Bi men and aging

KD23:

Though I watch only a few hours of tv a week (I prefer watching a dvd or reading a good book, or, working on one of my hobbies) I have noticed more and more commercials that clearly translate into "the dumbing down of men".

Many commercials now have the wife/girlfriend playing the role of the "smart" one, while the male is too often portrayed as the dolt.

On the news, I have seen male news anchors sitting stiffly, smiling taut smiles, while the female co-anchor rambles on and on, and, also, getting most of the camera time.

One news broadcast I have watched for years now clearly favors the female reporters/coresspondents over the males, even though there are at least 10 males on the team.

The weekend broadcast now often uses only FEMALE reporters, though there are ten or eleven males on the team

One long-time weekend sports anchor I've long watched was replaced by a woman, and, in turn, this fellow wasAGAIN replaced by another woman, as a reporter, and now more or less relegated to "once-in-a-while" status.

All-male news teams are now, with few exceptions, long gone.

It is now either m/f or f/f.

What is so blatantly feminist, is that, on certain news shows, when a FEMALE anchor is off, she is ALWAYS replaced by another female; BUT, when the MALE anchor is off, 99% of the time, HE is replaced by another woman.

I mean, come on, 99% of daytime television is all either all-female oriented, or, there areshows where a "token" male may be on hand among several women.

NO SHOW whatsoever that's 100% MALE, NO shows where a group of men can discuss issues of the day, news, male-oriented news items, etc.

At least have ONE show (out of a large number) that is 100% MALE.

I don't think THAT'S being unreasonable.

Make no mistake in this, I am NOT a chauvanist, and have long championed for woman's rights and equal pay.

And why not?

BUT, ever since this "Me, too" feminist movement started some years ago, it clear that women are simply taking over virtually every walk of life, relegated the males to "sideline" status.

There is now a "Women's History Month".

Fine, I have NO problem with that at all, whatsoever.

But, PLEASE tell me, WHERE is the MEN's history month?

WHY the glaring double-standard?

Too much political correctness these days is pushing males further and further into the background.

It should be EQUAL time for ALL.

Celebrate MEN'S achievements in society, as well as WOMEN'S.

And also, in my current "solo" position, I greatly enjoy to watching and listening to other males on the news, etc, feeling as though I am having an interesting conversation with a male buddy.

I simply CANNOT connect with a woman who just seems to ramble on, monopolizing a broadcast.

Forgive me fellows, please, for this "rant", but this has been quite a sore point with me for a long while now.............

 

I noticed years ago that commercials were portraying men as... idiots. Every time I see such a commercial, I say that they've set men back another 200 years or so. For the longest time, men's achievements have been celebrated and well over female contributions which had lesbians, of all people, railing against our patriarchal society and, in turn, having all women justifiably pitching a bitch for the continued dissing of women and their role in things that had nothing to do with them being naked and filled with dick - that classic bullshit of being barefoot and pregnant.

I don't watch the news because you cannot trust them to tell the unvarnished and unedited truth anymore, so I don't know if women monopolize broadcasts or not... and I don't really care because there was a time where there were no women allowed in this field. If you're right, they're portraying women as "Chatty Cathy's" and they can't shut the fuck up (someone stick a dick or a pussy in their mouth!) and I think that sucks as much as men being shown as babies and abject idiots. See, if you keep paying attention and giving weight to all the social media shit that's perverted the internet, you're not paying attention to what you should be paying attention to and, no, men do not need a history month because our history as a species has been all about men. Just like there's no such animal as "Straight Pride Month" because heterosexuality has been the dominant and preferred sexuality since before our history was able to be written down and if you're straight and not proud of it, something's wrong with you.

Methinks what you need is a real male buddy you can relate to instead of relying on the media - don't you think it's time to end the solo act? See, by saying that you cannot connect with a woman, you come off as being chauvinistic and not looking at this as she's doing the job she's being paid for - and doing it the way her employers want her doing it and "forgetting" that, again, no women were allowed to be on camera and talking about the news - period. Some could take away from this particular comment that your gayness automatically makes you anti-female and, well, you fit the general stereotype of a female-hating gay man and I'm not sure that's the way you'd want someone to see you - and I do have the audacity to point this out to you because older folks have a horrible reputation of getting and being set in their ways and becoming inflexible and unable to adapt and adjust to a world that's constantly changing.

