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Reward? Are we trained poodles? Are you?

How about reframing?
A, a long term partner, loves oral, giving and receiving. I'm game for giving, but receiving was always tough on me. It was weird to just enjoy in an almost uninvolved way. Then it clicked for me that he loved doing it. He also liked the control of my pleasure.
So I got into it as the focus of his desire.

Z, another long term partner, isn't as focused on oral. Either direction. It's all about vaginal intercourse for him. But I like giving him oral. He's a great size for it, very verbal in his pleasure, and I get a lot out of it, emotionally and physically.
He finally got to a point where the idea of cock worship clicked for him. He applied some tantric exercises to it.
Sure, I mess with him a bit, by slowing the intercourse, and going back for more oral.
His usual question is are you sore? While it might be true, it doesn't bother me.
Being told I was after our tastes intermingled just about blew his mind.



Reframing activities as for the partner, rather than a coupon exchange, means what gets done gets done.
Talk, explain what you like about what you want.
Is it a dominance/ submission thing? Is it a feeling of complete acceptance? The visuals? The sounds? The feelings when the giver moans?
Be clear.