Bisexuality becoming a fad?

Please, don't get shirty with me.
It's not called for.

You say that I don't sound as though I'm involved in "this other persons life".
I'm very involved in the alt community around here, and I know pretty much all of them fairly well.
One of the people who claimed to be bisexual, for example, was my best friend for just over a year. We had a fall out and after a few months she and I are talking again. Oh and guess what! She now identifies as Straight and tellls me that she never really liked girls in that way to begin with. I've asked her about why she said it then and she just shrugs. That say to me 'attention seeking'.

And in all honesty, if people wanted their sexuality to be "their own business" then why on earth would they tell anyone and everyone which way they swing? It seems like they're "parading it around" when they do that, no?

You don't seem to understand where I'm coming from.
I'm not saying everyone who happens to be alt, and who says they're bisexual are lying, not at all.
But you can't deny that there are people who say they're bisexual for attention.
It's generally the younger people of the group, as when people get older they tend to see that it's not different or unique.
And if you DO deny it, may i suggest that you open your eyes?

[For the record, I don't limit this to the alternative sub-culture AT ALL. I do, however, believe that it's more common in that community because people aren't 'rejected' half as much for their sexuality than if they were more a part of a mainstream sub-culture]

 

I am very aware there are many 'fakers ' out there but they are not bisexual, they're bicurious if anything. If you had actually read this thread* and opened your eyes* you would have seen in my earlier posts my views on this. I just don't think it is your business to be judging them unless they have personally told you they were faking it, like your friend did apparently. Why do straight people get to talk about their lives (sexual/relationships), but as soon as anyone else mentions that they are a different sexuality and talks about it, its automatically seen as parading around?

I completely agree that there are fakers who are out there just for attention, but you don't seem to understand that peoples sexuality is none of your business to be judging. Even if someone tells you they are a certain way, you'll never truly know( not directed at your situation in particular, just in general). Many people hide from the public about being bisexual because they are afraid they will automatically get clumped into the silly attention seeking imagery that many people have associated with being bisexual.

 

I have nothing against people talking about their sexual/love lives and I never said as soon as they do. However when it seems to be that every time they see you they inform you in one way or another that they're bisexual, it really does sound like they're parading it around. Does it not?

Note that I am referring NOT to Bisexuals in general but to the people who try and convince everyone that they are bisexual as though it matters that everyone knows.
Surely if someone really WAS bisexual, then it wouldn't matter that every one knows?

I'd also like to point out that I didn't say that these "fakers" were bisexual, nor did i dismiss the idea that they are bi-curious.

I think that a direct quote from yourself is adequate right now.

 

So you think that if, hypothetically, no one was assumed to be straight or gay when born, all the straight people in the world wouldn't want everyone to know so? Two sides to each coin.

 

most of the bi guys i've come across only look at other guys as a lay...and they don't like the idea of being bottom. Also they're quite clear that if vagina was available they'd take that over some guys ass.

 

That's irrelevant because it'd be a completely different circumstance.

 

Interesting comment. I both agree and disagree with it. I agree that most bisexual guys, myself included, look to other men mainly for sex, but look to women for both sex and relationships. I have to disagree with bisexual guys not liking the idea of being a bottom, though. I don't know that many bisexual guys, but pretty much all the ones I do know are versatile. When it comes to men, I actually prefer being the more submissive participant. Also, while I do generally prefer women to men, I also prefer anal sex with women to vaginal sex. It definitely isn't easy finding a woman who will not only be accepting of being with a bisexual partner, but also willing to engage in anal sex on a regular basis.

 

My last comment was somewhat off topic, so now back to the point. I do believe it's true that culture affects how people view their sexuality and portray it to others. This is why there are different percentages of the population that identify themselves as gay or bisexual in different societies. For instance, I wouldn't imagine that there are a lot of people who identify themselves as gay or bisexual in a country like Iran. In America, where rebellion against tradition is a part of our national culture, the situation is very different. There's also quite a fascination with labels among young people here, though. It's almost as if many of them believe that they have to label themselves as something in order to fit in with some specific group of people. Strangely, these two aspects of American culture, rebellion and conformity, seem like they should be at odds with one another. How typically American!

 

I don't think we are off topic at all, nor am I picking at every word you say. We're having a conversation, and I don't agree with certain things you have said. If this is bothering you than you do not have to respond.

I understand you did not specifically say that bisexuals are fakers, but saying bisexuality is a fad, IS alluding to that. I was only correcting the term. I think it is more appropriate to say.. bi-curiousity is more of a fad

Surely if someone really WAS bisexual, then it wouldn't matter that every one knows?

Tell this to all the gay/lesbians who are still in the closet.

 

Yes ok, but the 'fakers' don't go around telling everyone that theyre bi-curious do they?
They say bisexual.

"Surely if someone really WAS bisexual, then it wouldn't matter that every one knows?"

What I meant by that is that someone who's bisexual wouldn't go around telling everyone because it wouldn't matter if people knew or not. None of the bisexual people (or gay/lesbian people) I know go around telling everyone their sexuality. Purely because to them it shouldn't make a difference.

I'm not saying that they should tell everyone, I'm saying they shouldn't because it doesn't matter. It comes across as attention seeking if they tell everyone.

I'm not saying that no real bisexuals do it either, but the majority of them don't.

 

Why does anybody really care about "fakers"? What they do or don't do is not going to change my life. If they need a fake sexual identity, that's their problem, not mine. And it may be a minor problem for a few shallow guys who get fooled.

 

jesus christ, of course!
if you go up to any 'scene' or 'emo' kid, they will tell you that they are bi. it's so stupid. I can't even tell who really is bi an who isn't.
and being bi as a fad came out long before that song did.

 

Because it undermines real bisexuals by making people think they're likely to be fakers. Bad enough that I already know 1 or 2 people who think bisexuality doesn't even exist. :toetap05:

 

They're screwing themselves, because somebody is going to eventually expect them to put out. They are going to embarrass themselves, and they deserve it.

 

I noticed it far before that song. Used to REALLY bother the hell out of me, that something I really was began to become some sort of a joke. Now I just let kids do their thing, figure out who they wanna be, and ignore them for the most part. After all, I know who I am.