 

KD23:

EXCELLENT post my friend; great work, once again.

Indeed, too many of the news women now are indeed "Chatty Cathys"; I've seen a man and a women being interviewed by a news person, and, invaribily, the WOMAN is the one who monopolizes the interview; in fact, MOST questions are clearly directed to HER, while the male sits quietly and says nothing, until he can perhaps get to talk for 30 seconds.

I am now wondering if male (and female) news reporters are instructed to focus on talking mostly to (or only to) women during one of their reports.

You'll hear the reporter say something like:

"....residents had this to say....."
".......tenants are furious......"
"......riders we talked to are not at all happy....."

And, to see WHO is interviewed, it's as though NO males reside in the area, or, are traveling on the subway, or passing through an airport.

And, all it takes is ONE female on a news anchor team to turn the broadcast into another edition of "The View", with giggling and inane comments, all the better reason to have THEM be the FOCUS.

Recall, way back in the day, pioneering newswoman Barbara Walters.

Her attitude was not like, "I'm going show them I can do the job better than a MAN!"

It was more like, "I'm a PROFESSIONAL and I'm going to do my best to do my job as BEST I can."

Now, even in the world of MEN'S pro sports, after a game, it will be a WOMAN on the court after a basketball game, interviewing players, OR, a female down on the rink, interviewing players after a hockey game?

Like, COME ON, I CAN'T even watch a MAN'S game without having to hear a WOMAN yapping?

I had mentioned the one long-time male weekend sports anchor I watched for years.

First, he was replaced by a woman (what else!)

THEN, as a news reporter, he HAD been assigned to one general area, but, even here, he's been largely replaced by ANOTHER female, and now, only is seen every so often.

I still have clear memories of the days of Walter Cronkite and Huntley & Brinkley, from back in the days when the news was the NEWS, and NOT a inane variation of a woman's telivised gabfest.

The other night, while waiting for a story I was very much interested in (including the local weather) I saw that the male anchor was off, and replaced by a woman.

Several reports followed, ALL covered by FEMALE reporters (guess all the male reporters had the night off!)

Basically, I only watch stories I AM interested in; I tune everything else off.

And, you ARE QUITE right when you commented about just how much of the TRUTH we are getting, via the news (TV/radio/newspapers)

I buy a newspaper perhaps every couple of months now, and ONLY when there is a story that interests me.

Too many of the "respected dailies" these days are now little more than glorified tabloids.

Yeah, it IS all pretty fucked up today, and the current political situation is really adding to the overall aura of insanity, bullshit, and shamess immaturity.............

 

No, you can't if you really believe in equality between the sexes. Women are fans of "men's games" too, so why not have a woman interview players, call the game, etc., to show that, yeah, they can do it just as well as any man can? I, too, remember the news the way it used to be - telling the truth, reporting the truth, remaining neutral in their reporting and with men who you learned to trust to report the news without coloring it in any way. Then, it all changed and not for the better. Like I said, I don't watch the news because I know that I can't trust it or the people reporting it. I will be dipped in shit if I understand how a bunch of stations can "see" the same thing happening but report it differently and, yeah, putting their spin on it when their job, supposedly, is to report it. Do some digging to get to the truth of the story and report it and if there is no truth, do not fucking report it or even mention it... but that's the way it used to be and we do not live in those times anymore, GG57.

The only media information thing I watch is... The Weather Channel and even they've gotten into more than just reporting the weather - but you can believe Mother Nature. I don't riff about who's doing the reporting - a man or a woman; I often find it hilarious because they will specifically pick people to interview, sometimes men, sometimes women and depending on what's being reported. A shooting in a neighborhood that has children? Interview a woman and a mother or even grandmother if one is in the area; a shooting during a liquor store robbery? Interview a man. A crime happens in a affluent neighborhood? Interview a white person even if there are other ethnicities living there. In the ghetto? Get a Black person, maybe a Hispanic (depending on the story they want to tell) and then get one who looks like he's got a record, has been to jail, shit like that.

