Bi men and aging

Just a thought.............

ANY senior male who is STILL in overall good health AND still able to enjoy sex to its fullest, with NO medical assistance, is indeed FAR more fortunate than many others.

So much that is positive in our daily lives we all seem to take pretty much for granted.

Whatever IS positive in your life, be grateful that you have it, and enjoy it to the fullest.........

 

Bisexuality can extend one's sex life and especially for those who are late to the party!

 

At such a "party", I know a bi guy will be hoping that there are a LOT of "candles" to "blow on"!

This party could be a real "BLOW-out"!

 

"Blow out the 'candle' and make a wish!"

"I wish EVERY man in the world was bisexual!"

 

There are more "candles" to blow on than anyone can shake a stick at - but every man in the world couldn't be bisexual because there are men who can't handle it and men who wouldn't want to be bisexual, oh, maybe like gay men might not want to be bisexual. If I had a wish, it would be that bisexual men would be accepted and not reviled and vilified like we are today. I'd append the wish with an additional "clause" that women would accept our bisexuality and stop acting like they're the only ones who get to be bisexual because if it's good for the gander, how can it not be good for the goose?

If wishes were horses, beggars would ride. The reality says that wishful thinking isn't going to work nor is it going to accomplish anything...

 

KDaddy23:

VERY good post!

I TOTALLY agree; "acceptance" for WHAT and WHO you are, even if it goes "against the grain" so to speak of "the norm", is what it is all about.

"Accepting" yourself for the kind of man you are, IMHO, is, indeed, every bit as important as the acceptance we wish to receive from others..............

 

As a 68-year-old bisexual, the question is do I give a fuck if no one wants to accept me and my bisexuality? No, I sure as hell don't and I haven't since I was 16 because I learned that if my sexuality depended on others accepting me, I'd never be able to express myself as a bisexual male. And the few people who I did need "on my side" were already on my side. That's me and not the untold millions of bisexual men in the world who are sitting on their asses and waiting for the world to change... and it's not going to change any time soon, but the waiting makes them struggle unnecessarily and a more "global" acceptance would go a long way in reducing this struggle for them.

Accepting myself was easy; not waiting or depending on others to accept me was even easier but, again, that's me; if no one else does, it changes nothing because I'm still very damned bisexual. My wish would be for my fellow bisexuals to have an easier time being bisexual...

 

KD23:

QUITE refreshing to hear from a man who does not care what others feel about his bisexuality; if YOU enjoy it, well, hell, the HELL with what anyone one else thinks!!

It is YOUR life, after all........enjoy what you can to the fullest!

 

Of course, I enjoy it. It's been a part of life for the longest time. It's a part of who I am as a person and as a man. No fear. No regrets. No shame.

 

More power to you, my friend!

 

Recall "Love they neighbor"?

Sad that far too many people (especially bigots) cannot seem to fathom this, even in their later years, when you THINK that MAYBE at least some "mellowing" (read that: "tolerance") might have finally influenced them, at some point during life's long journey.

IMHO, one is NEVER too old to learn new things......and certainly includes tolerating......and ACCEPTING.....your fellow man, even if you are well into your 70s or 80s.

And, if a man is in his "advanced years", and can still enjoy a full sex life, well, common sense would dictate that, at the very least, even at that late stage in his life, he can still" "join in the fun"............

 

Love guys my own age (50) or older...
Less hang ups..
More easy going..
Sexy!

 

I get it. If you truly believe that you're living your life the way you're supposed to and as mandated by social norms, may the force be with you always. It's well known that men who have walked the straight path for most of their lives can and have found themselves on the same path that I've walked all of my life. It's the sex and it can be more than the sex and, really, if it's true that only a woman knows what a woman needs, then it must be true that only a man knows what a man needs... even if it takes him turning 50 or older before they find out what else they need and, perhaps, has been needing for a long time and is no longer denying himself.

 

And, of course, aging is always easier (regardless of your sexuality) when you have someone to grow old with..........'nuff said...........

 

Having a "life partner" in your old age, again, regardless of one's orientation, is indeed like having your personal "life coach", and, hell, that HAS to make aging at LEAST a LITTLE bit easier to deal with.

A lonely senior on his own is heartbreaking, indeed...........

