Am i too young?

Mike we dident end up geting them, and i do it on occasion. I find acid worse then shroms but i always get bad cramped feelings from shrooms after i start to come off the trip. We just smoke a few bowls and hung out. On the car ride back to her house she was laying on me and every time we would lock eyes something was stopping me from kissig her so i figure its stil to early to try anything. I really can enjoy just hanging with her ALOT so i think if we get into a boyfreind girlfreind relationship it will last a while.

 

Excellent! A much better date scenario.

Well, now I'm in agreement with the others who said don't wait. Close the deal! Go ahead and kiss her!

You must understand that if she is being that solicitous to you it is an insult to her for you not to close the deal. It is like going home with a woman and then just sleeping next to her and not with her. Either close the deal or just don't pursue it in the first place. (That was a common real life example from the experiene of managers I've known who ended up being dragged home by pretty office workers whom they felt extremely attracted too, but also felt edgy about the office ethics involved.) That is a good way to turn a girl into your psycho-blond enemy. This is of course much more extreme than what you are referring to, I’m just using it as an example to illustrate the female psyche, but clearly she is trying to reel you in and you are holding back.

You need to make up your mind, either you are going to pursue her and close the deal when she clearly offers herself up to you (in this case she is just asking for a kiss and not sex) or just don’t even go there. You can’t sit on the fence in situations like this, or it will turn quite ugly when she gets tired of being insulted. From the female perspective it is an insult not to be taken when she makes the offer.

If you feel something holding you back when she is clearly giving you the green light then either you are being too timid, or your psychic alarms are going off and deep down inside you are sensing that she is not someone you want to get involved with. In that case, get out now.

So my advice is to make up your mind, get out now, or close the deal immediately the next time the opportunity arises. You need to probe your own psyche about why it was that you felt hesitant and come to a conclusion. There could be a good reason why you are feeling hesitant, in which case ditch the situation if you don't feel comfortable with her. Alternately if it is just bashfulness, get over it, if you really like her enough to not disappoint her.

Of course, at your age, it is going to be extremely hard to tell the two states apart. So my question too you is, can you describe in more detail why you felt so hesitant when it is so obvious even from your brief description, that she was practically begging for a kiss?

 

Let it wait and ride out, see if you feel the same way a little later and you will know if it is actually love. It really doesn't matter how old you are 14 or 40, you can still find your love but since you happen to be 14 a lot of people will try to convice you thqat what you are feeling is just hormones. Remember that age is a number and to never doubt your self because of what others may say, keep theiur thoughts in mind but don't let a grop of people saying, "you're only 14, you don't know love" make you leave her. Wait to see if you feel the same way but don't wait too long. My best friened's soon to be wife he met when he was 13 and now he's 20 and she's 21, they're happy, because they trusted themselves and waited to ump into anything comitmenty.

 

Disaster speaks! That is a marriage that will never last. Girls grow up relationship-wise WAY faster than men. Girls are ready to marry long before boys are. If a man didn’t play the field when he was young then he DEFINITELY will when he is older. It is just the law of nature. The above was supremely bad advice.

 

lol, they're liek the happies people ever. Besides, I told him to stay away from anything comeitmenty until he was sure. lol. BTW, he actually proposed, she was scared she wasn't ready and wouldn't make a good wife.

 

Travis - I knew this female when we were children (6 or 7 years old), and we would play "doctor" with each other, checking out each other's private parts.
So, many years later, when we were in college, we knew what each other looked like underneath, and had some really wild sex.

But at 14, you are far too young to attempt this. Keep your love for this young girl pure - a kiss, or holding hands, or a cuddle. Keep the sex part until later, and you may meet up with her again when you were both ready, as we were.

I know a guy who lost his wife to cancer, and looked up an old high school sweetheart on the internet, and hooked up with her again, and they are now married, 40 years after they first met.

 

:agree:

 

Well im 120% sure i want to persue her...and i wasent really fully sure she wanted a kiss...she looked kinda scared in a way...i will see how things go next time but i can almost garuntee a kiss...as for the sex...we r both virgins and well i dont ever need to have sex with her i really want to but in the heat of the moment idk if i ever would at this point...i also think barley seeing each other will help because we will look more forward to seeing each other not to mention all day and night saturday along with all day today there hasent been a second she got out of my head and i kept catching my self talking about her to my freind...we were riding quads high like we usually do but i elt as if she should be on the back of me with her arms wraped around huging my back...im a bit worried since i dident kiss her i should be worried she is affended and gave up on me...but once again it was only the second date...

