Ive been to my share or parties and im not that into it. And my parents and my boyfriend's parents will watch our daughter so that we can go out ever once in awhile. My 2 best friends still come over and we still have sleepovers and do our nails and our hair but we also get to watch a little baby crawling around. I have never really spent that much money on myself i usually buy things for other people. Now i get to buy toys and have a good reason to play with them...lol. Yes i do understand that i will miss out on a lot of things but i also get to be a MILF when i get in my 30's.lol
To be honest, I "planned" on not having children until I was around 23 BUT I knew that there was always a chance, and a pretty big one in my case that I'd get pregnant before then. The few times before I actually was pregnant that I thought I was I was worried and thought I was fucked, but this time I was worried but a little more prepared from the last few times (there were like three or four heh) It all depends on the situation if it will work out, but I think if you have sex you should be ready to take responsibility for even the slight possibility that it could happen, I mean I was on the pill AND we used a condom and I still got pregnant. We used a condom almost every time after the the second false alarm (the only time I remember not using one was the third and fourth in which a significant amount alcohol was involved) but even when they weren't prepared or whatever, I don't look down to them, I hope everything works out even though it may not be the case. I also happen to know a few people in their mid thirties who recently had a kid and will probably fuck the kid up, it doesn't always have to do with age.
"When God says they're ready, they're ready." Read that some years ago, but it's true isn't it? At least from a physical point of view. Teen mothers are frowned upon in the west because they often are in shaky or non existant relationships with the father. That means they either go on welfare or put a burden upon relatives. 17 is not bad as you can work if you have to. Below 16, you're really in a tight spot. x