Your Opinion... (Wisdom/Advice)

? ~ What's your opinion on the top five tips/wisdoms you would tell another about life in general? (Please don't put down famous quotes, even if you agree with them because I would like to hear your original thoughts about this) Thanks!
My Top Five:
1. Live your life; for all we know it may be the only one we have.
2. Don't ever let yourself feel like a victim.
3. Treat yourself and others grandly.
4. If it doesn't feel worth doing, don't do it. - Make your time/life worthwhile.
5. Don't judge. - Life may be harsher than it needs to be if you do.
(I fear that mine sound a little cliche... For me, answering my own question was a bit harder than I had suspected it would be - Good luck!)

 

1. Live in today. I take life one day at a time. Yesterday is gone, I can't change it. Tomorrow isn't here yet, so I can't do anything about it. That doesn't mean I don't make plans, I just have to remember the even the best laid plans can go sour. If you keep one foot in yesterday and one foot in tomorrow you shit on today.


2. I have no control over people, places or things. That's a divine gift and I don't have it. People will eventually rebel. Places and things are what they are. It all comes down to acceptance.

3. Practice humility. We are all unique in our own special way but, I am still just one of many. No better. No worse.

4. Pain is inevitable, misery is optional. Things are going to happen to cause me pain. A loss of a loved one, betrayal, etc. I'm going to be hurt. But, if I dwell on these things, allow them to take over my being I only make myself miserable. Today I choose not to be miseable.

5. Love yourself. I can't give away something I don't have. Until I can learn to love myself I cannot truely love another.

 

t.a. et al,

Hi I'm Jay. I just turned 50. I was too young for the first woodstock (didn't even hear about it till 6 months after it happened) and too old for the second(way too locked in and jaded to be free enough to venture forth)
1) don't be controlled
Not by employers who tell you you can not live outside the work- a- day world. Not by manufacturers who say you can not live without their products. Not by drugs or alcohol. Society in general is out to get you to comply. Society in general has "dumbed down". Some even I would say that there is malicious intent behind it all. I am starting to look at it in a new light. It's just easier to get people to follow. While society condemns addictive behavior it is necessary for you to be addicted to their booze, sodas, retirement plans, their welfare state. (salemen don't call it addiction they call it repeat customers)
2) do what you love
Or you will regret it later.
3) liars are everywhere know it and be warned
They will lie to you to get sex. They will lie to you to get money. They will lie to you for your very soul. Here's an zenlike koan. --How many little white lies does it take to make a big black one?-- Don't think it isn't, or wish it wasn't so. It simply is. I have discovered that most of history is a lie. Most of religion wether its Christianity Paganism Satanism is false. (yes I do differintiate between paganism and satanism) (and I do have an answer for the question of the day WWJD --- He would beat you like the buyers and sellers in the temple for gross commercialization of His Name and a form of whorship bordering on idolatry!!!!!!
4) keep an eye out for the anamoly When they say it can't happen or shouldn't happen yet it is happening then there are some holes in thier theory! Science is full of this sH$$. Eyewitness accounts of three eclipses in 70AD are proven to have happened much much later by computer modeling. Theories on the nature of light are contradicted by a simple 2000 dollar experiment. Palm leaf impressions in the "cut" stone of the pyramids show that they were poured like concrete. Heiroglyphic translation of zodiacs in the temples of "ancient" egypt come out perfectly matching dates in the middle ages. Computer modeling of astronomical events place the most likely date of the birth of CHRIST in 1053 AD. Not one single original source contemporary to julias Ceasar, pliny, herodotus, alexander, ghengas khan, cleopatra exists. Here I am 50 years old and I find out that all of ancient history might just have been concocted and collated by a church seeking to establish legitamacy. Most of what christian religion says is based on Christ is really what Paul taught and wrote. If we take literally what Christ said from what little is recorded it is diametrically opposed to what is supposed to be His stance. on and on
5) after you have stablized yourself. can fend for yourself. make your own food and way in life. Have children. Not before. They are a true blessing! I am about to tell you what I believe. Don't flame me its just a friggin opinion ok? When the body dies the cells live on for quite awhile. Hair and fingernails grow, its not all instantenous. But the soul/animating force is gone. I don't see any reason why this is not true at the beginning of life. I do not believe the soul enters the body till the pineal gland is complete. We are breeding without reason. Truly a rat race. The pro choice vs pro life issue is like so many other things that I am beginning to call The Shadow Dichotomy. America love it or leave it. etc etc etc.
I also believe that women are the superior sex. Though I can't stand having that lorded over me. Biologically I think its true. Emotionaly superior? Going back to the same movie over and over when you know its going to wrench the tears out of you smacks of addiction. Also returning again and again to the same abusive man does not bode well for the superior claim. Yet after 6000 years (SO THEY SAY) of dominance men have little to say about their ability to run the world.
The greatest addiction America has is not to drugs but to war.
That about sums it up. Peace be with you. Jay