 

You can grow old with anyone you care to and who wants to grow old with you; that's a relationship thing and not necessarily a sexuality thing although it could be and depending on which way you might be leaning in your old age and despite having someone by your side and someone who may or may not have your best interests first and foremost in their minds because they have their own issues they're trying to cope with.

I don't understand someone who would prefer to be lonely in their golden and twilight years, but I would suppose that there's a certain sense in it since you don't have to deal with losing the person who'd been by your side for all those years or having to worry about what they're going to do when you're gone.

I don't know about that life coach thing, though...

 

Well, it's like that old saying: "different strokes for different folks".

The death of a husband/wife/partner, after decades of love, mutual respect, and togetherness, can indeed be a devastating loss; sadly, that is something that we all most deal with as we age, and can only hope and pray for the strength and the guidance to see you through the darkest and most difficult days of your loss, and to regain sure footing along life's twisting and turning roads.............

 

Which, I think, is more than enough reason to explore any thoughts and feelings of bisexuality because tomorrow isn't promised to anyone. I've had conversations like this with folks in the past and have maintained that the last thing I want to experience is lying on my death bed and thinking about what I should have done... but didn't. Many years ago, I thought that I was dying from a heart attack - turns out it was a very bad case of reflux - but as the ER docs were doing their thing, I had time to think about the things I hadn't done, the things I thought that I had time to do and this was one hell of a painful wakeup call and one that got me off my lazy ass to do the things I hadn't done and, yeah, one of them was to get more dick than I was already able to get.

I have said that if I were to die tomorrow, I would do so without any regrets other than the fact that I was dying. Then... I died. Twice. I was revived and my lady would not let me go when she was told that my chances of surviving were slim to none. I'm obviously still here (and doing well) but knowing that I died doesn't bother me as much as I thought it would because I've left nothing undone but there's always something new to do. I can't imagine the effect that all of this had on her, but I know it wasn't good, but it served to remind her that my death is inevitable and just as I know hers is as well.

Getting older is okay and I know too many people who never got the chance to grow older, their lives cut short and so many things left undone and unfinished. But life must go on and any time you lose someone who you know or who is close to you, ask yourself if you really want to pass on and leaving things undone and unfinished. I think that if I weren't already bisexual, I'd be seriously working on it and playing catch-up... because tomorrow, again, isn't promised to anyone.

 

KD23:

You are 100% on the mark here......tomorrow, indeed, is NOT promised, not to me, not to you, nor to any one of us.

As we age, I think it is natural for anyone to think of their past, and what they might have done differently, had they been given the chance to live their life over again.

Just have to take today for what it is, and to simply move on............

 

If you're not going to make the best of the day, I'm thinking there might be something wrong. Do I think about the past and what I might have done differently? Of course, I do - I'm just as human as anyone else is but in that crazy question of whether or not I would change anything if I could go back and do it all over again, I consistently have found that I would not change a single thing because if I did, I wouldn't be who I am right this very moment - and especially where my bisexuality is concerned. Why would I want to change that when it was the thing that opened my eyes to the real world? Having been introduced what a man will do when he's drunk and horny or just plain old horny? To be able to understand some things about sex that makes our prudish society cringe and act like we're too civilized to behave in these ways and, oh, yeah, that God will punish the wicked for their wickedness with the promise of death... but everyone and everything dies. That's the reality of our existence and there is no going back.

If you didn't do it when you had the chance to, um, you have the chance to do it today. Maybe tomorrow, too. I understand why some men and women won't or can't take the plunge and I've seen too many of them get old and infirm and unable to do much of anything - and, often and at times, regretting their decision to procrastinate in plunging into something they knew good and damned well that they wanted and maybe even had to do... but now, it's too late. That has to suck and in the worst ways possible.

What can I do today that I might not be able to do tomorrow? Lots of things, really, but you learn to work on the things you can work on and don't worry about the shit you really can't do anything about, well, at least for today.

It's not a thing of today being what it is and moving on; if you're not going to make today mean something, well, something's wrong. If you're reading this and thinking that maybe one day, you'll be able to learn and find out something that I've known for the majority of my life - what's it like to have sex with a man and to be exposed to his lust and to expose him to yours - and you keep saying that you'll get around to it - maybe - well, hmm.