25 year old virgin feeling like a loser

My good female friend just got engaged to what was a 32 year old vigin this year. And she is a gorgeous girl... So please don't fret being a virgin at 25.

You'll find the right person.

 

Hey Lana Sex isnt that so important than u think.....It comes when ull have a boyfriend!!!!!!!.....i think ull become the most adorable mom in the world!!! trust me!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I don't actually want kids but thanks.

 

Ya know... It's interesting that I was more worried about losing my virginity and being totally impatient about it up until I hit 20. It was phenomenal, the way my thinking pattern changed just like that the moment I turned 20. Suddenly I didn't ven care any more, and thus has remained a virgin so far. I'm all for premarital sex and all, so it's not like I'm some puritanical zealot or anything. It's just that I can be VERY picky, even though I'm kind of...not... It's hard to explain, really. LOL

 

Wow! You are a virgin still? That is really interesting. You seem very knowledgable considering that.

 

Haha, I think D said the same thing, lol. Well, I find reading to be very helpful.

 

I was thinking about this topic yesterday so I thought I'd update it. Some random strangers might be interested...

Now 26. Still very ill. Still no sex.

No change really.

Sigh.

 

youre already 25, you might as well wait until you can do it with someone who loves you enough to see past you being sick...its well worht it that way

 

I also suggest the online thing. I've met awesome people online and it truly does feel so much better meeting them when you know things about them. Besides, you have the advantage of being older and wiser. I really hope you stay healthy!

 

Come and see ol' Libertine.

And I'll make sure you are a WINNER.

 

Hi Lana,

I understand exactly where you are coming from. I am a 31 year old female, and a virgin for various reasons including poor health. You just have got to try and think positive. It doesn't always work, and oh my gosh I certainly, definately, have my really low days about it, but we can't change our situations right now, and really - do we really want to sleep with some random stranger, for just one night ? I know I don't, so I'd rather keep waiting.

I sometimes feel sad because society has put so much emphasis on sex, and that being a virgin is somehow a very bad thing, something to be ashamed of. I know it's not, but films such as the 40year old Virgin, that are meant to be comedy films, put so much pressure on the fact that you are somewhat a lesser being for not sleeping with someone, so sometimes it is hard not to feel sad about it all.

For me, its not so much the sex as such, its that much talked of closeness of being with someone, and all those, again much talked of, feelings, that I want to have and experience, and not just for one night either.

Please try to keep your spirits up. I firmly believe it's not how old we are, when we have our first experiences, that is important, it is who we do it with that counts and under what circumstances.

I live in hope that I will find that special someone to trust and be with, and I'm
sure you will too, even if it takes a while longer than you desire and wish for.

Thinking of you, and sending you heartfelt positive healing thoughts, from the UK.

 

If it makes you feel better (which it probably won't), I think sex is very overrated. It's fun to watch the person you're with and it's great exercise... but ultimately, it's something of a letdown every time. At least, I think so.

 

I don't think you need to feel like a loser just because you are still a virgin. I am sorry you are sick, but it is perfectly normal to not have had sex, and I agree with everyone above who has said it is better to wait for someone you really love.

 

Spanky little slutfaces?
I guess yip you made it!
PM me when you get set up OK?
I love you Spanky! LOL

 

Hi Jinny,

Thanks for the response. I'm glad someone out there knows how it feels - there don't seem to be many of us. Thanks for thinking of me and I hope your health improves soon.

 

Hey, if you dont mind me asking, what kind of illness do you have?

 

Yeah, but if you haven't met someone like you want in 31 years, maybe you should lower your standards a little. I was a virgin for longer then I wanted to, and I also fit into the category (at least I did) of wanting to find someone I loved as opposed to someone I just wanted to sleep with, but I'm sure glad I've had sex

 

Dude thats some shit you dont say in this situation or it could just be me but i guess on the other hand your probly right but saying it in a differnt way such as when your ready you could find a "fix"

 

Hey, hope you feel better soon. Though, sounds like it's not a nice thing you have going. Didn't read all the thread...I'm a quick reader but it's almost 5am, too early to read 6 pages...

Eurgh...and after reading 'Watching The Wheels' reply I'll be glad to miss any more of that...gives...whatever it is they are...a bad name.

Anyway, 'tis good you're not ashamed of being a virgin. Chances are I still will be at 25. 6 more years to go. >.< In all honesty...not really bothered about sex. Not avoiding it or anything, but, there's more to life than sex. Friendship is much more important, love and friendship, for me anyway, but, I hope you feel better soon so you can go out and live life.

 

Oh, love.. you're no loser, honey. You're a winner. How many people today can say this? You're a beaut, love, and there is nothing wrong with you that you haven't had sex yet, mate. Some that have had sex with someone wish they never had done it.