Anyone ever been shared by bf

A friend might be willing to help you out.

 

What can I say? You seen to have made your mind up very quickly, as long as you and your bf are sure that you are both ready... go for it. It may or may not happen tonight, I certainly hope you don't just pick the first guy who approaches you, this should be a special thing so if you don't find the right person, don't spoil it by rushing into it.
Also I'd say a bit of dutch courage is ok, but don't get steaming drunk because that will also spoil it and you won't remember it all as clearly.
Keep us posted, I'd really like to know if it all works out for you.

 

Man that was messed up. We did it but I think it's fair to say it didn't play out the way my bf and I had planned. I don't know how he managed to go to sleep after that, I've not had a wink of of sleep all night, I wish I could talk to my friend but it's way too early, I'm going mad thinking my bf and I arent gonna get over this. Shit

 

Oh babes I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm up, want to PM me? Or just post here, we're all friends and I think you'd get good support from people who've been following your thread. Whatever happened, I'm sure it's nothing that can't be fixed.

 

Thanks Greg, I really need to talk to someone. Went out with my friend, we hooked up with two guys who looked really cute and she left really early, which pissed me off already because I thought we were gonna do this together. She just went "you can do this, have fun" and buggered off! So I'm left there with this guy who's nice but really shy and we're just making small talk, he's not making any moves and I'm thinking this is hopeless, ain't gonna happen tonight. I'm trying to be flirty but it's not working, I can't understand why and I'm thinking he's either gay or I must look awful. Then I ask him have you got a girlfriend and turns out he's just been dumped, so it all figures.
One part of me thinks don't touch this with a bargepole, but the other part says this could be perfect actually, I can help him get over his ex and go through with what we planned, so it could work for everyone. I lean over and hug him and kiss him on the cheek. He looks at me like it's the first time he's seen me and tells me I smell really nice. I'm thinking now we're getting somewhere, I say thanks, you smell nice too and lean over again and this time I kiss him on the lips. He doesn't kiss me back straight away but I stick with it and before long we're snogging properly and I don't know if it's the prosecco but suddenly I feel really turned on and I really, really want to take this guy back home.
Then he asks me if I have a bf and I think "shit, what do I tell him? if I tell him the truth, this guy's gonna run a mile" so I say "sort of", he tries to get me to explain but I just say it's complicated and thank god he doesn't press me more.
After some more talking and snogging I say shall we get out of here, he's not exactly jumping out of his seat, he's sort of hesitating but he does follow me out in the end, we go out and get an uber ride to my place. I know I should tell him the situation now but I can't with the driver looking at us the whole time while we kiss (fucking uber drivers).
Outside my front door I know it's the last chance to come clean so I tell him "btw my bf is upstairs". He's really confused, says ok do you want to go to my place, I realise I have to tell this guy the truth so I do. I explain everything, that my bf was this fantasy of watching and we want to try it out, but we've never done it before. I ask how he feels about it, he says he's not sure if he could do something with another guy there, he's never done anything like this.
He looks really nervous so I decide the best way is to kiss some more, so we do and he relaxes a bit, I pull him inside and I keep kissing him and dragging him up the stairs to my flat. I'm worried if I stop to look for the keys he's gonna chicken out, so I have to fish the keys out of my bag while snogging him. Eventually we're inside and my bf is in the living room, sitting at the computer desk. There's this really super awkward moment where we all look at each other and no one says anything, then my bf just says hello, comes over and actually shakes Matt's hand (Matt is the guy). I can't believe how cool he is, he offers him a beer and we all sit, I'm next to Matt and my bf is sitting opposite. They start making conversation like there's nothing unusual about all this, talking about their jobs and shit, I can see Matt is a bit unsure but he goes along with it. I'm thinking this is just weird, I thought my bf would make himself scarce and let us get on with it.
