Advice For A Man Dating A Bisexual Feminist?

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  1. drumminmama

    drumminmama Super Moderator Super Moderator

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    According to Pew Reasearch, male applications overall have been stagnant.
    http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2014/03/06/womens-college-enrollment-gains-leave-men-behind/

    I do think that higher ed should be available to anyone who wants that degree and will work for it.
    I support the idea of low to no cost community college.


    I can't say definatively, indeed no one can, but I'm willing to suggest that male head into well paid trades at a higher rate (women seem to head into lesser paid trades like cosmetology and physicians spass instants, vet teaching and the like. Men gravitate to computer, construction trades, auto repair and the like).
    So while it isn't educational attainment, it is a path to a comfortable material life.

    As for feminist-controlled media, thank you, I needed a laugh.

    I suppose all media is controlled by Jews, too.
    Pro tip, they aren't. Journalism is still male dominated, overall. That's including publishers and owners, as well as writers and editors. Editorial boards and ombudsman boards are heavily male.
    I'm not counting the press room or ad staff, as those don't dictate content.

    I've had only one fellow Jewish assistant editor, in a decade of newsrooms. Some were capital cities, some suburbs, one rural. None were big corporate, but one was part of a holding company.
    I've almost always worked under straight, white, nominally Christian males. And only one drank to excess (since we are on stereotypes). The bottle of Maalox in the drawer was true, however.
     
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  3. newbie-one

    newbie-one one with the newbiverse

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    The article that you cited, titled, "Women's College Enrollment Gains Leave Men Behind" does not support your assertions, and indeed, the opposite. It shows a substantial increase in women's college enrollment. Beyond, this, the 50% decline I spoke of was in the applicant pool, not the enrollment rate.

    You say that the article says that male applications have been overall stagnant. However, not even the word "application" can be found in the article. Were you perhaps being intentionally deceptive here and hoping no one would actually follow through?


    Because you are utterly humorless?

    What basis do you have to characterize my position in this way?
     
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  5. drumminmama

    drumminmama Super Moderator Super Moderator

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    Based on this:
    In 1994, 63% of recent female high school graduates and 61% of male recent high school graduates were enrolled in college in the fall following graduation. By 2012, the share of young women enrolled in college immediately after high school had increased to 71%, but it remained unchanged for young men at 61%.
     
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  7. usedtobehoney

    usedtobehoney Senior Member

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    Wow. This thread went all over the place. To go back to the OP his problems have nothing to do with her being "feminist" or "bisexual" there are many women who act the way he is describing, it's for some an entire way of life and for others a phase they go through.

    As for feminism, if there's one thing I've learned about feminism, it is that there are as many different definitions of feminism as there are people in the world. In actuality there are different "sects" of feminism and the kind that men seem to gripe about is actually the rarest type of feminism.

    I consider myself to be a feminist, but I also advocate for equal rights of all people. I believe that a lot of the issues between men and women, while some are brought about by a particular extremist wave of feminism, are largely perpetuated by Western society. Men and women alike are victims of societal standards that are largely unsustainable and when women become very successful in this society, it is by and large that they must detach from or hide their feminine traits in order to become successful, so it shouldn't be a surprise that when masculine forms of success are preached to us as children, as young as 4 years old, that some women lose touch with their innate feminine gifts and some purposely push them aside as they get in the way of financial success in many fields. It bleeds over into their personal lives.

    It's a fine balance, if you can find a balance. One that I've been struggling with my entire life and it wasn't until I came into my thirties that I feel like I've been able to keep a pretty good balance. I've gone through phases of being a bit too masculine, to a bit too feminine, or way too masculine or way to feminine.

    I have a preference for traditional roles, but that is not something that in mind is influenced by my interest in feminism at all. I believe that if you come across any woman who is a little too masculine, you should definitely be more assertive and let her know that it bothers you. This is where self-awareness comes into play.
     
    usedtobehoney, Jun 14, 2015
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