Your thoughts on BDSM?

Hello

I am from a red indian family and it means i belong to DASI family.. so my culture teaches me to surrender..Only happiness we can found is surrendering or submitting ourself..i only live with my grand pa and he is only one left for me in this world.. So i thought to find a someone who understand my culture and go on with me..so i am doing a survey like what is bdsm meant to you? if you are a real master? what you look in your sub girl.. please share your thoughts may be i can find someone soon here..

 

OK for starters a "real master" is just your typical douchebag who spends too much time on the internet talking to vulnerable women in chatrooms. Secondly, this is something that is rarely spoken of because of the too many real masters out there who claim to be the one in control and demand submission. Well scratch that, it's all bullshit. A true submissive has more power in the relationship than the "master" so never think you're under anybody as the submissive kind because you're the one in control.

 

I think submissives need to view themselves in new light. The whole key to the dom/sub relationship is the power, but without the sub there is no relationship, so the submissive controls the power because if they're all a sudden not interested, then the Dom has nothing.

Unfortunately it's been twisted around to where Dom's are taking advantage of a submissive, whether male or female it doesn't matter, the "culture" of a submissive is to for whatever reason, have zero say and all this obedience crap too or what, you'll make your Dom upset and they won't love you anymore if they can't have complete control? What crap.

If your bdsm relationship is anything like that then they don't care about you and honestly, they aren't Dom, they aren't Master or Sir, they're just a jerk preying on people.

So stand strong my submissive beings, you are the power and you are in control. It's not about what they want or desire, it's about what you want and how their actions make you feel.

Emotional blackmail because your master or mistress wants to take advantage of you isn't healthy and you as a submissive definitely are entitled to voice and reason.

 

The problem is the way the general public perceives BDSM. The Fifty Shades series is unrealistic `mommy porn', for example. And sadly, Irminsul is right. There are too many poseur masters out there who think they know it all and are the ones in control. I'm not into BDSM, but know enough about it from friends who are to detect fakes and pretenders.

 

I've always had an obsession with onna bugeisha, historic female warriors, and in Japan this meant samurai. Yes. Women were samurai back in the day. And like the male samurai they dedicated their lives to serving their masters. I think there would be something very sexy and romantic about pledging myself to serve my partner as my master.

Besides, I have the gi, hakama, a nice collection of swords, and 10 years of kendo and karate training. I'm halfway there anyway

 

Hmm, that's a exotic way of thinking about it. Maybe I am like one of those female Samuris. I have given myself to my mistress, we are loyal to our personal oaths and without me standing behind my shield and bearded axe, she would die.

So again submissive shows the power hehe. For I hack and slash and bash my shield over any would be suitors, for I give my all and courage to protect her and probably at some point, my life too. And as the heavens open to the sound of hooves and singing, the Valkyrie takes me to the halls up high where I can watch over her and protect her until we meet again.

 

wtf is a bearded axe ?

 

here is my axe

 

For I am Irminsul, lady of the Falcon Hearts and also dragons. And even from those halls up high I will seek my vengeance!! I'd be a pretty special Valkyrie, Odin would trust me I know. He would help me send dragons and Thor down to deal with all they asses.

 

Yeah for some reason cutting people to pieces just doesn't seem as romantic as brutally obliterating somebodies limbs with forced blunt trauma.

 

better save me some a that u be smoking......

 

bet I can cut more limbs n heads faster than you can goodnight

 

may you find this post some 3-1-2 years after you first initiated the bdsm, just because you have chainsaws and axes

 

Not sure why there is talks of chopping off limbs. Thats not BDSM.

 

Never mind making my own topic

 

I never heard of such thing either.

 

I do not know the actual history of this, but I find it fascinating. I do not know why. It is not the background or any "Dungeon" feel its more of a , I am completely helpless and in your hands type thing that turns me on if i trust someone, or much more fun to push limits and just have fun with the body we are in.

Yea i think you mixed up like murder viral videos and porno, but the whole getting off over power, really gets me going yet to really find someone who would be willing to try it and be up front with me and want to try it. I would probably read up more about it, to find out really what exactly is turning me on, but i really think its just the fact that you watch a woman almost helpless but at the same time getting off, and liking it...so wow. mind f

 

Neither of the first two posters have been here for years, but...

I couldn't agree more.

I can't abide those (generally male) dickheads who buy a flogger and declare themselves a "master".

If you intend to explore being a sub, hook into your local BDSM community. They'll know the actual Doms/Dommes you can approach about safe, sand, and consensual play.

If you don't have a local kink network, find a reputable on online.