Eventually it's Matt who says how long have you and Gill been thinking of doing... "this" and we finally get to the subject of sex. Matt says again that he's never done anything like this before and he's not actually sure if he can do it, I step in here and say don't worry, we can just be in the bedroom by ourselves as long as we like and my bf will only come in if and when we decide. I kiss him again and it feels really weird to do it in front of my bf, he's just watching us and doesn't say anything.
I think fuck this, nothing's gonna happen if we just sit here so I grab Matt and take him to the bedroom and shut the door.
I'm not gonna describe everything we did, anyway it takes a while for Matt to relax but eventually we start doing it and I'm really enjoying it, like much more than I though I would, something about knowing that my bf is next door and can hear everything turns me on massively and I start moaning really loud. This is when my bf opens the door and starts looking through a small gap, Matt freezes a bit so I grab his hips and tell him to go harder cause I don't want him to stop and chicken out.
I can't see my bf but I know he's there so I do my best to show him how much pleasure I'm having, cause that's what he said he wanted. I moan super loud and tell Matt how big he feels inside me, then I remember my bf likes the girl to be on top so I go cowgirl and now I can see my bf behind the door. I start riding Matt really hard and with my hand gesture to my bf to come in but he stays there. I don't understand this but I think fuck it, I'm enjoying this anyway so I ride even harder and cum super strong, screaming my head off. Matt cums too so I pull out and lie next to him, kissing and cuddling.
I can't see my bf again so I don't know if he's there but I'm not worrying about it, Matt looks really cute, all relaxed after cumming and I tell him how well he did.
After a while he says he'd better go, he gets dressed, I stay naked and follow him to the door. My bf is sitting on the sofa and I can tell he's sulking, I'm thinking what the fuck did I do but I ignore him, take Matt's number and kiss him again, then he goes.
I turn to my bf and he's not even looking at me, I ask him what the hell is going on and he won't talk. It takes me ages to get him to talk and then we have this massive argument where he says I didn't need to close the door, it was like I didn't want to share with him and the whole point was he'd be involved. I tried to explain I couldn't relax with the door open but he wasn't having it.
Then he says when he opened the door I had just carried on with Matt like he didn't exist. I said I went on top of Matt like he wanted and I called him to come in but he didn't. He said he didn't feel welcome, I was clearly having so much fun with Matt. I couldn't believe this, I did it all for him and he couldn't see it. The he starts going on about the noises I made, how I never cum so hard with him and was Matt really much better than me, I completely lost it then, said you fucking idiot I thought that was what you wanted, I was being loud for you, it's your fucked up fantasy to see someone fucking me better than you, isn't that what you said?
In the end he calmed down a bit and said he realised he was out of line but he just felt really confused, he wasn't expecting to feel those emotions and just needed time to deal with it.
We cuddled in bed and he managed to go to sleep but I couldn't. I feel really confused myself, I thought I'd done right by him and I feel betrayed, but maybe he just needs time like he says. Right now I'm thinking I'm never gonna do anything like this again, it was ok at the time and I'm not gonna lie I felt real pleasure and it was a major buzz when I came on Matt, but I thought my bf was there watching it and loving it and clearly he wasn't.
I think I fucked everything up and maybe it's over between us now.
My bf is up I better go talk to him. x

 

Oh dear. I'm really sorry things didn't work out Gill but - and I hate to say this because I'm not an "I told you so" kind of person - I have to say this is a classic case of rushing into something you are not ready for.

I am looking at the date of your OP, that's 5 days ago and you were saying "should I consider this", your words not mine. You asked for advice and the advice you got (not just from myself but from a few other people) was to take your time and really think about it, because it's a big, big step to take in a relationship and it can easily break it.

You said you agreed, but then 4 days later you're out on the pull and you take a random guy home to fuck him in front of your boyfriend. It doesn't take a relationship counsellor to tell you that it was way, way too soon for that and it was always going to go wrong.

