Did I miss out?

i say go with jack, mike sounds like a dickhead, and "the love of you life" sounds kinda playerish.

 

Um, keep yourself free. If this guy showing interest is cool, follow it up. Otherwise move on. I would not, under any circumstances, trust that guy that says "maybe, we'll see, depends what my other girlfriend thinks..."


Not to be insulting, but that kind of guy isn't to be trusted or relied upon even if he does chose you over his other girlfriend. Seriously, consider the charcter he has displayed so far and don't trust him any further than his actions imply.

 

sounds to me like you have shit taste in men (ALWAYS)

 

I guess it would seem that way if you are attempting to judge my life based on one thread about one situation

I really don't expect you to get it anyway

 

judge what your HEART is saying

 

missf, i'm thinking that none of your options sound good enough for you. one's a horn dog sleaze. maybe you can tame him a bit, polish him up, maybe not. he sounds kinda disrespectful. he may be good for a few fucks, but beyond that, i think you need more.

the one who's not digging you, well, there's no chemistry, at least not for him. your deisre to get laid may be blinding you to his emotional unavailability. it wouldn't work out.

as for september man, NEVER waste your time on someone who hasn't told his woman he's leaving her and has already severed the relationship. you deserve to be #1. dont' let loneliness make you accept anything less than what you deserve.

it totally sucks being lonely, i'm real sorry you feel that way. but one thing i learned from personal experience is that the moment you stop chasing love, it walks right up to you. good luck. i'll keep you in my prayers.

 

actually he has tried to get my attention politely for a while. If he hadn't been drinking, he would have just told me how cute I looked and asked if I had boyfriend. He was so drunk that when I left he was passed out in the hallway. I talked to him yesterday and he didn't remember anything about the other night but me. (he doesn't even remember slap-boxing half the night) He not a bad guy, just not a intellectual as everybody else.

yeah, well he was a "I'm bored, who could I seduce?" type-thing. I'm not even hurt by him not being interested as he was a game. Wrong, I know but hey, I do some fucked up stuff to entertain myself. He was also the only that I thought would be able to keep it to hisself if I broke him off. My true interest in him was about 30%, the rest was about the above reasons.

he is in a whole other league. The love of my life since I was in 8th grade. Every man gets compared to him. We have two kids together and I have more fun doing nothing with him than I do at a amusement park with any other man. We have history. And I'm the one holding us up, he wants to jump in, be together totally. I feel like I need to see how he acts when he gets home. If I told him that I love him and wanna be with him, he would do it. But I've told him not to tell her anything because I'm not sure about us. If he tells her about me, she's gonna be shitty about his kids. Why do that when I'm not sure that am gonna be with him? He and I are bigger than that.

In a nutshell, I love him but there are things I won't except. He was doing those things when he went in. So I hope that he has changed, if not I will move on but I gotta DEAL with it, with him. Its basically unfinished business. And truthfully, she was his girlfriend when he went in. Our story is too long and twisted to tell. Just know that it is I that won't commit to him. He wants to get married.

thanks for the love, but really if I was that bad off, I could fuck and pretend to like a few guys that are actively pursuing me. I'm trying to find a little excitement, some fun, something new. If things go my way, I won't be single long after my kids' father comes home. I'm not chasing love, but fun, sex, and the little adrenaline rush that comes with them. But thanks so much for your post. I appreciate your opinion, mainly because I know its honest and out of concern for me



But really....I'm no angel

 

ah, well, *blush*, i just think you're great and deserve great things. you know far better than i what your friends are like. if the first boy is really as nice as you say, i'd consider spending time with him. sharing children with the last one, well, sheesh. that's a huge deal. i wouldn't even know how to deal with that, considering the kids and all. i know when i was little, i wanted nothing more than for my parents to be back together, even though i didn't understand tha hardships of the relationship.

good luck, things are always so complicated. me, i'd hole up in the ground and wait it out with my vibrators and stash of batteries.

 

I would wait until you see Jack around and flirt back and see what he does. Mike sounds like kind of a jerk I would stick to the nice guy and just set boundaries if he's a little too into pda.