Bi men and aging

There is procedure that involves a non surgical method. It is conducted by a radiologist. The BPH treatment is introvenios when they go in and inject tiny ball shaped objects into the prostate. Litocaine on the surface of the skin is only drug used.

 

My urologist has mentioned another method, I dont know if that is it.

 

I have an appointment in a few weeks with my GP. I'm gonna ask for a referral to a urologist. I hate not being able to get hard and I hate taking Flowmax too. There has to be something they can do.

 

dd788snipe:

Here's wishing you luck, my friend.......sure hope all works out to your advantage!

 

Thanks, it's hard enough to battle fucking cancer twice but not getting hard and being able to cum is just too much to deal with.

 

A senior man who still has no trouble in "rising to the occasion" without medication is indeed fortunate (thankfully, I am one of them)

Here again, though, of course, "erectile dysfunction", "impotence", etc. can just as easily affect a younger man, for any of a number of reasons, it is yet another issue that senior men often have to deal with, and then deal with accordingly.

Life is difficult for many of us in our younger years; it can 9and usually does) become even more of a challenge as we age.

All we can do is to try to "grow old with dignity", and to take one day at a time............

 

Methinks it can be difficult to grow old with dignity if/when you have a lot of shit going wrong with you, from ED to other health issues. Being able to get it up and bust a nut is damned important to us as males and it's not so dignified if you're unable to do this but modern medicine has... fixes for this that begin with a trip to a urologist while other issue can be addressed by one's PCP if they have one.

This once again reminds me of a conversation I had with a man in his mid-60s who had recently lost his wife of many years; came down with prostate cancer and had the surgery to remove it and was already showing signs of age-related ED. He told me about the problems all of these things were causing him both emotionally and physically and he'd said that he might never get over the loss of his beloved wife but as far as having sex was concerned?

"My mouth and ass still works!" he'd quipped and went on to tell me how he was entertaining a lot of guys who'd come to him to get sucked off or to fuck him; he also mentioned that guys would suck him and maybe he'd get a bit of an erection and maybe he might cum a little but he had said that this was nice but not all that important - but knowing that he didn't have to be celibate was doing wonders for his mental wellbeing. He'd invited me to come fill him up with my cum and I really wanted to, but work-related shit kept me from meeting with him. Still, I had the most interesting conversations with him and was beyond impressed at how upbeat he was about his physical issues and his determination to not let the loss of his prostate and ED keep him down.

I had said to him, "I hope I can be like you when I get to be your age!" and I meant it. I was 45 at the time and today... I'm his age and while ED and prostate issues are hovering around the edges, I'm finding myself being of a similar mind as this venerable man in that if my prostate goes by the wayside and ED has stolen my ability to get an erection, um, shit, yeah, my mouth and ass still work. Is it dignified? It is if you're not going to mind being a cocksucking bottom and if you aren't one and wouldn't consider being one, well, when you get into your 60s and 70s, what's it gonna be worth to you to still be in the "game" of having sex and how important will this be to your mental wellbeing and the notion of growing old with dignity?

 

KD23:

Once again, a VERY insightful and thought-provoking post.

Mental well-being is, of course, vital at ANY age, and perhaps never more important than we become seniors............

 

It is always sobering when someone elderly (regardless of orientation) has multiple health issues, can no longer drive, no longer able to read, and, perhaps, confined to a wheelchair, and/or, totally housebound (the latter two situations were what befell my mother, now gone 8 years)

So many people in such depressing situations, literally, "get tired of living", and only want to die in peace and dignity, and end the pain and helplessness which is their constant companion.

Mom often said:

"If we have to get old, then we have to get old, but WHY do we have to get OLD and SICK?"

I've never forgotten those words.,........they indeed speak many volumes............

 

It just is what it has always been. Some people don't get to get old and some of us get to live for a century and a bit more. Not everyone gets old and sick but that's life and we can only hope to not get old and be infirm or bedridden with illness or be in that moment when you're tired of living and you just want it all to be over with. My brother didn't get to be 30; my older sister didn't reach retirement age and able to enjoy being in those golden years thanks to cancer and a similar type of cancer took my mom, who was 85 and not really "old and infirm" but that's how it goes. I had cancer; not really old or infirm and... I died twice in the ER and what little I remember of that day, I wasn't all that dignified as I fought to stay alive.