Your boyfriend was clearly emotionally unprepared to deal with the monumental event of seeing you being pleasured by another man. Also, you hadn't really planned things properly. I just need to read back through your post to point out several areas that you both should have discussed beforehand:

1. At which point do you tell the other guy about your boyfriend watching? Answer: you should have done it back at the club, certainly not on your doorstep. He deserved to know what he was getting himself into rather than being pressured into it after taking you home. I don't get the impression that you gave much thought to this person't state of mind. He was upset and confused from having just come out of another relationship, and I'm sorry to say you sort of took advantage of that. Sure he didn't have to go through with it and I'm sure he enjoyed it on some level, but he didn't have the full facts from the start and that's because you hadn't planned ahead.

2. Are you going to be comfortable with your boyfriend being there in the living room when you arrive with this other guy? If you had thought about this, instead of all the awkwardness that took place you could have agreed on alternatives, for example your boyfriend staying in the bedroom pretending to be asleep while you and Matt got it on in the living room. Once you were both relaxed and ready, your boyfriend could have joined you to watch. No awkward and pointless conversation (I can't think of anything worse for the poor guy, I cringe just thinking about it).

3. If you are going to move to the bedroom, what happens with the door? Open or shut? As you can see, small details like this can make a huge difference to the dynamics of a cuckold encounter and it's important - no, essential to think them through.

4. What level of interaction are you going to have with your boyfriend during sex, how much eye contact, how much talking? This is where all the practice through fantasy enacting and role playing can really help prepare both partners, but you didn't do any of that and instead jumped head first into a RL situation.

Having said all that, I also want to reassure you that this doesn't have to spell the end of your relationship, unless you want it to be the end. This could be the lesson you both needed and with enough talking, reflection and love you can get through it and maybe even make your relationship stronger. My wife and I have had our share of hiccups along the way, times when I felt she was getting too emotionally involved with one (or both) or her bulls, other times when she felt I was being overbearing with my interest in what they did. What always got us through was dialogue and honesty. I said from the start, it takes a very strong relationship to make open sex of any sort work long term, so this right now is your first test. And you can get through it, I'm genuinely rooting for you Gill. Good luck and keep us posted.
❤️

 

Thanks Greg, just a quick one because I'm about to go out for lunch with my bf but anyway we talked loads and sorted things out, but I agree with everything you said and we were both really stupid, it was too much too soon. Speak later x

 

P.S. Thanks for the help! PM me later, I have something for you to say thanks x

 

Oh wow now I'm really excited. Whatever it is, I look forward to it . You don't owe me anything BTW but I'm not complaining...

Glad all is well with you two, enjoy lunch

 

Greg, check your PMs. I need your email address, I can't upload images through here.
All well with the world again, we did lots of talking over lunch and we decided we're just going to explore our fantasies a bit more for a while. We are not completely excluding doing it again, it wasn't all bad (actually a lot of it was really good for me!) but we were definitely not ready this time. x

 

That's great, really happy for you Gill. It sounds like last night's events were a necessary step in your and your boyfriend's journey of sexual exploration. Don't let it put you off experimenting, I feel you two have the potential to live a very adventurous and fulfilling sex life, but do take your time with it and keep talking and sharing your feelings, worries and desires.

(P.S. Many, many, many thanks for the gift. I'm not worthy of it but I'll treasure it forever )

 

My bf in high school would share me with a few of his friends but only oral

 

Did he watch you doing that or did you just tell him you'd done it?

 

He watched and was involved

 

Did you enjoy that and have you done anything like that since, or would you do it now?

 

Yeah I actually did really love it. I've done some similar things since and hope to do more

 

I felt the same way be untill both my husband and a friend of mine who happens to be a sex be therapist explained it to me and both were almost verbatim. Now we embrace it.

 

Hi Meg, I PMed you a question, I hope you don't mind.

 

Who do you think gets more out of it? You or your husband?

 

I would say equally beneficial but obviously different