If you are somewhat over weight what are your expectations for a mate? Do you get disappointed or upset when a slimmer person pays no attention to you? Do you feel that the slimmer person should not let your weight be a barrier. Or have you come to the conclusion that since I am over weight I expect to wind up with a similarly over wight mate. I ask this question because before I married my wife I dated a girl who was slim and attractive. I looked her up on FB years later and see that she is now over weight and continually complaining that guys have stopped coming after her like in the past. She can't seem to get a date based on her expectations.