When you know that they're doing shit like this, you can't trust them to tell the truth and to report the news without spinning the shit out of it and it doesn't make one bit of difference if the reporter on-scene is male or female: They have a job to do and they'd better do it the way they're supposed to or not only will they not have a job, they could get blackballed and won't ever get a job doing this work ever again. So, yeah - if a woman is excessively running her mouth, it's because the people who sign her paycheck told her to. So, what - you gonna bust her ass for doing her job?

If you truly believe that women have the right to work in jobs that were once traditionally done by men, then why the rant? Once upon a time, secretaries used to be men and women weren't allow to enter the field but once they did, they not only excelled at the job, they dominated that job market and to the extent that when, way back in 1985, I got hired as a secretary - and was the only male secretary in the whole damned global company - I was told that I didn't belong and that I must be a faggot to be doing a woman's job. Yet, I could do the job just as good or better than my female counterparts could. I proved that a man could do "a woman's job" and they left me alone... after I had to step off in some asses; I might be doing a woman's job but there's nothing feminine about me.

Dude, you sound like you have a serious hard-on against women...

 

KD23:

No......I do NOT have a "hard on against women"......now, a "hard-on against MEN"....well, now, that's another story altogether!) Sorry...couldn't resist!

Seriously speaking, getting HONEST news these days is getting more and more difficult, as you will often find there are nearly always "variations" in story details (via different networks), again, raising the question:

"Well,then, just WHAT version IS the truth?"

On the one news broadcast I have watched for years, there is a QUITE diverse ethnic group represented by the males, including white, black, Hispanic, Asian, Oriental.

What I DO like is that they are ALL professionals and at least TRY not to inject any personal opinions/biases into the reports they cover.

As a lifelong weather buff, long, long ago, I used to be a regular viewer of "The Weather Channel" (man, did I have the major-league hots for that hunky Jim Cantore!)

Reporting the weather is, of course, quite a different ballgame altogether, compared to reporting the NEWS.

When I DO watch the news (being "color blind") I see only TWO kinds of people, the GOOD and the BAD (color never enters the picture with me)

I just truly feel for ANYONE (regardless of race) who is the victim of a senseless, violent crime, through NO fault of their own (you need to have a full Marine division escorting you through the subways these days!)

Basically, why I DO, after hearing (or reading) news stories, is to take each story and simply use my common sense.

Of course, even THIS can get a bit convoluted at times, given so much media bias, and conflicting reports from different sources.

This is most especially true these days, regarding ANYTHING political, for obvious reasons.

 

Even on The Weather Channel, they do reporting and the men and women tend to blather on an on - and they're still guessing most of the time about what the weather's going to do (or not). You see, however, that the problem with our society and sexuality is this ever-present bias we have toward each other; we are too tribal to be able to truly appreciate our great diversity; instead, we'd rather drive wedges between ourselves - men against women, straights against gays, gays against bisexuals and it all stinks with a lack of maturity that we, as a species, have not yet achieved although you can encounter such a maturity at individual levels.

They say that the older we get, the better we should get and be...

 

KD23:

Well, I've said this before:

"With age comes wisdom"

NOT always a given, what with society at large is these days.

And, talk about "driving wedges" between groups, just look at the out-and-out hostility that has been dangerously boiling over between the liberals and the conservatives, and the Democrats and the Republicans, the past several years.

Look at the horrific rise in anti-Semetic hate crimes, the past few years.

Who knows what the outcome of the 2024 presidential election will be, and what is at stake for gay rights, and other "hot button" issues?

Aging, regardless of a man's sexuality, is too often far more complex and far more intimidating than need be......................

 

Aging has definitely affected my sexuality. When I was younger, even though I enjoyed down low sex with other guys I would get jealous if anyone tried to hit on my girlfriend or wife. To be clear, I never had a girlfriend AND wife at the same time.
As I age I find it more appealing to have other men in the picture with my wife. It's more than just another way to get a man into my bed, it's also a huge turn on to have her close to me in ecstasy but with a new element each time; new smell, new taste, new moves.
Overall I think my drive is the same as before but now I have more stimulus to keep it going because my mind keeps opening more. Like the first time I had sex with a crossdresser. It was awesome and now I look a lot closer when I see trans and CDs.

 

It is interesting that, as we get older, we often find ourselves leaning more towards fantasies that we never really gave a second thought to, in our younger years.........

