A Question for the Girls

*nods*

 

But should she really wear the jacket if it was given to her by an ex? I mean, yeah it's just a jacket, and I'm not saying she should throw it away, but does she have to wear it when he's around?

 

I agree.. she sounds cunty. tbh.

..Tho I Do see Iode- and Zoomies point that it SHOULDN'T bother you what she wears, if something makes you uncomfortable she should at least try to respect that- and not mock you for it.

 

Yeah the other thing. Let me solve that for you.

Go to the bathroom, look in the mirror, and say the following: She's a woman, I'm not supposed to understand.

Now do that everytime you pass a mirror.

By the time you're my age you won't have forgotten it.

 

This is 100% correct.

 

it's a piece of clothing. Cotton and polyester and a cheap Korean YKK zipper (go look at it, I bet it's a YKK zipper made in Songtan, Korea). It's not like she's wanking it with a blue jelly dildo that he bought her (and don't go ask her if she is, that would be wrong).

You gave her a hoodie, he gave her a hoodie. It's cold. Maybe his is warmer. Or maybe rule #2 with the mirror thing applies. You're not supposed to get it.

Or maybe she's trying to get you to prove your love by making you fight for the right to have your hoodie worn by her (if this is the case she's way too immature for anything but rough sex after a night of drinking, but that's my opinion).

Move on.

 

I dunno if I agree with Zoomie there. Failures of communication can be complex. I suggest talking to her about it in a way where you aren't feeling defensive. Say that you feel that you too aren't communicating well, and you want to get to understand her better, because you're crazy about her.

Or whatever you feels appropriate. But yeah, let the hoodie go. She probably sees it not as an emotional attachment and more as a hoody. You're not being able to respect what she wears shows something needy about your personality.

Take it easy, she's yours now, and try your best to resolve it.

Best of luck.

 

If she is that set on a hoodie... and it's not some story that like her ex died in it and imparted his eternal love to her....

Than yeah, she's too crazy and homeboy should move on.

I suspect she finds it comfortable/stylish.

 

That's the sad truth about alot of girls. To you, it is something more than just a hoodie, and to her, that's all it is. So if you try to fight it, it's just a moot point and suddenly you are needy and too sensitive. I agree with Lode, the biggest issue here I think is the lack of communication between the two of you. Try to work on that, and if it can't be resolved, move on with your life. You sound like a decent guy, you're just misunderstood probably. Again, been there done that.

 

Disagree all you want. Communication is really important in a relationship. But if you want to be in the relationship and she wants to wear his hoodie, you either have to suck it up or find a normal girl who probably burned all her ex-boyfriend's clothes when she caught him fucking around on her.

 

that is definately an awesome way to remember that all women are crazy in some form or another

i won't deny it i'm totally crazy, and some how i can't stop being crazy about guys who are asses!

 

Were you talking to me or the op? I agree with you completely on this.

 

being a smart ass is better than being a dumb ass!

 

No actually I was talking to lode.

 

But an ass by any other name...

 

Oh okay. I gotcha.

 

Well, when I first met my husband (I was 17 at the time, he was 21) he was the typical bad-boy type, and showing emotion besides anger was not something he did. Absolutely not. It drove me crazy at times, I could never really figure out how he felt or what he was thinking because he was so reserved. The first time he said he loved me, it was out of the blue "you know I've always loved you" and I looked at him like he was insane, because no, I hadn't really known. How could I have? Not the person he was then.

A lot of it was due to the family in which he grew up in, they were never ones to show their emotions or affections towards one another. Not that they didn't feel certain ways persay, just that it was difficult for them to express it. They were all extremely reserved, held a tight reign on their feelings whatever they were.

Over time though, being around me (I'm very emotionally expressive!) he couldn't help but learn to open up more. Everyone noticed it, his friends, family...it was like he did a 360.

Most people say that he's changed so much over the years, that it's amazing. Heck, I've even gotten his family to open up more. I mean, like I said, if you spend time around me long enough, I can usually get even the most reserved person to start talking after a while because I just do not give up. I'm one very persistant mama. *laughs* My SIL used to be super reserved, you just couldn't get close to her no matter what it seemed, but now the two of us act like total crazies together, share everything together, and always tell one another we love each other before hanging up on the phone. And we mean it!

Now granted, my husband is much better at expressing himself, but he still isn't a sappy, overly emotional type guy. Which is good, because I don't think I could handle that. I'm more than enough sappy and emotional for the two of us.

So I would say, a happy medium is the best combination.

 

eh. too much emotion is just, yuck. Like, Im the girl here, right?

 

The balance lies in the two sources of God and Shakti. I worship Uma (as obvious from my sig) but live out Shiva. Embracing Destruction, one could say.
The question is, what are boys emotional about? Im emotional about Bach, quality films, and psychedelic drugs. Other than that, Im slipping through the pulse of life we all catch waves of here and there.