Dealing with Ugly Chicks?

I totally read your post. It was all about how ugly and fat she is... and then at the very end you said you wanted to get rid of her without hurting her feelings. Your entire post read like you didn't care 2 bits about her feelings, because if she had read your post she would have wanted to die.

All you seem to care about it OUTWARD appearance... you are a 5, she is below you, her leg is fat... she could be a really sweet girl, but you wouldn't know because you can't see past her looks. All you see is what is wrong with her, you can't see anything that is right. And thats totally fine, It just seems a bit shallow. Don't try and pass it off like you REALLY CARE about her feelings when all you see her is as some fat crazy chick who is really much below you.

 

but your whole point was that you don't want to talk to ugly chicks and even though you're talking the most shit i have ever heard talked about a stranger you still want to "spare her feelings" (i mean, usually that much shittalk is about somebody you'd have a past with, and not a classmate you just met and barely know)

what's the definition of nice anyway?

i'm hormonal today and the shit has hit the fan tonight for me, so some of this is me venting other frustrations, but i still think you need to look inside yourself and try to figure out what kind of man you want to be. if being nice is that important, you have to find it from inside... caring about other ppl, and not how you appear to them.

 

uh you meant how they appear to me. And whoever said the thing about I'm obviosly njot looking at anyone else in the class: Your dam right. Unlike some people I'm not a skirt-chaser. I don't live to get laid. WHen it happens cool, when it doesn't happen, I could always hackysack with my dudes, or play guitar, or drive or listen to Hendrix. I just do it with a girl when it feels right. And I don't think I conveyed the situation correctly. If the girl just wanted to be my freind, that would be cool, but her body language suggests that she wants to screw me. Yer being very insenitive. If some ugly dude walked up to you and started hitting on you, my guess is youd kick him in the nuts and call 9-11. So why dont ya practice what you preach. K?

 

i APPRECIATE YOU ALL STANDING UP FOR MY CIVIL LIBERTIES AGAINST SEXUAL HARRASSMENT.

 

sounds like we need to get tony robbins over here.....

 

What do you mean by ugly? Because it's obvious we don't agree on what makes a person ugly.

My grandfather was 500 pounds when he died. He had 8 teeth left in his head. And guess what? He was one of the most beautiful people I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. You would probably found him ugly, but his soul was the picture of loving goodness.

You see beauty as being physical... a lot of others see it as being more than that. Someone can be very physically attractive, but if their soul isn't just as attractive then they really aren't beautiful.

 

You know they say beauty is only skin deep but ugly goes to the bone and I know this to be true, I saw my own xrays, lol

 

Wow. These are such novel thoughts. I don't think I've ever heard this philosophy before. *sarcasm* U all dont get it. Im talking about this girl wants to fuck me. Its my right nto to fuck somebody I don't wanty to fuck. Have u ever seen the movie "disclosure"? there, I flipped it on u! Or forgive me. If you the teapriestess just go around having intercourse with people that you don't know, and have HOMELY faces, and have about 84 IQs, and suffer multiple psych disorders, than right on teaprietest. Thats a really ethical and fun way to live. *sighs* pathetic. I would actually BEFREIND a leopor, but I only HAVE SEX with girls that have pretty faces. but i think u should go on with wat yer doing preistest.

 

I never once mentioned sex. I never said you had to have sex with her. Asking you out isn't FORCING you to have sex with her. You can have sex with anyone you want to have sex with... as long as they have pretty faces. (a pretty face is top criteria on your list of requirements someone has to have in order for you to sleep them, you listed it before intellgence and sanity, the the idea of beauty being more than skin deep might just be one you want to spend more time looking into)

All I was saying is that there is often more to people that what is obvious from the outside.

I've never seen the movie "Disclosure", but I did look up its plot outline, just for you. Basically, it's about sexual harassment? It hasn't seemed to me, from what you have written, that she is sexually harassing you... she just, for some reason, thinks you are a nice guy and wants to go out with you sometime. Better sue her ass for wanting to get to know you! I've been sexual harassed...its a hell of a lot less pleasant than what you are decribing!

Don't date her... please don't date her. Never said you had to date her. Just said that you are placing too much emphasis on outward appearance.

 

I dont think that he is, if she wants to fuck him, he has to find her sexually attractive and physical appearance is a huge part of that attraction for him (as it is with most guys). As it is he doesnt find her attractive and so the situation becomes awkward because she wont drop it. He even said he didnt have a problem being friends with her, if that is what she was driving at but it isnt.

 

yes this thread is just a great guy worried how not to hurt anothers feelings when he wants her to leave him alone.

 

Get off the band wagon YankNBurn, So the guy doesnt think much of her, maybe she has no personality maybe not, why do we care? all he wants to know is how to get an unattractive girl to stop pursing a romantic relationship with him, without hurting her feelings! is that so wrong? does it really matter if he thinks much of the girl in question... just because some one is ugly on the outside doesnt mean they are pretty on the inside.

 

wow, that's a hell of a description up there...

 

No that doesnt change when you get older, they're just giving him a hard time because he isnt trying to get to know her personality regardless of the fact she is annoying him.

 

Your totally right, actually she is paying me good money to change his mind about a date with her.

 

You are right... just because someone is unattractive on the outside doesn't make them attractive on the inside....

but he never mentions her personality... just her outward appearance.

If he wants to get a girl to stop persuing him romantically without hurting her feelings, what does her appearance have to do with it? Is she less human because she is fat? Why do her looks have anything to do with it? IT DOESN'T, or at least, shouldn't.

If he had just said that there was a girl at school who was interested in him, but he wasn't interested back, and that he would like to find a way to communicate this to her without hurting her feelings, the response he would have gotten would have been very different.

 

lmao!

 

Jeez, and I don't even get ugly girls hitting on me...

 

Thats your choice, he could have worded it more politely i would have, but it doesnt mean you should expect that of people, you could have read the same thing he wrote and still given good advice.

I just wouldn't criticize this guy for being so tactless, it just seems like he is venting some frustration with a social situation he doesnt know how to handle

 

It was never my intent to be harsh with him. I only hoped to open his eyes and heart to the true beauty of the world and its people. I did my best not to be attacking or offensive.... even when personally attacked by him. If I did attack him verbally in any way, I apologize for doing so.

I know he doesn't know how to handle the situation... he is handling and relating his true issues with the situation badly. But, unless this is pointed out to him, how can he be expected to understand and grow as an individual? And isn't that some of what life is about?

(wow... that sounds really, really cheesy doesn't it? Just call me Edam from now on)