hmmm... interesting... i have a respect for ppl who are open about not wanting to commit, and preferring to hoe themselves out (no offense intended)... we were talking about that today at work actually. one of my friends' son is in h.s. and will ask girls if they want to be his ho or his girlfriend. and he'll tell them straight up that he doesn't have a gf, but does talk to a lot of girls... while this may make him seem like a dog at first glance, you gotta respect his honesty. at least he's not asking 50 different girls to be his gf, pretending he likes them for more than sex, and then cheating on them.. only to break their hearts... yeah... anyway, i didn't answer the question.. i never thought i would cheat ever... i don't consider myself to be that type of person, but i have cheated with one boyfriend. it was a cumulation of things that brought the circumstance about... but it made me feel horrible, so i've told myself i will never do it again, and hopefully i wont. which brings me to ask a question... who here believes the saying, "once a cheater, always a cheater" ?
I believe in the once a cheater always a cheater thing. Someone ever cheated on me, I wouldnt even feel bad about breaking off the relationship, even if its a 10 year marriage...
Not sure how I feel about the "once a cheater..." thing, but I agree with all the people who don't tolerate cheating and won't have any part of it in their lives. I personally think it's pretty much the worst thing you can do to a person short of physically harming them in some way. I'd also sooner break up with someone than cheat on them because the latter act implies a need for the former. People need to be honest with themselves and their partners or things turn ugly.
I have a few affairs...but now I have a boyfriend that I really really love and that is the last thing that I would do
Hmm, I don't believe in once a cheater, always a cheater. There are too many different circumstances that could have lead to the cheating. But on the other hand, if someone cheated on me, i probably wouldn't be able to trust that person again. Me, i've never cheated. I agree with Hanzo, i'd sooner break up.
Cheating is probably the only thing I cannot work through in a relationship. I have been cheated on by a girl I loved, and it was horrible. Cheating or even helping another person cheat is something I would never intentionally do. One time at my buddies house in Virginia, I hooked up with a girl and we went upstairs to his roommates/her best friend's room. Afterwards we were laying there talking, and she decides to tell me she is MARRIED. Stupid bitch. I got up and went downstairs, got my buddy Jeff, and said let's go to Waffle House.
Cheated- yes, as much as I hate it. But sometimes things just happen, its no excuse just the way it is. And yes sometimes I step up to fill in for the unfullfilling husband. But then again, now I am sinlge and simply avoid commitment. I would rather spend my time with the woman of my choice for the day , then move on to the next. I am open with this information when I meet someone new, so they dont get the wrong idea.... I call it keepin my options open.
Let me ask you this: Why would someone cheat on you in the first place? Why would they want to hurt someone SO much that they love SO dearly? I'm a VERY stubborn person. She wouldnt even have time to say "I'm sorry". She'd already be out of my house.
i've never been cheated on, that i know of. i would not cheat, that is to say, date or sleep with someone behind the back of someone i was committed to. however, i have been in open relationships, and i really can't say i like them or can recommend them. for me, they have always ended painfully, one way or another. my current marriage (such as it is) is a rather ambiguous open relationship. anyone who has been reading my posts for while is probably aware that suresh and i have been having marital trouble. i finally got him to agree to counselling, and while he and i have more-or-less agreed not to trash the marriage quite yet, we still have some serious concerns about compatibility and our future together. in a nutshell, neither of us are really quite sure how we feel about each other, whether we can make this marraige work and last, and whether or not we want to. it is a very confusing situation to be in. however, there is a certain wonderful freedom in simply accepting that i'm confused, and in the process of uncertain transition. confusion happens. learning, growth and change come out of confusion. and in admitting to each other that we are confused, and accepting that state of confusion, it has diffused much of the tension and insecurity that has been aggravating our differences and causing strife. by accepting that i don't know what the future holds, i am open to the possibilities, in whatever form they take - if we decide to stay together, i am able to accept the long road of counselling and challenging communication that healing the marriage is likely to require. he he or i find ourselves attracted to someone else, we have the freedom to honestly communicate that to each other, without "cheating". if we feel in time that we still can't make things work, we have the freedom to let go. right now i'm not interested in dating anyone else, or even committing to my husband. accepting the confusion for me has been an big step in making peace with the situation, which, in the long run, is even more important than "working things out." i think at present, it's best for me to be developing a healthy, loving relationship with myself, rather than running into the arms of another man, or sacrificing happiness for the sake of "saving" my marriage.
If the relationship gets to the point that you're having affairs, you should end it or seek counseling if you hope to salvage it. I'm not talking about the younger brothers and sisters out there, who are single and experimenting with life. I'm talking about lifetime partnerships like marriage. Although I do realize that we're all human and we make mistakes. Sometimes, we're weaker willed and easily led astray... it would personally break my heart if my husband cheated on me, and vice versa. We just try to keep things exciting and fun. Go out on dates, little presents, flowers, phone calls, emails, etc.
I'm the type that would kill them both. But I wouldn't run over them with my Lincoln Navigator. Probably shoot them. A crime of passion. Kinda romantic, really. Just kidding!
Not into playing Clear Lake II? Regarding vehicular murder weapons, MB has a sensationalistic Aura the Navigator lacks...*g*
