Are me and my girlfriend weird?

I text the girl i love all day. We very rarely run out of things to say.

 

We were, except I don't have a cell, so it wasn't texts.

After a while, you don't really need to talk as much =P

 

I'm 21 and I call my OH too! I know you're trying to assert some kind of pseudo-maturity here based on a premise of "I'm older so I must be wiser" but it really isn't working. Ignorance is ignorance regardless.

 

What do you mean i don't have to hear the answer? Obviously if i ask a question i'm going to read the response...?

And again, dunno what you're talking about, we do have "voice conversations" i said we text 24/7 when we're not with each other how can i have a "voice conversation" when i'm not with her? I'd rather not walk around all day talking on the phone, texts are more convenient

We do have lives outside of our relationship, we pretty much have two different groups of friends for the most part. Just because we talk a lot doesn't mean we don't go out and do our own things, phones are pretty small things you do, you can bring them anywhere..... lol

Yeah i know what you mean, i don't text while in the middle of a conversation with somebody else, i have a few times but only if its important, and i wait until i'm the one talking not them, but i try to avoid it when talking to others, unless i'm in a big group and everyones talking to everyone then its not as big of a deal if i send a text here and there

 

Maybe you do, maybe you don't .... I can't tell from here.

Fact is that you are able to just turn off one side of the conversation.

More convenient? What a crap argument.

 

OP, its very sweet that your girlfriend and you are so talkative. Personally, I hate texting...I pretty much refuse to text most of the time. I find it annoying and rude, but that's just my opinion.

My husband and I, after 4 years, can still talk for hours on end, but we also enjoy a comfortable silence sometimes as well. You don't always have to talk in order to get to know the other person better, or enjoy their company.

 

you are 17 . and you have problems . shut up read and study for something decent in your life . let gf second or third .

 

Really? I didn't know that, would you mind telling me what these problems are? Thanks

 

If your only question is whether you and your girlfriend are weird, well, who's to say what's normal? If you're happy, good for you! You shouldn't have to care what other people think of your relationship.

Just don't be disrespectful of the people you're with. Try to refrain from pulling out your phone while you're with other people, because it's rude. Even if you don't think it's rude, some other people may. On that note you may want to think about pooling your risk. It sounds to me like you're losing touch with your friends, in favor of this girl, and that may not be healthy. On the off chance that you break up with your girlfriend, you don't want to be left with no one, so be equally mindful of your friends' needs.

 

I thought it was weird how little me and my gf talked.

but now we ca-noodle so much in person that if we didn't talk by phone we'd never know what was happening with the other.

we talk like every 72 hours, kind of low but we both have 10 hour days, and I only use text for business. I just personally like the sound of her voice and getting her to laugh. Getting a "lol" is just not the same.

I don't think text is very modern, I feel like society is taking a step back. We invented these cool things called phones and now everyone is going back to carrier pigeons. But I cannot deny how many times it was helpful to have a written transcript of communication, like a lawyer "can I get that in writing"

 

I was with a girl from when I was 15 to when I was 19, then I went out with another girl for a year right after that. Both these relationships were very intense; we saw each other all the time and communicated a lot blah blah (but perhaps not as much as you). I am now suffering the consequences of becoming so reliant on a girl for comfort and companionship. I also isolated myself from a lot of friends. Don't get me wrong, it is awesome that you two share a connection like that, but just be careful not to get into bad habits. They can be rather insidious.

 

^Definitely be aware of the effects it has on your friendships. People don't like being around other people that are so confined in their own little worlds.

I know this first-hand from one of my best friends and another good friend of mine - they both are wayyy too into their SO that I barely ever WANT to seek out their company. Talking to them is often forced and what isn't forced has been beaten to death and is no longer interesting, yet it is fresh to them because they are so used to their SO and not me (friends).

They also tend to get offended more easily and our interests have shifted greatly - things we used to do together are no longer fun, they do not want to expand their horizons by much and usually act like hanging out with me is a task and aren't really down anymore.

Not to mention, it is pretty awkward to realize that I am pretty much the only other person that my friend talks to anymore, besides a very closed circle - that involves the other couple I am talking about.


Just be aware that a girlfriend at your age rarely lasts into your adult life and even more rarely reach beyond that. You don't want to experience your world crashing when you or her decide enough is enough.


Then again, these are my observations as an outsider - I don't really have much experience inside an intimate romantic relationship.

 

Before we lived together, we regularly stayed up all night to have a 7 hour phone conversation and send texts, then went off to work the next day, where we would send texts whenever possible. This all went on for at least 6 months.

Now that we've lived together for 2 years, there seems like far less need to be in constant contact, and actually if it's sustained indefinitely it can become unhealthy. We enjoy a bit of distance every now and then to be ourselves, then when we do come back to eachother at the end of the day we have plenty to say.

We can also say a lot of what we were desperately trying to before in other ways now, like a kiss in the morning or making a meal or a day out together.

All-consuming passion is great at the beginning of a relationship, but we have lives to live.

 

Man, this thread totally jinxed everything.... lol

Everything was completely fine and normal until a day or so after posting this... right after, we started getting into a few minor "arguments" for the first time, she kept getting upset with me, then we barely talked for the next few days... I dunno what it is, but suddenly i don't really want to talk to her? It seems so messed up how i just suddenly feel like this out of nowhere, texting her now feels like a chore, and i have intentionally missed school just so i don't have to see her... How can things change soo quickly? It's not even her fault, like nothing bad happened... i just suddenly out of nowhere feel as if i don't like her as much, weird...

 

recently discovered masterbation?

 

damn, i don't know how you have time to talk at all. i barely have time for a social life, and i have 24 hour days.

 

That must be love.

 

you're 17.