Are women biologically programmed to reward cruelty, evil and domination?

Mars

 

I also think pretty much all of our behaviors are from culture, not instinct or biological programming. Just like I don't believe women are programmed to be maternal, I don't think they are programmed to reward cruel domineering behavior.

I know others will disagree however.

 

Well let me tell you, it's hard to know where to look for em':coffee:

 

There is so many anti biological/evolutionary posts today. Shit where do you people come from? Denying your biological needs and makeup is denying your humanness. Have we really gone to far out to realize that?

 

It does not matter whether evopsych is "objectively" true or not. It is the official state ideology of the USA, which rules the world. Power makes its own truth. I see no seeds of change within the next half century, so if I'm going to live under this Truth, then its true enough for me.

Its not about me personally. If kindness led to success with women, and I was a lifelong virgin, I would be fine with that. But sexual competition is about which male can demonstrate the most cruelty, brutality and sadism. And I have to live in a world like that. Thats what I can't deal with.

As I said in my OP, even someone with no investments, can have their life ruined by a stock market crash.

Is my post misogynist? From my perspective it makes women look like Chamberlains and men like Hitlers. So if I do hate women, the reason I hate them is because they don't hate men.

IDK the longer I stay away from humanity, the more I feel its pointless to even dialogue with them since their minds are crafted by the cruelty and brutality of natural selection. I don't think humans can even comprehend any ideas that are harmful to the survival of the selfish gene.

 

a stock market crash can certainly affect their life, but it can't ruin it unless they let it.

 

Well, does anyone have advice on how I can live in a world like this? I mean I just don't want to be around humans any more, if they are what evopsych says they are. I feel like I'm among wolves. I would never voluntarily have anything to do with a human. And as for the involuntary need for employment, it just doesn't seem worth working just to live among wolves. I've been leeching off my parents for a year now, but they'll throw me out in August.

I mean what kind of life can I live? This isn't about "girls", its about human nature. I just can't comprehend the insane cruelty of man, just like man can't comprehend my anti-gene worldview.

 

Uh... You could

1. Be a hermit in a bamboo hut and eat bananas.

BUT

you would be around animals, who have the biological urges you describe, so it really wouldn't help.

2. You could build a large house underground where no humans or animals could get in unless you allowed them to.(you could be old Greg!!!)

3. Or maybe, and I'm going out on a limb, you could hang out with cool people instead of the douchbag dumbfuck minority you describe in your posts.

 

I like option 3 for him. Stop acting like the world revolves around you, because it doesn't. If you want to have a better life then you're the only one who can do that. No one on this site can or will do it for you. So stop with all the woe is me shit and get your butt into the real world. I suggest you see a therapist or psychiatrist instead of self destructing.

 

Anyone else aside from me wondering why you're asking humans advice on this topic, when you say you would never "voluntarily" have anything to do with a human? As far as I know, I'm not bionic or an android, but I have been wrong about things before...

 

At the very least, the OP was interesting, and certainly a change from the many boring posts in here.

 

The short answer is Yes. However I would remove "evil", and "cruelty" from your question as those words are subjective and meaningless.
Also your post is the perfect example of why it is not good to ruminate too much.
Stop ruminating.
Just live.

 

The whole 'girls are attracted to bad boys' shtick boils down to one thing: Confidence is sexy. It's sexy as hell in guys, and for folks who don't have self-confidence issues, and haven't bought into the 'pretty porcelain princess' mythos, is pretty damn sexy in girls too.

Seriously, the only reason why many nice guys finish last is because low self-esteem, low self-confidence, general uncertainty and nervousness around women is basically not hot. It can be cute, you try it out once or twice, but it doesn't tend to make for passionate love.

It's a pain in the ass that confidence seems to be meshed with arrogant macho pinheadedness or just general cruelty so often. Not sure why so many jerks have so much self-confidence. Gets to be a question, if one gets to the point where you just want to settle for Mr. Right Now. Do I deal with an asshole, or a shrinking violet? I tend to go for the latter, and try to build up their confidence some in the process, but they also have the bad tendency of being clingy.

Makes me often consider just sticking with women.

 

Whats so great about confidence?

 

probably because women started jumping all over them as soon as they started acting like jerks...

 

truly worthy of rep.

 

Shrug. I don't know. A lack of it though...I don't know. Someone in a state of fear just isn't as sexy. Nervousness, uncertainty, hesitancy, just doesn't add to the heat that builds up around sexuality. Shyness is ok, as long as there is some fire behind it, or something solid.

It just feels like someone who has low self-confidence is going to need constant reassurance, going to be emotionally high maintenance. And from everything I've gathered, that's something guys have an issue with in girls too. They're more likely to put up with it though, as it's considered the 'norm', within the societal script. Just like girls are more willing to put up with a guy being an arrogant jerk then guys are to put up with a girl acting the same way(being a 'bitch'). Because it's more the 'norm' in the societal script.

 

Could be. Sadly, we have the standing trope that girls like bad boys. And bad boys in all our stories always have such confidence. So before girls get a real handle on their sexuality, get experience under their belt, they see jerks and bullies and mistake it for real confidence.

I've also noted that it's almost exclusively young girls that go for the assholes. Many of us seem to grow out of that right quick. Just a lot of 'Nice Guys' don't seem to notice that.

 

Isn't "confidence" just a demonstration of the individualistic drive to dominate? Its not about my personal life. I can't live in a world driven by cruelty, and domination. Frankly I don't know why humans were willing to survive as serfs and slave for so many centuries. What the heck is so precious about breathing? I don't get humanity at all, and the longer I stay away the more insane they seem.

 

I disagree I think the situation is much worse in college than in JRHS or High school.

In fact I quite miss those days. It is only in college that I became the miserable wretch you see before you.