very excellent point. As someone who came from a divorced home and was told that they reason they stuck it out for as long as they did was for my sister and I, well, that's a whole lot of guilt to lay upon a child's shoulders.

I also agree that if you haven't sought the help of a professional counselor trained in couples' therapy that you really need to look into it. It really might change things for the better.

Good luck, and many hugs...

 

i was so fed up with my ex-husband and his bullshit videogame-drug addictions when we got divorced that it didnt affect me much. I got over him long before I decided to divorce him, I think the only reason I stayed with him is because I "hoped things wold change and hoped he wold learn to be a father" HAHA I was sooooooooooooo wrong. What hurt me the most was I constantly took care of him even thought he never appreciated me. Obsessive compulsively doing things for someone who doesnt care catches up with you eventually and it made me feel like a complete dumbass.......................


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I thought you'd marry me, but you went with a younger man.

 

I got married when I was 17...I was trying to do the "right thing"
but it only lead to the ruin of a great friendship.....we had been together for two years living together for one and then I got pregnant and we decided it was the thing to do .....he changed immensely after I had my lil angel...he turned psycho no exaggeration there...he would start hitting me if I didn't wake up and sweep the floor at 7 in the morning...he would take my lil girl and lock her in a room and beat me for trying to get to her....there is soo much that happened I wish I could just forget it all...at the end I am not sure where I got the strength to leave but for my daughters sake I just had to...we were only together for a year after we got married but I wasn't able to get a divorce until 3 years later...all I have to say is that I feel for anybody who has to go thru a divorce

 

Geez, I'm so sorry come do drawrings. I couldn't even begin to imagine how that was for you. It's stories like yours that make me feel pretty damn fortunate.

Hugs...

 

nope never been married to need a divorce..... I like to keep things simple.

 

thanks it wasn't a good experiance but there must be some reason why it all happened...so I try not to get all depressed about it...which isn't too hard cause I am just really relieved that Alex doesn't seem to remember all the crappy crap that happened...but I went and did it again (got married) and as far as I can tell...I should just stay single

 

Well I'm glad to hear that things are better for you and your daughter.

 

i never thought i would get married but then i found him...and i loved him soooo much i've been married over 3 years now...and weve finally decided to call it quits...not a divorce quite yet but a seperation. I will always love him he is my best friend...but things just didnt work out. I am glad that we have been open about it and hopefully when its all over we can still be friends. But it really sucks when you sit back and realize that its all over...i almost want to cry right now. i never once regret getting married it was an awesome time in my life. But some things have to end no matter how good or bad...by the way my husband posts here also and i bet alot of you know him...lodog...hes a cool kat.