Attracting the beautiful girls

I think Cowboy and Lynsey are in love !

Only joking both

Simple solution is , dont buy the girl a meal the first date .
Either coffee or if ure not sure shes alright - then share a bottle of ( cheap piss-tasting ) wine.
And showering a new gf with expensive gifts is just daft.

I must admit I hate the pick and choose hypocrisy of some women.
But I know its all about bargaining power - and finding someone there is something genuine with rather than sex vs money with.

Its true there are some poisonous women about , but there are some fairly unpleasnt men too.Depending on our income differential ofcourse Id expect women to show some offers of paying /actually paying pretty early in a relat.

The trick is , knowing how to make the point properly

I dont think there are *that* many women dysfunctional enough to scrounge a free 1st meal with someone they have no interest in ( altho ignorance might attract some).
But the best way is , u choose the coffee , and dont pay for much more- other than the taxi back to your place : )

My advice to guys and dating is , "learn the game".Lots of guys spend years and years on their career advancement - admitting alot is to "impress the babes" . yet they remain totally ignorant of dating .

If she claims to be a succcesful career girl , let her prove how successful she is by having her pay for a posh 3rd date or whatever.

( say to the waiter - "the lady's ordering today.And , if she does order ,shes bound to pay! )

If shes ugly on the inside , then tell her so .Dickheads only respect dickheads Ive found.

On the other hand if ure a successful professional and shes a genuine and struggling student etc- if its a good relat - is the inequality of money not a worthwhile sacrifice?

PS when's the wedding Lynsey and Cowboy?

 

Hey, I've dated guys who made less than me, or had less spare cash than I did. Then again, I'm in university and almost everyone there is a poor uni student lol. The last guy I dated (not this beau, the one before) didn't work at all... mind you I didn't really respect him for that. Same with chicks though, I find it hard to respect someone for mooching off their parents, for not at least trying to be independent even with mitigating factors.

As for paying, well, I still prefer about a 60/40 or 70/30 split. Not entirely even, I know, but it's nice. At the least, alternate paying rather than splitting the bill on every damn date. I -HATE- going dutch, it just pisses me off, grrrrr.

 

I love boozing on the beach, that's one of my favorite dates by far...but definitley not for a first one. I have never asked a guy out but if I did I would offer to pay my share, but I still don't think I would be able to ask a guy out.

My line of work doesn't pay a whole lot compared to most of the guys I date who are in finance or real estate (because that's a huge industry here not because I purposefully go for guys who make a lot) so it would be silly of me to even offer to pay.
And women are plentiful-you're right, there are tons of us. But you guys are picky and feel so entitled that there are not a bunch of us who are up to most of your standards. With guys I can date them as long as they are smart, funny and have a good future planned out or an established career. Although most guys I have dated are above average in looks it's not a requirment. With men though all (okay most...I have recently been proved wrong hahaa (; ) of you want somone to show off. I live in a different city than all of you in this thread though. I know it is different in other parts of the country but here it's brutal in the looks department for girls.

 

I couldn't agree more with these statements


If you want a beautiful girl, focus on being a beautiful person yourself and be happy with who you are first. When you succeed at that, you will attract everything that you are looking for and if you're lucky, more than you could have ever hoped for.

worked for me anyway

 

i'm with you most of the time when I offer to pay my part a guy will give me it all back but like 5 bucks...it's hillarious. They're like hmmm I wanna be a gentleman but if she's a feminist I don't want to insult her...it's funny.

I dated an elementary school teacher and we made around the same and got super insulted when I offered to pay. See that's the thing is you don't wanna insult a dude either.
Then there's the other thing most of the time now with being unemployed I cannot afford where most of my dates take me so I wouldn't even be in a position to trade off paying for dates.

 

best way to catch a beautiful girl is with a worm on a hook... worm from a bottle of mezcal

 

offerings of tequilla is definitley a great way to get a girl and even if she's not pretty she'll look pretty to you after enough partaking

 

No I hear Cowboy is seeing a lovely women with who he lives with right now...def not going to get in the middle of that d:

 

This thread has got more bad vibes flowing both ways than Baghdad on a hot day.

Why don't you Don Juans try this: Ask your lady what she would like. Listen to what she's telling you. Show a little genuine respect. If you don't respect her (and a lot of guys on this channel sound that way), don't waste her time. She's not a slot machine.

Treat her like the sensitive, vulnerable human being she is. You might just find yourself well rewarded.

 

I also make it a point to 'constantly remind' people that I am smart and fun as hell to be around too...ya know it's all about being well-rounded as we all get old

But in all seriousness I think being able to admit that you are attractive is better than a chick who is always like 'am I as big as her or do you think my nose is big?' it's like come on bitch if ya gotta ask go jog a few blocks and consult a plastic surgeon. If a girl is not so attractive but is totally cool with who she is more power to her. But why beat a sister down if she is confident and realizes she may be kinda pretty...would it be more socially appropriatte for her to pretend she is ugly.

 

Interesting, as I have not ever had to remind anyone constantly that I am anything.....period. What they see is what they get, the good the bad and the in between, I do not ever want to live life otherwise as it is a lie. I do not want to wake up and worry that my makeup is not right nor do I want to worry that my negligee slipped off my boobs. Live with it.

I am not only content in my own being, I am content with what is accepted as their perceived view, if someone does not like it then walk on as I am still content in my own being.

Something to be said with just self.

No validation needed, none required. Being able to admit you are attractive........who the hang too, other than to yourself, in that I am content with who I am. That radiates not only attractive that radiates I stand for exactly what you see. Attractive is in the eye of those who are looking......none other.

Lordy.......attractive to most is the self confidence that comes with just being who you are, regardless or looks, shape or anything else, it is a confidence in you that radiates and is just attractive.

