ok, right i guess i will tackle what was said in reply to my post now...*takes deep breath* No i don't believe that everyone will have the same experience as i had, i don't believe-at least i would like not to believe that there is that much bad in the world, but its hard to see sometimes. i do feel however that these situations should be prevented form happening, i know you cannot stop a 16 year old doing much, i have been 16 you remember! but still more can be done. i don't blame my parents for what i went through, i don't blame them for not stopping me although they did try and i do believe that it was my mistake to make and has made me a better person because of it..blah blah blah i know you've heard it all before... but, there are way to many cases of young girls being 'groomed' by older men who gain their trust whether they are sleeping with them or not, this information i know. my dad is a phychotheripist so believe me, ive read the books, ive heard the tale and it ain't pretty. and to be honest id rather every relatinship with this sort of age gap in youngsters was stopped, yes even the ligitimate ones(which i still believe is wrong), the ones where s you said sar, have a loving strong relationship. if this was the case then so much suffering would be prevented and if these couples were serious about each other then they could wait surely!! i don't believe what you said about being with a maturer person as tere would be less' unwanted pregnancies' this is bollacks! at least the poor kids wouldn't be taken advantage of and it decreases the chance in them feeling pressurised into doing something they really don't want to do. if they are with someone their own age then at least they share the same insecurities and the same confidence in themselves. this is about contraception issues and NOT about whether the man is experienced or not!! Yes i am 19, and this is worlds away from being how i was at 16, life changes things and my life experiences have changed me. of course you can get very 'old' 16 year olds too but that doesn't by pass the fact that their hormones are still going through so much upheavel and they are not 'mature' yet. you cannot escape that fact. Dok- did i seem that young really? this surprises me as normally people think im a lot older because of my world views and opinions. just interested. I am not saying that 16 year olds shouldn't be allowed to experiement or have sex....i just think it should be more controlled(i know this is almost impossible). but in the situation we are speaking about between a 16 year old and a 28 year old it is just plain wrong. im sorry. even if the 16 year old thinks she wants sex with the guy-its his duty not to!!!!! if he was respectable in any way that is. on a final note, my last long term partner was 27 and he was a virgin till the age of 26 and ther is nothing wrong with that. in fact it makes me respect him more! he was one out of choice not necessity. tell me what exately is wrong with waiting untill when you do have sex you know that its properly 'making love' and is of a deep spiritual connection rather than some cheap shag on a satuarday night? I know so many people who have been hurt r changed by sex, it does change everything whther people are brave enough to admit it or not, and its not a shameful thing if you do not want to have sex with someone. *sigh* why does it have to be such a given in our society?! that if you go out with someone you are autimatically expected to sleep with them? and if you don't you are called a tease. personally i hate this..... anyways id better stop writing or no one will end up reading this... *sits awaiting the replies* namaste x x x
I'm 33. You're gonna seem young to me. It's inevitable. You're certainly mature and sensible for your years, but youth's about more than that. Even unjaded optimism can be a sign of youth Ummmm..... from what you said about him previously, he sounded like a guy with issues! So I stand by my original statement
