I don't klnow. I give up. I'm not planning this shit or trying hard core to stop it. What happens, happens. And I'll control it if it gets bad.
She knows what's she's talking about. And I can guarantee, no matter WHO you finally decide to sleep with, you'll probably wish it was someone else some time down the line. When you're young, it's really hard to tell if it's meant to be, and well, if it's not with this guy, then you'll wish it was the next guy...and if not him, then the next. It's damn near inevitable if you go into it with such high expectations. The only way to avoid situations like that would be to wait until marriage, but waiting until marriage is kind of crazy in my opinion. But that's another thought for a later day. For now, just go with the flow, Flannel. If it happens, it does, if it doesn't, it doesn't. Whatever happens won't likely do anymore damage to the friendship than what's already happened. Just carry a condom with you in case. Sometimes you hit that point of no return and you reeeaaaaalllly don't want a baby.
You don't want that because you were born wanting that. You want that because you were told a fairy tale and told that you should try to make your life conform to that fairy tale. Sadly, you've been tricked by well-meaning people. No one's life is ever like that. Insisting that your life should be like that is just setting yourself up for a great deal of pain and disappointment -- especially if you find the guy and the situation that you think will be perfect. Sex is not romantic. Romance enhances sex as a sort of foreplay...but the actual act of sex is much more animalistic and spiritual (regardless, really, of the emotions involved). Romance is in the mind. The mind creates the excitement of anticipation, which heightens the pleasure...But sex is not at all in the mind or the imagination. Sex is in the now and it is incomprehensible.
The fine line between love and lust is often clouded; and while that’s a romantic sentiment (and you should keep it as long as you can) it’s not the real world Hotwater
How many times have I thought myself in love only to find out I can't stand the bitch after I was done "in there"?
Yes I do and I think you have a great point honey. forget what others say. its not THEIR bodies, its YOURS and you wait until you're ready and dont let assholes make you feel bad for not giving in, but i think you already know that When I was a virgin. I told myself that i wasnt gonna sleep with some jerk off as my first time so I popped my cherry and Im happy I did that and the first guy I slept with was a virgin too (seriously) and I was happy about that. So you either follow your idiot friends who disagree or you follow your mind and heart, it'll be one less mistake you do in life
I don't feel she should or shouldn't have sex. That's up to what feels right for her. I just feel the idea of love being sold to teen virgins is a caricature of reality.