 

I was being sarcastic, that's why I quoted the 'constantly reminding'. I was just joking around.
I got my share of problems and admit those just as freely as I do my attributtes. I am fine with who I am...all 4 of me up there (kidding again)

Life's too short to take myself too seriously and not have a good time and be fun and flirty and take care of myself. I am only in my twenties once...it's the best time of my life to build my brain, some emotional strength and my outward appearance and get to know what flatters me and what I like. When i am 30 and want a family I want to be in a completley unselfish place and be ready.

Also, I was in long term relationships for so long and I let myself go in all of them, ya know how it is when things get comfy. I am single for the first time since I was 17-that is huge! I guess in a way I am reverting back to all I feel I have missed out on and am expressing that by maybe focusing too much on the outward, going back to school full time, not planning on working full-time for a few years. I want back what I missed.

I exuberate more confidence with a little mascara, some cute clothes and a cute bag. I also can't go outside with confidence if I feel lethargic or spacey. I have to feel just together, both mentally and physically.
I never wear make-up in the privacy of my own home, hanging out with my friends or hanging out with a boyfriend. It's just in public, especially here where I live I want to look cute and I am stoked when guys like me for my looks, not because I have low self-esteem but because I know they won't mind that I do take a little bit longer to get ready and they can assume I am a little high matienence. Looks give a lot of insight as to how a person is inside.

 

hah so you have resorted to calling me a whore and a bitch...nice... you're so bitter...and I so got under your skin...fun times.


uhm no he had nothing to offer period-end of sentence. My life is better out here-family, friends, school, my own car, my own bank-account, my freedom to make my own decisions. You join my life or you jump of the train and get off at your stop...that's pretty much how I operate ans my life is a pretty fun one to join. If anything I didn't want to be suporrted financially by him and quit my job and my independence...I think that makes me the opposite of what you are accusing me off.

dates do not consist of glorified prostitution. I've never put out for someone because they took me somewhere. If I were a whore not very many people could afford me

Uhm...I have only slept with 5 guys because i don't have sex outside of serious relationships-not due to lack of choice. Most guys will fuck anything that's walking. I've never known a girl with a problem getting laid...

anywho yeah good luck with your rad self...keep on being a winner and attracting all the women playa cause it sounds like you've got it going on. I am bummed we didn't hit it off....oh how I love to date guys who get in physical altercations with skinheads and have their girlfriends pay all their bills and have to have them tell you to vaccum the ceiling...good times you seem awesome

 

ps-my joy is getting my phd next year, volunteering my pr skills for a non-profit, taking care of two beautiful dogs, going to events,training for a race and admiring these beautiful daisies sent with a thank you for your company card...very whorish activities-all off them. Hold on while I get my dental damn and hot pink thong out of the closet...time to go to work now.

 

Cowboy_Blue, did you not read that lynsey has said that she has some behavioural and mental disorders in this thread?

(I'm not trying to be offensive)

lynsey has said that she has a split personality condition, ADHD, and perhaps something else that I cannot recall (I have ADD also), which are neurological disorders.

Besides the point, who are you to come onto this forum and start attacking her and telling her how to live her life? Haha. You've never met her.

The name calling is a direct attack as far as I'm concerned. That's pretty lame. It seems as though there are other people you could have easily swooped down from your tree and take on in this thread.

I've seen lynsey respond to your comments in another thread and it wasn't nearly as provoking as what you are doing here.

 

Cowboy Blue, I would like to request that you refrain from personal attacks in this forum.

It is not the debate that is a problem.

Please do not attack anyone or I will remove the post, not for the content of your thoughts but for the personal attack.

Thank you.
Heat

 

Aristartle
- ok we're prob going over old ground but altho "ADD" is classed as a disorder ie something to be genetically eradicated by some people , me and lots of others think , that handled right it is a blessing.
Without that knowledge , yes A** is a complete pain up the arse

Youve only got to look at the amount of talented people who have it.
The problem is that we often learn and work in non- A** centric societies.
Once u know the way round it , I reckon u wouldnt wanna be anything but A**

Lynsey ,
I think your IM box is full?
I sent you some things , including some links which should be v helpful.
IM me and I'll send u an email if its easier.

regards
Self Styled

 

He's just insecure and it taking it out on me. I can handle it. Thank you though and no offense taken

ps-this is personality 1 coming to the forfront-the rational one ...I just still can't get over that I have it I think i'm going to be making fun of it until the day it goes away...life's crazy

 

I'm not at all superficial when it comes to guys. The only physical things I PREFER (personality can completley trump this) is that they are tall (because I'm 5'9 and like heels) and that they are in shape enough to be active with me. I didn't say I needed somone with financial stability either, just somone who was on their way there. In fact I would be most happy with somone else who also worked in the non-profit sector.

That's great that you don't judge girls on their looks-more guys like you should move here.
I am just really traditional when it comes to dating. I don't have sex before commitment, don't believe I should pay for the first couple of dates and like to be treated right. I'm not saying that we have to go to some outrageosly expensive place for our first date, in fact for first date that's a little much, just that I do expect him to pick up the check. It should not be a question on the first date.
With all this said I am far more finaicialy secure than most girls my age. I have more dates now that I am on unemployment than I did when I was making 50k a year. I think guys my age were intimidated by that.
I want a guy who has balls, and I wanna make sure I keep him feeling like he has them. I don't want to belittle his ability to be a man.
I do try to give back in little ways as well. My date last week took me to a really nice place for dinner so I came over to watch football the next night and brought stuff to make margaritas and he sent flowers as a thank you...see that's sweet. I don't think he feels taken advantage of as he asked me out again and all I did is kiss him so I certainly don't feel like a whore.

 

I never got your pm ): maybe my box is full let me check