Cyber Sex: Is It Cheating?

yes because for that moment you have that sexual connection with someone else.

 

how can having a sexual relationship behind your loves back not be cheating?
I dont care what kind of relationship you are in, if there hasnt been some kind of agreement thats its ok then its not.

 

No, it's not. Fookers!

So get off your puritan horses and go get laid for the first time.

If some chick breaks up with me for CYBER SEX, she can suck my balls. I don't need an insecure bitch.

 

IMO, if you're in a relationship type deal where your partner makes it very clear they're jealous and doesn't want you doing so then I would consider that cheating, in the aspect it's not being very loyal.. If your partner doesn't want you doing it while he secretively is (assuming you find out), then by all means go at it like wild animals..

Double standards.

 

i dont think it is if u dont kno the person ur doin it with.....

 

you sure it would be because she's insecure she dumps ya, or could it be you were completly inconsiderate of her feelings
how about you give me your wifes mesenger name and I get all cozy with her.
or is it not ok with you if me and her make love,
I can learn all sorts of usefull things about her, what turns her on, what dosnt, im sure we would become the best of freinds, she can tell me all about her relationship with you, give me all sorts of usefull info, who knows maybe i can find out things you havent yet. become her favorite fantasy untill she just has to know if it will be that good in person
is that cool with you

 

I don't care if you and Bride cyber ALL DAY LONG. We are completely secure in our relationship. Shit, you don't even know the half of it.

Your slippery slope scenario may work on a lesser and more insecure female with a bad relationship, but not here.

If you want her IM handle, go ask her yourself. She's an adult. We share everything. No secrets. She puts up with me and my perverted nature because she is secure that I ain't goin' anywhere, baby.

We both like to fool around and have a little fun, but we know where our bread is buttered. :sunglasse


CYBER SEX is not placing your cock in a girl. You cannot get a DISEASE or PREGNANT from it.

So, people need to get over PURITAN "ETHICS" and get secure.

 

ya see, your not cheating, she knows and you know so you each have some measure of control over the situation.
so of course thats not cheating. I had a girlfreind who realy liked to watch and would bring me home a treat sometimes. however if i went and chose my own without her knowledge i would fear for my safety while i slept

 

Inconsiderate isn't cheating. Why mix and shuffle your lexicon? Now, is cyber-sex inconsiderate? Well, that would depend on what the groundrules are for that particular relationship. I could give a hoot about it, tell ya the truth...

 

CYBER SEX is not placing your cock in a girl's pussy or ass. You are not even making ANY physical contact at all. No "emotional" connection.

Just a fun, verbal masturbatory fantasy!

You cannot get a DISEASE or PREGNANT from it.

It's the SAFEST SEX of all!!!

 

I would agree.

 

Libertine makes a good point when he says that it's "safe" sex and there are no physical risks with it. But on the other hand that's not really the issue here. The issue is about cheating, and in my opinion, cheating is 100% a mental thing, not a physical thing.

If I were married I think I could do almost anything to another woman's body without cheating in my mind. Cheating is about betraying the relationship. Unfortunately, there is no 'black or white' definition for what that betrayal entails, it can only be based on the individual relationship.

Some people don't like their partner having ANY relationships with people of the opposite sex! (Quite severe!)

At the other end of the scale, it sounds like Libertine and his girlfriend are in a relationship where they're ok with cybering and that sort of thing. Bu tas long as they both know about it, and are happy with it, then it's not a betrayal of trust and it's not cheating.

For many people, though, that would be cheating. I think most people wouldn't like the idea of their boyfriend/girlfriend sharing sexual pleasure with other people.

Ultimately, words like 'cheating' are irrelevant because all that matters is the two people in the relationship. If they are happy with cybering, then that's fine. If they're both happy to live in isolation and not talk to people of the opposite sex, that's fine.

But I think most people are somewhere inbetween.

 

If you tell your lover(s) you won't have cyber sex, and you do it, it's cheating Otherwise, No.

 

It's controlled coming from your POV. Or, you two are able to see to it that it stays that way. That's great. I'm glad it works for you two.

In my marriage (now over) I was cybering with someone from Canada behind his back. We are still friends now. There is a very real emotional connection between us, at one point we used the words 'brain fucking' to describe it. We both dissolved into hysterical laughter on that. It was true, though. We were even considering my making the move up to Victoria BC.
I used to screw my ex just so he'd go to bed, so I could talk to my online lover. (<- guilty )
He was hiding porn from me,(he was aloud to have it, just not lie about it) & neglecting me for it. No foreplay, ever.

My current SO is very aware of that. He has spoken to my friend on the telephone, & things have changed tune a lot.

There was very definetly emotional attachment for us both though. There still is, it's just grown and changed into something else.

I guess it's different for everyone.

 

Your lack of control in anything that you CAN control is your own fault.

So insecurity + lack of control = BAD

 

Yes, I was naughty.

 

Guess I'll have to place you on the naughty stool.

 

Needs a good spanking.

 

just do it together with your SO, problem solved.

 

You're insecure if you need to control your partner by not letting them have cyber sex.