Butter's Girl Issues...Again...The Sequel!!!

pull her aside. start talking to her again. tell her you think you like her and you liked talking to her and you just can't keep it in anymore you had to let her know how you feel.

Butters, everytime you come back with the same thing. "i dont know when is a good time" any time is a good time man.

I will now refuse to respond to this thread until you tell her.

 

Butters had better be careful, he might get hurt.


BECAUSE SHE'S THROWING HERSELF AT YOU!

if you don't hurry up and get your shit together, you're gonna get knocked over!

no more of this "oh, i don't know what to do...i refuse to see the blatantly obvious..."

it's not like you gotta go all shakespear love sonnet on her, all you gotta do is ask the girl out! Heck, i even wrote you a script a couple posts ago.

you don't get on the ball, you're going to confuse her...and nobody wins. DO IT!

yogi....i sense a road trip coming.....


/hey...where's my shrubbery?

 

i must say in butters defense...lots of times, even though it is obvious to other if a girl is thrwig herself at someone...they may not see it, but everyone else does...

 

Okay, one simple question then. How do you guys know that she wants me. I mean, how can YOU tell the difference from just her trying to be nice, ad thinking I'm a friend. I mean, there really hasn't been any physical contact at all or anything, or any sure signs for me, so how are you all so sure? Just wondering here... :&

 

you don't know.
we don't know.
the only person that can truely 100% know is HER!

Logically then, you must ask her how she feels.
Man this is so simple -- yet so paralyzingly frightening as well.

She puts her undies on the same way you do buddy. She has confusions and questions about life, as well as passions, and dreams too.

We are all people, so all this hype over communicating with someone is really your own self defeating patterns.

Don't make me start to quote the original butters girl issues thread, cuz all im seeing is more of the same.

Just get your guts up and tell her. who cares if she likes you. just tell her you like her. then you did your part. trust me on this, its just simple communication --

BUTTERS!

TRUST US.
CALL HER RIGHT NOW AND TELL HER!

WHO CARES THAT ITS 12:00 at NIGHT! THATS ROMANTIC! YOU JUST CAN"T WAIT Any longer!!!!

 

Your going to college and your a pretty well educated guy right?

well imagine if you had an electric circuit, and the positive side was HIDING that it was positive, pretending to be neutral. Now imagine that the negative side was HIDING that it was negative, pretending to be neutral.

You wouldn't have any electricity would you?

Humans are just about the only things on this planet that try to hide what they are, which is why we cause so much fear and confusion in our lives.

Stop being nuetral, tell her your positive. . . .

AND LET THE SPARKS FLY!
*pun intended*

 

Hahaha, very very well put Yogi. I would never have thought of it that way, but its actually a very good point. Well, every point you guys make are good points, and I'm the stupid one not listening. Here's the thing. I've known her for a long while now, and I've liked some girls before yea, I've said "this is the one" so many times. But this is different. This is...I don't know. I'm so scared because, I'm not afraid of asking, I'm afraid of being rejected. I've grown so emotionally attached to her that she's all that seems to occupy my mind. Daily, nightly, its always her I see. So...I'm afraid that she'll say no, and that's it. It will all be gone. I have never in my life met a girl as perfect as her, she is seriously EVERYTHING I could dream of. That's why I'm so afraid. I'm scared that if I mess one little thing up, every hope I have had is thrown out the window for good. It sounds creepy, like I'm some wierd stalker, but I assure you I'm quite a normal, nice guy. Its just, I've never felt this way before. Its mind-boggling to me, words cannot begin to comprehend what goes through my head now. So many crappy things have happened to me in my life, I mean REALLY crappy things. And it just seems that very few good things ever seem to happen to me. I'm the one prone to bad luck, always. I've just wished and hoped that maybe someday, something will finally go my way. But, I'm too damn afraid to take the risk for those good things to ever happen. I don't know. I know I sound like some whiny little turd, and I'm sorry. Please don't take it that way. I'm just an incredably lonely 18 year old whose due for, well, something good to finally happen, and who is emphatuated with a girl who he thinks is perfect in every way, shape, and form. I'm sorry if I sound stupid and pathetic to you guys. I'm just so afraid...to me, there is alot riding on what I choose to do here, and that scares me to no end. But if I wait, and miss out, then once again, I have no one to blame except myself. I just don't know what I should do.

 

aight, I definitly know where you're coming from. you're petrified of the idea of just telling her that you like her. you better belive, i understand how that goes.

I'm tellin you, it sounds like what you got now, is a nice 'friends' relationship. and, it sure seems like she'd be willing to have that a bit more. but shes just like you, she's not going to volunteer that she likes you, she's got the same problem.

I stick by my original plan for ya. Ask that girl out to dinner. as, that's something friends can do. And, if that's all she see's this as, she'll say sure, and you'll have fun, and that's that. BUT, we all know, dinner=date if thats what it's gonna be. She'll see that as a 'first move' on your part.

Lucky for you, that's a fairly risk-free first move.