 

Not me; I lean more toward the real. I grew up around - and interacted with - guys and gals who when it came to having sex, would ask, "Hey, what if we..." and then we'd do it so by the time I got to be an adult, I didn't much in the way of fantasies and if I ran into someone who had one and they wanted to make it real, sure - we can do that! I've played "Father and Son" with grown-assed men because it was their fantasy and I wasn't going to say no to the sex and while roleplaying was never my "thing," I knew how to play along so that their fantasy could be made a reality. As such, I didn't have any fantasies and the ones I did have - or might have had - got made real in almost short order...

 

KDaddy23:

More power to ya, my friend!

Keep on keepin' on!

 

Like the rest of us, as a bisexual man ages, he not only sees himself getting older but, also, all around him (wife/FWB/best friend, etc)

His mortality, most surely, starts to become a real issue for him.

As he ages, does a bisexual man seek men his own age for sex/friendship?

Or, does he seek out men who are younger, the better to associate with those who are not deemed "over the hill", and, perhaps, prove he is still sexually appealing to younger men?

Let's be honest.....aging isn't a picnic for ANY of us, regardless oof gender, race, or sexual orientation............

 

Mortality is a real issue for everyone. As a bisexual man ages, does he seek out men of his own age for sex/friendship? That does seem to be the case but some do seek out younger men and there are lots of younger men who are looking for the older, experienced, and mature older man. Things... ease up when you get older; you know the clock is running and it's no longer in your favor and where you once "had time" to do stuff, it becomes a matter of do it now or forget about being able to do it.

My late mother was fond of saying, "Getting older is for the birds!" and I'm finding that she was, as usual, right about that.

 

KD23:

Your Mom (bless here!) was 100% on the mark on that one!

MY landlady once dryly commented:

"......the only thing 'golden' about the 'golden years' is the pee......."

Yeah, getting older is NO picnic for ANY of us.

Best thing to do is take it ONE day at a time, and not to borrow trouble from tomorrow......there's enough of it today (my mother always said that!)

SCARY thing is.......aging sneaks up on you so swiftly and subtly, it's like, one day you look in the mirror, and say to yourself:

"Who the hell is that old man looking back at me?"

Yeah, it ain't fun................

 

Yeah, I say that a lot these days or, "When did I get old?" Then I sigh and get to washing my face...

 

I've gotten to the point where I only barely glance in the mirror long enough to make sure I'm not mutilating my face while I'm shaving, or trimming my mustache............I don't need to know what I look like.....I know I'm still there...

 

Well, I haven't shaved for a while so no problems there although with the razor and shaving cream combo I've been using, I haven't nicked myself... in over two years now. I don't have to look in the mirror; my joints tend to sound like someone's stomping on a box of Rice Krispies; I've got aches and pains in places I didn't know could have aches and pains. I recently underwent a swallowing test as a part of my post-cancer treatment regimen and the doctor told me that I have some age-related narrowing of my esophagus to go with some residue radiation damage and... I just rolled my eyes at the aging part. I have arthritis in my right ankle and it's just... little things that bring a huge dose of reality to the table when I'm looking at my reflection in the mirror and... where did that handsome and sexy 30-year-old go?

But my dick still gets hard and I can still bust nuts so, there's that...

 

Well, as I was neither handsome NOR sexy, I just say, "Man, how the hell did I get so damn gray and old-looking?"

Yes, my 9" shaft STILL has NO problem at all in getting rock-hard, so at least I can stll have (solo) fun "yankin' the crank"(!!)

All kidding aside, I think we ALL do take "youth" for granted; our senior years are still light-years off in the future, and we simply cannot grasp the concept that, we, too, will get OLD one day.

I've never been one to moan and groan over everyday aches and pains; I just "keep on keepin' on" as best I can.

If these are, in fact, our "golden years, somewhere along the way some tarnishing was involved.....or, maybe, it was all really just brass.............(!!)

 

Golden years. Right. I think it was supposed to be "olden years" and someone mistook it for "golden."

 

Personally, I believe is that one of the scariest things about aging (regardless of orientation) is how silently and ever-so-subtly it sneaks up upon you.

And, when we DO discover that we are, sadly, no longer young (at least in years) it hits you with all the force of an encounter with an 18-wheeler going the wrong way on a one-way street.

All we CAN do is to try to age with as much dignity as we can muster...........