 

Lust. you are too young to be in love my friend.

 

Ah, well then that is different. 14 is quite young. With this description I would say that you did the right thing in not pressing her too strongly on the matter. It sounds like you are very perceptive and will do the right thing at the right time.

”Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” -Shakespeare

Your mind has been invaded. Obviously she is thinking about you. There is something very psychically invasive about the way females invade the mind of a man they wish to reel in.

I’m just being a pessimist. When you explained further it is obvious that this was not the case.

 

Another bad sign. Usually it is the female that is pressing for marriage, not the male.

 

Hey mike, thanks man i really apreciate all the help u have giving me last night on the phone she was telling me to get my brother to drive me up there so i dont think she was affended. And let me reword the sex thing "I dont think i would have sex with her till we r much older." haha thats what i meant.....srry i was a little high : /

 

All I am talking about is a kiss!!

I was just fretting over your not kissing her. Sex is way way off from a kiss! Especially at 14. Be VERY weary of anything more “committal” as your 14 year old companion says.

You can kiss and tell and still be free to kiss another. However, if you have sex, then you are committed, and there is no turning back from your commitment, unless you are ready for all Hell to break loose.

Just give her a kiss next time. A gentle loving kiss that lingers, but does not sell your soul. (Or maybe cop a feel along with it! But even then be weary!) Sex with one so young is to be bound and tied. It is not a thing of fancy to be toyed with. You are far too young to know who you want to spend your life with. My great grandfather married his 14 year old girlfriend (he was 14 too) but when my grandmother was 17, he left them both for another girl, of may grandmothers young age (17). My grandmother was so bitter about this, even at 60, that she drilled into, over and over, that a man must seek YOUNGER woman, and only when he is ready. Even my great aunt, my dear aunt Glady, was furious when my cousin, her great grandson, married his childhood sweetheart at only 18. She said, “A man should play the field before getting married. He is much too young…” I met them both, and while I was not impressed with my cousin, and found his girlfriend quite attractive, I must say that I was in complete agreement with her the he was clearly not ready too marry, and that he had been victimized by his girlfriend.

Sex is a serious matter. If you want to have sex, pick an older woman looking for a precocious boy toy. Do not go for a little girl batting her “innocent” eyes. There is no such thing as an “innocent” girl in sex. Be weary.

I never suggested anything more than a kiss. Understand me well.

*hiccup!* I'm a bit high too! I tend too speak my soul too much when I am drunk God help me I can't afford any pot right now which tends to keep those loose lips that sink ships much more quite... I should go back to work, but I so loath being a slave to big corporate interests...

 

Shes 16...haha and i dont know if i want to spend my life with her...but either way if things would happen and we would have sex then if we arent meant to be sex wouldent make a difference. Either way it would be pretty much 100% her decision. I also should add im pretty mature for my age...so is she and thats one reason we get along i think. I have done every thing but sex...and thats because ive been waiting for the true one...so im not gona rush into that untill im sure shes one i could love forever.

 

Ah, so you like older women! When I was 20 my girlfriend was 30, so I know where you are coming from.

 

Haha 10 years and 2 years are a big difference tho! I dated a girl 3 years older than me too...but that dident last long she was a bitch.

 

"Let me squeeze them in my hand, I am the one the only one!" Such you shall tell her, and you shall mean it in your heart as did I! If this is not how you feel then as time passes, as she proves her unworthiness too you, slowly in time, you will come to realize that you are the absolute master of the destiny of a virtuous girl that comes too you in true sincerity.

Enjoy the animalistic bitches now, while it is your time, but when you have reached that age of 30, when Saturn has make it’s second return upon your path, you will find that nothing looks the same. Father Time brings many realizations to a man of power.

 

if i understand that correctly...haha

 

it might be true love...i have a question- have u told her u love her?

pm me the answer

 

PM a self admitted black heart about whether or not you are truly in love? Such a disgusting ploy.