I borrowed this list from a dating site:

How To Tell If She Likes You:

She gazes in your eyes with deep interest while her pupils are dilated.
She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.
She laughs in unison with you then says she loves you so very much.
Her skin tone becomes red while being around you, then she says, I never loved anyone like this before.
Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you. If it's not rocking toward you, move in front of it, and then she likes you.
Biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, licking her lips, or touching of her front teeth with a fingernail and tongue at the same time.
Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing, with a relaxed face.
She breathes in through her nose and out through her mouth.
She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm. Eyebrows raised and then lowered, then two quick smiles, indicates interest in you.
She rests an elbow in the palm of one hand toward you, and holding out that hand, palm up, while waving with the other hand toward you.
In crowds she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention on you only at all times.
While walking, she blinks more than usual, and staggers.


i'm tellin you, ask this girl out to dinner, and do it a few days in advance. you got no risk here. if she's diggin on ya [and i say she is.] that'd be a good way to find out.

if we're all wrong, no big deal. you took a friend out to dinner. nothing wrong with that.

 

in my defence, i never said she did...

 

A man named butters travels a path.

There is a fork in the road.

Will he take the fork that loops back to the beginning of the path?
or will he take the path less traveled.

Sure, some have been this path before him, but it is dangerous terrain.

Which path will Butters take?

 

Hey guys. I really appreciated all of your help. I really did, thanks alot. But, everything just flew out the window today in about 5 minutes when my best friend told me that some jerk-off on my dorm's floor told the girl something, god knows what, about what I think of her. She then brought this all to his attention last night, and told him that she hoped she never gave me the wrong impression, but she was never thinking of me as anything more than a friend, and wants nothing to do with a relationship, I think with anyone at all. So, I get to hear the lovely words of me being rejected for the um-teenth time here at school, without me ever even expressing how I feel. Its all my faut, it always is and always will be. But this time, I let the most perfect girl I have ever, or will ever meet, get away. So...I'll always been lonely and depressed it seems. She was perfect though...god she is an amazing girl. Well...I guess you guys never have to hear my crap anymore. Right about now, I don't really care about anyone or anything. This is just more shit to add to the pile that is my life.

 

"she was never thinking of me as anything more than a friend, and wants nothing to do with a relationship, I think with anyone at all."
--What that means, is that she's not lookin for anything serious right NOW. heck, for college that's the norm. it's rare to find somebody who does want a serious relationship.


All is not lost my man. if you do really thing this girl is the perfect one, then hang out with her as much as possible. famalirity is usually directly related to romantic interest. meaning, the more of you she sees, the more chance there is for her to develop that romantic interest.

Of course, you might just not be her type. I don't want to lead ya on with fairy tales, so keep that eye out for others. She might just be the best you've met so far...there's a lot of fish in that sea.

 

Everything happens for a reason.

Life will teach you a lesson over and over again until you learn it.

What can you learn from this experience?

 

She then brought this all to his attention last night, and told him that she hoped she never gave me the wrong impression, but she was never thinking of me as anything more than a friend, and wants nothing to do with a relationship, I think with anyone at all.


What I've just sweated all through this thread and nothing happens I've read the rest of your posts in this thread an if nothing else you have the basis for a good friendship in your hands....ask her out to dinner, or to the movies as a friend.....you need to practice talking to girls and being at ease with them. It sounds like she is a bit uncertain around the opposite sex as well....so maybe this time it's not the big romance, but I wouldn't give up yet.....she may not be looking for a relationship in her life at the moment, but sometimes things happen ....oh and next time don't tell a best friend, tell the person you are interested in that you like them directly, things always get distorted when you have a middle man in relationships. You can of course tell us on Hip Forums....but next time you are going to have to get a mighty big shrubbery planted there's going to be a lot of us behind it cheering you on!

 

Nothing new everybody. Just adding some moe explanations to what happened. It turns out she had this "feeling" that I liked her, and wanted to ask her out (no, really?!) and then when this guy said whatever he siad, it basically added to her suspicions and she kind of got scared. She apperantly wants no relationship of any kind now at all, and I have no idea for how long that will last. But, I've avoided her at all costs now. I have no idea if this is what I should do or not, but that's what I've done so far. I haven't seen her in over a week now. It has me extremely beat-up inside, as I was basically to the point of in love with her. I feel awful, but I guess it makes me feel better that I personally was not rejected, she just doesn't want anything at all now. What should I do then? Give her space and avoid her, or act like nothing has happened and keep being nice to her and all? I don't know...I'm just so crazy about her, it would be so awkward to be near her now. I just wish something good would finally happen in my life.

 

If you want to be her friend:

"Hey I heard that so and so told you that I had a crush on you. . . yeah its true, i know your not into a relationship or anything along those lines and your not interested in me, but I was hoping we could still be friends. Yeah? Cool. Ok well I'll see you next week then"

other then that bro I can't say I feel sorry for you.

You let yourself get carried away in a fantasy world, if you would have talked to her upfront then you wouldn't be so heart broken.

I'd suggest you go back and read through the WHOLE original Butter's Girl Issues Post, then read this Butter's Girl Issues Sequal post and see if you can learn anything from them.

If you want to be friends with her, just come clean and tell her everything, she'll have a lot more respect for you that way then if you avoid her. If you don't want to be friends with her, then you can either avoid her, or come clean with her anyways and just break it off telling her you don't really want to be friends.