6 weeks and I'm going mad!

ok i put some pictures up temporarily in my album, once you've had a look I'll delete them.
Sorry about the bad picture quality my camera ain't great! haha

 

kind of defeats the point of dreads...

 

they look good to me, just forget you have them. everything they are doing is completely normal. disregard everything anybody tells you about how they should be, or how you want them to be. they are what they are and they will be what they will be.

wear a hat until you agree with me

wear different earings.

learn what necklaces dont hurt.

other then that, totally disregard everything, including what i'm telling you.

just forget it

 

^ I agree. They look really good. Nice, maintained, and adorable on you.

 

I quite disliked mine for about the first two months... mind you mine were backcombed, twisted, and waxed to "perfection". I eventually broke a dread while palm rolling, and decided something was up. I then stumbled across this forum, did a deep cleanse, and stopped maintenencing, now six months in and I'm quite happy.

NP pretty much summed it up: worked great for me

 

Ahoy ... Hmmm, still a bit difficult to see properly, but judging from the first pic, the one with just a single lock, it does look like some hair has been broken where the lock is the thinnest, it looks like it is the hair sticking out on the base side that is broken.



Is this the one that you are the most concerned about, or are there others that are the same.

OK, I'm gonna get gunned down by the 'veterans here, the ones that support the absolute non-intervention approach and say that you need to take some approach to strengthen that thin area.

This is my suggestion, dig it or ditch it ...

First you need to get that loose hair at the base end of thin area back into the lock, the hair circled above. Don’t use a crochet hook though, you don’t want to cause more damage, rather use a needle and needle threader … a needle with a reasonably large eye will make it easier to thread the hair. Once the hair is threaded in the needle, work the hair in straight up the thin area … don’t go sideways, the needle and threaded hair must go along the length of the lock so that it passes through the thin area.



Second, if you can do the same with hair on the other end and running I the opposite direction … i.e. towards the base so that it runs through the thin area again, that would be a bonus. Same as before, don’t use a crochet hook, you don’t want to do any damage.



The more patient you are and the more gentle you are if you take this approach the better …

Third … and now I’m most definitely gonna get it, but do you have any wax, preferably the wax with oils in, like hemp seed and / or vitamin E … like the DQ Wax for example. If you do, I really suggest that you moisten your fingers with some first when you work those loose hairs in. The idea is not to turn that are into a candle, you still want natural movement of hair … what I mean is just a light layer on the hair that you feed into the lock.

The reason being that the dryer ones hair is the easier it breaks, by having a protective coat on the hair that you are working with, the stronger these hairs will be. Once you are finished working the hair into the thin area, rub some of this type of wax on the target area too … not harshly and not a lot of wax either, just basically moisten the fingers and rub gently and side ways … NB, don’t’ use clumps of wax, just moisten your fingers.

 

Ahoy … Otherwise, your locks are looking really cool in general and you are in the ‘frustrating phase’ … that’s why some veterans have a bit of ‘attitude’, because they have been there and came out winners, they never gave up when they could have easily done so … as annoying as they can be, they have paid their dues, they have had the ups and downs, the blood, the sweat, the glory … hahaha, anyway, yeah, just get a cool woollen tam / beanie and try to avoid your hair being too dry … blab, blab, blab …

Jah Guide!

 

if you want pretty straight hair, use a comb to fix your mop.

if you want your hair to look like dreadlocks....

do nothing, they do that on their own.

your hair looks like it is supposed to look.

there is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with the hair in the picture this post is about. EVERYBODY has dreads like that....

mine are all different sizes, they go in, out all types of crazy shit, its what they do.

as it is now, that thin spot will either stay, or suck into itself and fatten up. if you fuck with it, it will probably be fucked up. i'm just sayin

as far as don's advice, some of what he says is good, as for what he is telling you now, not so much.

this forum is a great source for you to find horror stories on people fucking with what should have been left alone.

its also a REALLY GREAT source of horror stories about people using wax....


use your best judgement.

 

Ahh you guys sure know how to confuse me! haha. Thanks DonBK for your detailed (VERY detailed!) advice, I really do appreciate the time you put in to answer my question

thank you

I'm not gonna tell you whose advice I am going to follow for fear of creating an argument of some kind, but I really am glad of both. if it fails I'm gonna do what the otherr person told me instead! haha we shall just have to seeee

 

Ahoy ... For Sure BD ... but what I said above is hardly messing with the lock that much, just threading the loose hair into the thin area and then leaving it. Otherwise Bro, I’m really not disputing anything that you have said

The main thing is that nobody actually knows whether that lock will break or not, it’s all just speculation … so nijisarr, it’s up to you if you want to intervene or not. If you do, that’s what I suggest.

Of course the non-interventionist approach is the default method here, and does generally come with no negative feedback.

I would suggest that you watch the dryness aspect though.



One Love

 

Looking at the pics, it just looks like hair knotted below some straight hair. It was caused by the way your dreads were created. Right now I have big straight bits and then balls at the end cuz I T&R'd them. They are super thin right above where the knots started taking hold.

I really don't think you have anythign to worry about. I'd just leave them be and look at them in two months. You will find your dreads will have tons of bumps, etc in them unless you maintain them a lot.

And we like arguments on here. It brightens our boring lives. =) not that I argue, but I enjoy the reading material that ensues.

 

They look fine to me

-locks aren't suppose to be even the whole way down

-loose hairs mean they're locking&moving

-things will always get caught in them.

 

ur hair looks really good i think ur just paranoid

 

Even without dreads, straight hair gets caught in necklaces and earrings. I know I have some necklaces that have their own dreads on them. lol Figure out which jewelry is catching and don't wear it anymore - good excuse to spend a little money on new jewelry that won't. While you're out, get urself a new tam to hide ur hair from urself. it's easier to b patient with something that's not in your face all the time.. (pun intended) haha

 

if that pic demonstrates the problem, then you are pretty well off. leave it alone.

 

best advice ever!!