Never say never, because life can throw you some pretty crazy curveballs. And the way you think and feel today, can change in a month, or a day. There was a time when I never thought that I would get involved in someone else's marriage. That idea lasted 29 years. Sometimes we connect with people, unintentionally, on very deep levels. Sometimes people are in unfortunate situations and all they seek is solace. You feel their pain and give them comfort and before you know it, feelings develop between you. Sometimes, those feelings lead to further actions. You don't always mean for it to happen, but it does, and you get caught up in it, before you really see it happening. Sometimes people are in relationships with spouses that they have no intention of leaving. But sexually they are dissatisfied. They love their families and don't want to hurt them, but they have drives and physical needs that must be fulfilled. I do believe that for some people, sex is truly a necessary part of life. And to force them to remain in an asexual relationship is torture. Sometimes it is better that they seek the sexual fulfillment outside of their relationship, so that they can stay in the relationship, else it will end, tearing the family apart. And let's not forget, there are always two sides to every relationship. Cheating generally is not the cause of the relationship failure, it is a symptom that there is a bigger problem going on. Some seek the thrill, but I think that is rare. Both people have a part to play, in the breakdown of the relationship. I think a lot of people that get involved in relationships outside of their marriages (or other committed relationships) are looking for affection and attention. So often, when we are together for a long time, we begin to take our partner for granted. It is easy to get caught up in day-to-day life and forget that our partners need our attention too. The first person we tend to ignore, when our attention is needed elsewhere, is our significant other. The kids need us, our jobs need us, the pets need us, our homes need us, and we forget that our partners need us too. At the end of the day, when we've been pulled in a million directions and we finally get to lay down, sometimes the last thing we want to do is expend more energy on our spouses. And often we don't go the extra mile for them. We just give them a nice kiss and expect them to understand that we are too tired for them. Often, this goes on night after night. And we expect them to smile and be understanding. This is unrealistic. Also, we stop being grateful for their presence. We stop trying to impress them, letting our attitudes and appearance go by the wayside. Often we think that once we "get" them, we can stop trying. This isn't true, once you "catch" that person, you still have to work to keep them. I've seen so many relationships where people have been together for years and all they do is bicker. They stopped being nice to each other, a long time ago. They nitpick one another and degrade one another and have lost all respect for each other. It is truly sad to watch. And it is no wonder that their relationships fail. Why would your spouse want to talk to you, when you are mean to him or her? Who would you rather spend time with, someone who tells you how wonderful you are, or someone who points out all your faults?
