[edit] You may not yet be aware of me but I regularly discussed any bodily and sexual issues with several platonic female friends. It's a thing I enjoy. They enjoyed too because they never had a guy they could ask anything of. So, as you read through my post, it may help you to know that I am open-minded, pragmatic and keen to help women who want to know stuff that they feel unable to ask anyone else. Frequently when I am being examined by the doctor, I will ask questions on behalf of a few women who feel unable to discuss their issues with anyone else. I hope this post may help you. [/edit] I'd love to hear back that you have been able to 'separate' sex from health and ask a friend if she has noticed any changes to her body over the past few years. For example, ask her whether her breasts or nipples or labia or clitoris have changed or whether she is as moist as she always has been because you are a bit concerned that there may be something wrong with you. Will she look at you to see what you mean or will she let you explore her to compare? Let her or ask her to look at you to see if she notices anything unusual or potentially wrong. Compare each others breasts, nipples, labia and clitorises. Perhaps ask her if you can compare your moistness against hers and if she is agreeable, insert a finger and stroke the front wall of her vagina. I've known a few women over the years who mentioned to me of similar conversations they had with a friend when in their late 40s and early 50s. They did explore each other whilst it started out as a medical conversation, it became more than just that. Now, today, some 10 yrs later, they still check each other out and have learned together how best to masturbate, use a toy and, indeed, together, they selected a range of toys which they used on each other. It's not a lesbian thing for either of them! It's more like an alternative way to monitor changes to their bodies but, also, they described the enjoyment of a whole new range of sensations, stimulation and very different orgasms from when with their man or when masturbating alone. This might come across like an opportunistic request but no matter; If you can't have such a conversation with a friend, and you don't feel able to discuss it with your doctor, you may wish to consider this.... You may send me a photo of your labia and erect clitoris. Nothing more so as not to reveal too much about your body. (Though I do love to look at a naked female). If you send that to me by DM here, I will ask one of my female friends what they think or what they may suggest. Sadly, distance means it likely won't result in the sexual experience you'd like but, it may reassure you that your body is fine, absolutely normal, and that you have no need to worry. It may also encourage you, from having new knowledge, that a lot of women explore their friends body for both medical and sexual reasons. I think you're normal and what you dream of is normal too. hth Bazz.