 

Wow, "olhippie54" and "Jay1954", I really enjoyed reading a little of the two of your's wisdom. - Thankyou both so much for taking the time to give such great responses! I'm pretty new to this site, and so far I've most enjoyed communicating with people who have had more years to experience life than I have had because they have so much to say and teach about life, love, and so on...
~"Olhippie54"~ I really liked the last line of #1, i think I'll have to quote you on that sometime if you don't mind... I couldn't agree more with #2; I can't even count the number of times I've said the same things to people who have let others or situations get to them. #3 and #4 remind me of some Buddhist beliefs I've read up on before, which, as someone who has yet to find religion/faith yet - but finds both very important, I really want to look more into. And #5 is probably one of the greatest truths I can think of, now that you mention it. Once again, thankyou both a thousand times for replying!
~Jay 1954~ First, let me welcome you and, as many have wished for me so far - "I hope you have many happy posts". (Oh, and sorry you missed out on the Woodstocks - Don't feel bad, I wasn't born yet for the first one and was still living at home and not allowed to go to the second one so don't think yourself alone about being left out) Very good point in #1 mentioned in the last line especially, it does seem as though many are voluntarily becoming enslaved, especially when it comes to what we consume, as I interpreted as what you were saying. #2 and #3 I both found to be very true. - I like how much it seems that you have thought about the evils of commercialism; it looked to me as though it was a recurring theme in your answer and it's nice to see that people are questioning one of the biggest things in the society... (If i interpreted you falsely though, please let me know.) Okay, now what does "anamoly" mean? - It's in the first line of #4 and I have no idea (sorry 'bout my vocabulary...) But, nonetheless, #4 was really interesting - I very much enjoy reading/talking about theories and all that jazz. It's strange to think about how much of history has probably been tampered with and stuff. #5 I agree with entirely. Actually I'm writing a research paper on Overpopulation at the moment and your comments about when to have children is one of my topics on how to possibly help our global situation. (If you have any opinions on overpopulation I'd love to hear them; i mean read them) I'll have to think about your comment on females being the superior sex... - I read over that a few times and I really can't agree or disagree with you yet. - Perhaps in a few more years because I must admit that I still am quite naive about the opposite sex and people in general. (I'm far too trusting/optimistic about human nature). Thanks again for the great reply, I hope to here more of them in the future!

 

wow, holy long post....

here are my five truths:
1 - mornings don't start before coffee, and neither does the good mood
2 - it's better to be truthful than nice
3 - it's better to be poor & happy than rich and not
4 - value each day as if it were your last
5 - treat each person as if they were a reflection of yourself

 

~cerridwen - I especially liked #2. I've found that to be very true because in the shortrun, lying to be nice may seem to work fine, but in the longrun it will take a toll on your character... I'd pick honesty over kindness anyday... 'I can handle the truth'.

 

Olhip is the official sage of the Forums.

