14 years old? How young is too young?

You are to be commended for waiting to have your first sexual experience with someone that you cared about. The payoff for that is now having a wonderful memory that will last you a lifetime.

However, I fail to understand why you view your virginity as a gift. Please explain.

 

I guess because sex is a vulnerable thing, I have to trust whoever I do it with. Plus, I'm all about his pleasure. That turns me on the most, making him feel good. But I have to give a shit about him for me to give a shit about his pleasure. So I look at it as 'I want to do this for you. I want you to get what you need from me.' I feel like I'm opening myself up completely to him. I like that, it's what makes sex good for me.
I guess I want him to take from me, so I have to feel like he deserves it, and in that way it feels like a gift.

 

Oh yes, what you are doing is giving your partner a gift every time you are intimate with him .... the very valuable gift of yourself. I understand that and am in complete agreement.

I guess I wasn't clear in my question. You seemed to be placing a value on your virginity in itself as a gift .... or did I misread you?

 

I was placing value on virginity itself. The whole 'not anyone else, this is for you' deal. It's not like that every time we have sex though, just the first time. It's still about making him feel good, but less ultimate.

 

I don't think monogamy is natural for human beings. I think it is a social construct and was in actuality created fairly late in humanity.

Also, with the advent of "romance" and the "my girl" possessive property-type relationships combined with the whole religious aspect of the father "giving away" his daughter (i.e. property) to another man I don't view as sacred at all.

I view it as misogynistic and don't see women as "property", but as persons with independent minds, views and desires.

This whole possessive culture and the religious traditional concept of marriage has created a society of jealousy.

And, I believe has retarded human progress.

I maybe wrong about monogamy. It may be natural for some people, who knows?, but not humanity as a whole. It is merely a power-based, social construct created by a property-owning male dominator culture.

But, most women and men have been imprinted so early in life and the idea has been constantly reinforced through our culture and media so much that most believe it is the natural state, just like they probably believe the nuclear family has always been the natural state.

Furthermore, I don't see virginity as a gift. I see it as an obstacle.

 

An obstacle? It is harder to find a justification for a mans virginity as physically there is not a break or tear and if a young man chooses not to jack-off he will probably first lose his seamen in his sleep. But for a women there is a clear virgin state, for each girl to choose how much they should idolize it as they want, but I can understand from a guys point of view how virginity can seem like an obstacle.

Do you place more memory on the first time you do something?
Like the first time you took acid? your virginity? Because I do.

 

yeah, stupid hymen. i think it's there to make sure that a girl's fear of the pain or loss of the useless membrane is not nearly as strong as their need to get laid.

i'm not against young people having sex. i started at 14. i've never regretted it. but i know entirely too many kids that fuck their shit all up for years because they started before they had any idea what they were doing.

 

I'm 14, and I personally think that that's a bit on the young side. But it was your choice, and it's done now. Granted, she was more mature if I read your page correctly.
I'm a virgin, by the way.

 

Your opinion inherently interests me more than anyone elses as we can all speculate on what a 14 year old girl wants, where you more or less know.

I just have too questions: One how religious are you and what religion? (This will help understand your political alignment)

Two: Imagine that your boyfriend ,age 18, was arrested because your mom found out. he tells the police it was consensual and it was and he still goes to jail. Now that means the police are telling you that you do not know who you want to sleep with. Do you think you know who you would want to sleep with?