25 year old virgin feeling like a loser

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I was 22 when I first had sex--pretty late for a guy these days. Fortunately it was with someone I love, as sex has been, at least for me, very emotionally-influenced. Sex itself would do very little to stimulate me without the emotional connection.

My honest advice would be to focus on the relationships in your life first--friendships and other. Sex can be great, yeah, but it's nothing compared to having people you trust and care about in your life. If your regular social scene (at work, school, treatment center, wherever you are in your life given your medical issues) isn't sufficing, I imagine you can find support groups for people with chronic conditions. They could be based through a medical center, community organization, or place of worship.

 

Okay this is really, really, really bad. The fact that someone would feel ashamed and frustrated because they weren't given an opportunity isn't right. You want sex to something special, something you can cherish.

Listen to this: I lost my virginity when I was 12 years old. I lost it in a closet at a party shortly after I tried alcohol, marijuana and xanax for the first time. The girl I lost my virginity to was also 12. The reason we tried xanax was because a bunch of older kids who were completely unaware that we were in 7th grade pressured us into doing it.. and it wasn't peer pressure in a D.A.R.E. sense. We just wanted them to think we were cool, and sex and drugs at that time were cool or at least that is what we were told. It ends up neither of us remember but everyone is talking about it the next day. Because of this we both get worried and end up telling our parents. This is traumatizing.. I remember crying my eyes out as my mom got home and me having to explain to her I snuck out, went to a party, took drugs, had unprotected sex and don't remember it. Her parents immediatly blame me and tell me they're getting a lawyer so I call the girl who had the party and my parents were on the phone and she ends up telling us that there is a video. The older kids taped the entire thing from a few shots of us in the closet to them giving us the drugs... needless to say I did nothing wrong, but still to this day.. sex isn't what I wanted it to be

I'm always gunna remember how I lost my virginity and not only is it embarassing but it was a terrible situation. There should be no social pressure to have sex and you should wait till the opportunity finds you rather than you just searching to lose your virginity. It makes me so sad that you would even consider having sex with someone that you dont love or at least have some sort of connection with solely because you havent had it at your age. Make sure the first time is the BEST because there is only one time that you lose your virginity. There is plenty of time to have sex.

 

Hey, at least you're not a 40-year old virgin!

 

No Worries Lana, when the time is right, it will happen!

 

Its good to vent off stuff that is bothering you, especially when people dont know who you are...
You should never be ashamed of anything, especially things like this. You have been through hard times due to being ill, from what i gather from your posts, so you shouldnt make yourself feel worse about something as petty as sex, ya know... The time will come, all that is important now is you...
Due to my endo its painful at times for me to have sex..my bf is supportive but before I met him I had to endure shit from guys i dated cause I refused the meat they were selling cause it was too painful and they didnt understand that.. Just know the time will come and to not make yourself feel bad about it at all or let people make you feel bad about it...

 

hey lana i can completly,totally and utterly understand what your going through.
im the same age (25) and in the same situation ,although for me i feel its a psychological problem .it goes back to when i was a teenager.i was a late person to develop sexually (i was about 13-14 when i did) and while all the other kids were discovering the joys of sexuality and boasting about it, i was in the dark.

the problem was i didnt know who my friends were and who were the people who cared about me.i got mocked and ridiculed by people i thought were my friends,which scarred me for life.
ever since then i have felt incredibly inhibited about my sexuality,i know i have a very strong sex drive but i feel i cannot express it.
ive had quite a few relationships ,but none have been sexual or very emotionally rewarding.i think this could be why ,because i simply cannot trust those that are close to me if they are not sharing their emotions or feelings/experiences with me.

almost all the short relationships ive had have not been very 1 on 1,
the girls ive dated have so many friends that they are co-dependant on that i never get any alone time with them.also the friends they hang out with are rude,aggressive and narrowminded much like the people who scarred me when i was younger,which causes me to feel inhibited again.

i feel like im constantly smashing my head against a brick wall sometimes and i wonder what the hell i must have done in a previous life to get this torture.

 

who cares? It's just sex...nothing wrong with being a virgin..men would prob prefer it ans if you'e a guy and a virgin if a girl digs you she won't care either way...just watch some porn made for women and act super confident during the deed.

 

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Thanks to everyone who responded positively. (WTF is with the post above? Does this place have moderators?)

I'm not so much ashamed of being a virgin as I am frustrated with being too ill to go out and do anything about it. (I'm too weak to even get out of bed a lot of days.) I guess that's what I meant about feeling like a loser. I might be ill but I still have biological urges and that's what's really getting to me.

I'm too tired to even masturbate a lot of the time. Frustrating!

I don't think anyone actually knows I'm a virgin (well, apart from you people), so nobody is making me feel bad about it.

Nothing will change any time soon so I guess I'll just have to deal with it.

 

I am 23 and still have not hade sex. It will happen when it dose, and if it never happens, ohh well. That’s life for some people

 

Lana I'd be happy to take care of your problem..if i ever get the money and time to fly to Australia, lol.

Good luck to you.

As for you jen, where exactly is bat country?

 

25's not that old.
A tad unusual but Life's full of surprizes - just ask.

 

You figure it out

 

Almost 42 here and still a virgin! Yes it sucks to not know what sex is like but I'll live!!!

 

Yeah but this is supposed to be a free speech site so naturally we're going to get alot of idiots in here.
Personally I'd rather put up with a few sickos (they're easy to ignore) than censurship.

That sucks Lana but at least you're capable of interacting here in cyberspace.

It's strange, we have opposite lifestyles; you're restricted as to how much you can get around, I hit the road when I was 16 and I've never been able to stop moving around, but in some ways we're in the same boat.

I did some soul searching a few years back and I realised as brief and meaningless as almost all my interactions with other people had been along the way sex for me, for the most part, had never been a good thing.
At best it was meaningless, at worst it was pretty distructive.

Because of that and the fact that casual sex has gotten so dangerous I've been celibate myself for years now.

Funny thing is this has been the sanest, most peaceful period of my life.

On top of that, thanks to the internet, in the last couple years I've been able to establish relationships with people that have a chance for some kind of continuity.

It's like the first period of my adult life was about physical gratifacation without any intellectual or emotional payoff and now this period is the about the exact opposite.

Honestly I'll take what I've got now over what I had.

If you can learn to ignore the idiots this (cyberspace, the forums, etc.) is a great place to get at least some of your needs met.

 

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its nothing to be ashamed to be a older virgin, just think tho, your going to be having amazing sex when you find someone.
im a virgin at 19, and i feel like a loser, i get alot of girls looking at me, and i talk to them, but we just dont click.
for the past few years ive really lost intrest in everything, stoped talking to my freinds, all i do is work now full time. so when some girl starts talking to me, i act excited liek i care but i really dont : ( i duno whats wrong with me.
ah well, your going to be fine, if you reach 29 and your still a virgin, PM me ,ill fly out there, and fuck the shit out of you. : D

 

She WANTS to have sex..
Lana: Go to bars if your medical condition allows it. Don't drink or puff to much and you WILL get laid. Eventually you can lose some weight if that's a problem. Wear a nice cologne, be clean(!!) and talk to the people. Don't try just to get laid(at first at least), have PHUN!! Don't baaah......... You see what I mean! Then, find a guy and get laid! Ladies can get laid easier than men!

 

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