To go with dignity is the best anyone can hope for and that takes into consideration what "dignity" means or if it means anything in those last and final moments.

 

My aunt (who passed in 1962) left six children (the youngest only two) when she died in childbirth.

She was only 38.

My maternal grandmother (whom I never knew) was only 52 when she passed from a stroke.

My one older brother was but 62 when he passed away due to complications from diabetes (he took care of everyone but himself)

My other older brother suffered several heart attacks that took him from us at age 73 (my dad was also 73; pancreatic cancer)

My one uncle was a big, robust guy who could go for 24 hours straight and not need a wink; here was a man (decorated WW2 vet) who was always doing woodwork, electrical work, construction work, you name it.

He ended up in a nursing home (passed at 94), a total invalid, unable to care for himself (NO dignity at all for this never-idle, always healthy man; near the end, he lost the ability to speak)

Mom, who enjoyed good health for most of her life, was a woman always cooking, cleaning, taking the bus to go shopping, seldom idle.

She passed at 99 in 2016, after several years of heart issues, and had in and out of hospitals and rehab centers.

Her vitality and sharpness almost seemed to evaporate overnight.

Sorry, also, for the "too soon" losses in your family, but am glad you fought cancer and won.

It's a wonder that any of us ever makes it through life, what with sickness and other issues always lurking just around the bend..............

 

I once heard a Bible passage, something along the lines of "tomorrow's not promised".

A profound statement if ever there was one.............

 

Something my mom would say a lot... because it's true. She was great at keeping us from procrastinating by reminding us that tomorrow might not come for us... so do it now. I sometimes mention this to guys who'll tell me that they'll get around to sucking a dick "soon" and... tomorrow isn't promised to anyone so get off your ass and do it now.

 

Well said!

 

I had noticed a loss in maintaining an erection while edging last December. Edging-prologued masturbation. That is something I love to do. I was given Cialis and since then it has worked wonders. Not only it enables an erection on demand but also has a beneficial aspect to the prostate. I have noticed more frequent ejaculations. I take it every day because I love edging every day. Many men are open to sex with men when they age I think it's hormonal. It can be quite enjoyable as well.

 

Amazing at how, when men are still in their "prime", and much, much younger, they never give the slightest thought of how, one day, when they become senior citizens, that simply getting and maintaining an erection might be a difficult thing to accomplish.

Too, never thinking of needing any sort of medication in order to "rise to the occasion".

But, then again, like the title of an old Sinatra tune, 'That's Life"...........we can only hope to do our best and claw our way through our senior years as best we can, with as much dignity as we are able to retain..............

 

When you're in your prime, why would you think about getting older and not being able to get it up? You hear about it but that's some old dude and not you, so it is of no consequence, right? Until you get to be like 45 or so and maybe things are... flagging just a tiny bit but nothing to be concerned about... maybe. Yeah, a little medicinal help probably isn't going to hurt anything, but doesn't it all speak to how important it is for us to be able to get and maintain an erection? To both mind and body? Even if our sexual activities have been relegated to masturbation?

All you can do is hope that it doesn't happen to you and if you don't have a plan to deal with it - and just in case you don't escape this - then now would be a good time to put one together if the very manly thing of getting a boner is still important to you. I'm starting to think about Cialis and will be talking to my doctor when I see him in a couple of weeks... because I want to be able to keep getting and staying hard even if for my own sense of well-being and if my lady wants some, she can get some or, yeah, if some young cocksucker wants to hone his skills on my dick, come on, youngster - let's see what you got!

 

KD23:

Well said, friend!

 

There are many that (for whatever reason) steadfastly believe that senior men (regardless of orientation) are "past their prime", sex-wise.

Well, now, just WHERE is this written? (or carved in stone?)

As every man is, of course, an INDIVIDUAL, WHO is to say just WHEN a MAN......ANY man....is in his sexual prime?

I think, as men ourselves, we ALL know what the TRUTH is, regarding this matter............