 

#1 Play hockey. It is the greatest thing on Earth.
#2 If you can't play hockey, at least go watch it. It so kicks ass!
#3 Don't take yourself too seriously -- no matter what.
#4 Make time for the ones you love.
#5 Live to serve others, and you will know peace and happiness.

 

Tattoed Aquarian,
Sorry spelling error. Brain fart. Anomaly- something contrary to the general rule or to what is expected, irregularity. if all of egyptology says that the pryamids were made from cut stone and dragged into place by thousands of slaves and a guy finds mammalian hairs imbedded in the stones or the impressions of palm leaves then something is wrong with the theory. Professor Joseph Davidovits did just that and was Blasted by the science community. Look up geopolymer in a web search. Peace Jay

 

I'm new here, but this topic interests me... So, as for sageful advice (or as sage as I can attempt):

1) Cultivate unique talents to work smart, not hard. For me this means making use of my good speaking voice, public charm, free sexuality, wit, and intelligence and lets me work out of my house, for myself.

2) Indulge yourself. I tend to live like a Spartan, so it's genuinely nice for me to go out and purchase something just for me.

3) If you're doing something for someone else, put thought into it. If you're going to hold something above someone's head or are acting out of obligation, just stop. The other person doesn't want to feel your bad vibes.

4) Be well-spoken. Raise points in your argument, not your voice. Listen and if need be, write down the other person's point of view and think about it.

5) If a relationship means anything, being "right" is always secondary to maintaining that relationship.

 

~Kilgoretrout - It's cool that you've found something to be passionate about (soccer i gather). - Your others were pretty cool too though...

~Jay - Thanks for the clarity; i usually find my vocabualry is pretty decent... - I haven't gooten around to learning more about the stuff you wrote about, but i really want to when i have more time.

~Abyle - Welcome! THanks for your reply. - Good advice... I do think that there are situations when #5 is n/a, like if your sig. other begins doing something that you feel you must take a 'moral stand' against or leave realationship over - I've been there before... (unforunately)

 

All i can say just never ever take your family members or loved for one granted. your friends too. Savor every moment you have with them and dont sweat the small stuff. Living life to the fullest has nothing to do with going on crazy adventures or skydiving or tripping on peyote. Its just about eing good to the ppl around you and loving as much as you can. Find your soulmate and have kids, or dont, but thats my plan. It took me untill after my first combat engagemnt and the loss of some buddies to realize this. peace take care!

 

~stoned soldier - Thanks for your advice. Sorry about your losses on the battlefield by the way. It is a good thing though that you did figure it out; i'm sure that many people never do. Wow. - I just looked at the info to the left of your post. - You're stationed in Germany, how cool! (I love to travel.) It also seems like you've experienced a whole lot for a 20 year old. Goodluck. Stay alive. Stay free!

 

Ice your sidewalk when snowey... I fell on my ass this morning and the little kids waiting for their bus laughed at me. - It's going to be a good day today alright...

 

^^^ bringing joy and laughter wherever she goes...

luvin you!

 

Gr8fulyDeadicated - Thanks; good to know someone appreciated my clumsy behavior...

 

TattoedAquarian,


wherever you are..wherever you travell..
carry always the 3 V's with you...
Vrede=peace,vriendschap=friendship,vertrouwen=trust..
vrede,vriendschap+vertrouwen are Dutch words..

also remember this:there can be no friendship...where there is no freedom..

there are many types of ships=wooden,plastic and metal ships..
but the best and most important type of ship is FRIENDSHIP..

the only unsinkable ship is friendship..

friendship is a little bit of sunshine...when it rains..

your best friend..is the one who knows all about you..
and still likes you..

a true friend is someone who thinks you are a good egg..
even though he knows you are slightly cracked..

What I mean to say here is the fact that all of us are different..
but true friendship,trust,sympathy and finally real love...
will win any war..that's the spirit of the sixties...
and anyone of us..should try to live according that spirit..

what is a friend??
a single soul dwelling in 2 bodies..

old tiger(Belgium)

 

^^^ You should totally do greeting cards or something... - You'd make a fortune!