Are You A Loner Or Gregarious?

I am in between, I'm certainly not a loner, but I can't stand too much social contact either, I need a good balance.

 

as long as they don't smell like one.

 

Well, that's ok, too, as long as their planning on washing up soon......

 

and watch what perfurme or cologne you put on afterwards....subtle does it....one has to get close to smell it even...don't knock a whole elevator full of people out with it........

 

I'm a loner. Sometimes, I wish I were more social. Then, I wonder whether or not I actually care to be social, or if I care because it's what I'm "supposed" to do. I reckon that it wouldn't hurt to be more balanced in this regard.

I also wonder if my loneliness is a function of the people who surround me. When I had more folks who I could relate to, I had a much more bustling social life, and enjoyed having a mind meld with those people. I always had a lot of fun. Now, most of the people who I am around on a daily basis don't really seem to "get" my, and I don't "get" them, either. We have different values and approaches to life, and these days I have little time/tolerance for pretending to be someone that I'm not. I find it exhausting.

Anyhow, to answer your question simply: I can flourish socially when I don't have to put on an act.

 

I like good hearted people......I can always find something to talk about with good hearted people. I love being with my neighbors ...they are good people with good hearts and just the smiles and talk about nothing sometimes except movies or something trivial is ok......too....and deeper things, too.....whatever....the smiles and love and laughter between is all that matters really.....
I find people like these a joy to be around....but then I can't fart, burp or anything like that.......so I need to go home to do all that....and letting it just flop.....

 

i definitely go through different moods. I have a very nice group of friends and I try to hang out with them a couple of times a month. Otherwise i am mostly a loner. I love having time to myself. When i do socialize I usually get pretty intense social anxiety beforehand but once i am there I'm very outgoing and gregarious.

 

You seem to share my belief that all that matters in life is to smile as often as possible, and to help others smile whenever you have the opportunity to do so. Afterall, what's the point of living without smiles, regardless of how you go about achieving those smiles, as long as you're not hurting/judging anyone in the process?

The world would be a much better place if everyone felt the same way.

This post is completely off-topic, so I apologize for that. Mods........delete my post, if you deem it necessary.

Still.........I have to post this song:

[media]http://youtu.be/oAAnyvb3TfE[/media]

 

Loner.

 

Well, I've been here in Oregon for 10 years (this time), this coming February and I haven't made any friends. Hang with my kids when I do

hang out. However, I'm quite garrulous when I'm out and about, making comments to people wherever I happen to be, especially if I can make people smile or laugh. Don't mind small talk at all. I love it when I can brighten someones day , even a little. I've found that you always get back what you give. So, I guess both for me.

 

i've always just felt happier and safer alone. i can enjoy people once in a while. once in a while really is enough though.

 

Smile.......charlie chaplan

 

Bull fucking shit.

I never characterized people who are social as stupid. Obviously there are a lot of smart people who are also social. I simply stated that stupidity predominates in groups, which it does. More so than it does among individuals.

 

I know what you mean, PR...it is that herd mentality thing, which I have always rallied against....

 

While I, too, love to be able to brighten someone's day and make them smile, I'm terrible at small talk, due to my severe social anxiety, and I hate it. The only things that help are weed and/or benzodiazepines, but I only take benzos(almost always alprazolam) when I don't have weed, which is very rare.

 

Now I feel like posting another song titled "Smile". The chorus of the song is in my sig. It's a rap song, but I'd consider the verses to be more poetic than typical rap.

[media]http://youtu.be/z9-eKhCukW8[/media]

 

Social people are also individuals.

 

OK, so individualists.

 

Hey at least it's better than the weekly "how big is your dick?" threads.

 

I thought they were Socialists.... :mickey: