Younger women attracted to older men. How common? What are the deciding factors?

In the past few years ive fucked a 21,24 and 30 year old. Im 60. they have all come onto me. My regular fb is 24. she has been around and knows what she is doing. Its been around a year now and we enjoy each other company. As long as they come onto me first, im game

 

Fortunately, as I seem to be coming out of this eye-struck drunken-like stupor, the thoughts of this young woman are fading. A little. Realizing the fact our interests seem so very different has helped.

 

Sometimes I really think they get off teasing us. They know they're doing it. Like those cock tease girls in high school.

 

Yeah, I could see that with some. I don't think this young woman is like that though.

 

My 24 year old fb is not teasing. Her boyfriend is good to her but bad in bed. Cums too fast, cant eat pussy. She enjoya my pleasuring her and while she may also be with other people for sexual satisfaction she enjoys the way i orally please her and my slow fucking as she has multiple orgasms.

 

Since posting last, I have seen this young woman several times at parties where we share mutual friends and acquaintances. When our spouses are around, she is fairly reserved. She is mostly just small talk. But, when we are alone, which has occurred 2-3 times, she acts completely different. She locks her eyes to mine without pause. She plays with her hair, laughs at silly stuff, acts excited, and reaches out for hugs. The last time alone, we spoke for 1.5 hours. We talked about interests, her family, etc. I finally told her I had to go and she gave me the biggest hug. She later came to my workplace to visit. I was in a meeting so missed her.

If there is not something there, I and her family member who thought there was some connection, have been seriously fooled.

Though I know it is wrong, and I feel the guilt each time I think of her, I can't get this woman off my mind. I consider myself balanced and mentally stable. Yet, I have become obsessed with my thoughts for her. There's rarely an hour that goes by that I don't think about her. It has gotten to the point that I feel I should see a counselor. I'm too ashamed though, so I have been searching on-line for things to help. I came across info on emotional affairs, and it fits this situation to a T! And that is not fair to my wife. It is only small consolation that I learn nearly 80% of men and around 90% of woman are estimated to have had an emotional affair.

Because we live very different lifestyles, and are at completely different stages of life, I try to use reverse psychology on myself. Besides the obvious moral dilemma, and the fact I have the most incredible wife, even telling myself I should not be attracted to this woman because of our differences, telling myself it would never work out even if something happened to our marriages, I still can't get this woman off my mind.

Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

 

My opinion is that men and women are all different in the way they learn about love and sex. I think that Tony was on the right track when he indicated that some young women are turned off by the thought of an inexperienced young man on top of them getting himself off and not caring for their physical and psychological needs. The alternative is to have sex with an older, more experienced older man. Once they have experienced loving properly they can look for the mate that they desire. In the case of an inexperienced young man, they will ultimately meet an older woman, bored with her marriage. I worked with a group of older women when I was 22 that were willing to help me with my sexual education. They all sensed that I was an inexperienced Horny young man and I am eternally grateful.

 

Other than feeling there is some sort of connection, I have no idea how she feels about me, sexually or otherwise. Besides her having the physical attributes that I find most sexually appealing, and the fact she looks so deeply into my eyes, the feelings I have for her go way beyond thoughts of sex. Besides really liking her, I suspect much of my draw to her is the fact someone of her caliber and age would give me attention. I say that as I have reached the point where I'm seeing age lines on my face, loosening skin. Riding through life having people complement my looks, I'm left feeling like half the man I used to be. Then, this beautiful, young, sexy creature gives me the time of day!!!

 

Young women love to hone their flirting skills. And older men are a captive and easy target. There is a degree of challenge with a worldly older more sophisticated (compared to younger) man.

ultimately they want a husband and potential father who will be there for the rest of their lives and not leave them widowed in middle age.

my wife has always liked older men. She had a 70 year old lover when she was 18. We net age. She was 20 and I was 31. Thirty six years later I have advanced cancer and she will be a widow in her 50s.

enjoy the flattery and the ego boost but consider it window shopping. It may be the ‘real thing’ but statistically it’s overwhelmingly unlikely.

 

Great post! I think it is more likely than not the case with this woman.

On another note, I am very sorry to hear about your cancer. Best wishes to you. Thank you for your post!

 

I am pretty sure birds do the same …

a female bird will always like an older male bird who has established feathers and knows the course of the wind

 

So my 24 year old fb who i have written about and is now 25 called me Tuesday and asked to see me. After a romp she showed me a picture of her friend and asked if i would meet her as she too has problems with her boyfriend who she cares for but is not so great in bed. Yesterday I met her and spent a few hours having a mutually enjoyable time with her. My friend called me this morning telling me that had. a great time and wants to see me again but was embarrassed to call me. Anyway we will do sol

 

Sounds like you are living the sexual dream of many an older man. Much less of an emotional anchor too, assuming no feelings beyond sex.

 

I'm now 60 and reckon nothing youngish will be interested. To be honest I'd hate to disappoint them...
However: this one comes under fantasies / dreams / whatever, but it's true. I volunteered in my spare time for a few youth groups and other organisations, and one night a man came in to see me. He had a problem with his daughter and didn't know what to do, but as he knew me he asked if I'd talk to her. She was 19, a student, good looking, but in tears. She had an addiction to older men porn. She had confessed to her parents that she couldn't help going to websites and watching videos or looking at pictures of older men, and masturbating to them, and her fantasy was to do it in person. This had frightened her so she confessed to her parents. I had to reassure her that she wasn't depraved, that she had done nothing wrong or illegal, and the Police certainly wouldn't want to know. She left with her father in a much better frame of mind.
As for me... I was in my mid fifties, grey haired, and had a raging hard-on. I just couldn't betray my position, and maybe her trust, by suggesting it was fine and did she want to meet up? Talk about a moral dilemma. I drive past her house on occasion and always wonder if she's still there, and if she's keeping to the straight and narrow...

 

Don't sell yourself short. Young women who have had a rather unmemorable experience or two with guys in their age range sometime look for calmness and understanding, a father figure if you will, for a relationship. At the age of 64 I hooked up with a woman in her late twenties. We had several trysts before I became curious as to why she was attracted to me. As we laid in the bed she softly rubbed my dad belly and said I felt safe to her. I didn't push to have sex with her and went with the flow. It was easier for her to open up and enjoy just being in bed with a man who wasn't going to judge or push her. She also pointed out that I wasn't in a hurry and made sex happen at an easier pace. I expect that as we men mature we tend to lose that wham, bam, thank you ma'am way of having sex.

 

Salve appena iscritto io 61 mia moglie 38 sposati da 12 anni insieme da 15

 

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a young girl being turned on my a much older man. I am 72 and I have a 21-year-old married friend on FB. She and I regularly chat - lot of sex talk, I live in USA and she in another country. I have asked her to get a visa to come and visit me in the USA with her husband and she promises she will.

 

Infatuation is a dangerous and upsetting thing, afterwards, when it's seen for what it is.
I think you're right to remember how your wife is today and that she has been there for you, throughout your marriage, in the way you described.
Analogy:
I understand that it can be tempting to buy a new sofa. I've been tempted by older and younger women.
However, it won't fit in the room with the proven original and really really comfy one and if you remove the comfy one to place the new one, that new one likely won't match or fit, with the rest of your furniture.

So, a new woman likely won't run alongside an existing one and if you replace the proven original, the new one likely won't fit with your life-long friends.
Some friends will disappear because they don't like the new arrangement and others may go because they won't like the way you treated your (then) ex-wife.

Also - I've seen it (relatively) many times - if you were to leave your wife for a new woman, rather than becoming single before starting the new relationship, it won't be long before things change in your new relationship and the new one begins to worry that you will leave her too, just like you left the first one for her.

That said; I know it is flattering and, emotionally, amazing that a younger woman finds you attractive. Actually, I've been emotionally flattered by older women too. It's not the age, it's the emotional connection that does it with my head.

For me, age is irrelevant, give or take 25 yrs either way.

If you can hold yourself together, find out what she would like, so, let it play (up to a point, provided you have sufficient self-control).
If she wants the sexual experience of an older guy, or if she wants a relationship, or if she's teasing then, at least, you'll know and you can take it from there whether that involves a discussion with your wife about educating a younger woman, or your wife letting you play or whatever would work for both you and your wife.

Not much else to say given we're communicating through a forum and we don't know all your circumstances.
I would suggest that, out of respect for your wife and whatever road you take, just minimise her hurt.
It sounds from your own words, that she hasn't done anything to deserve such hurt and pain.

 

Once a female has left high school, there is a definite broadening of her "attraction" to males. While a teen, she may tend to give her attention primarily to teen males - have boyfriends close to her age; lose her virginity to one of them. Sometimes even plan a future with one of. Youthful dreams.

But as she gets older, she begins to not be grossed out anymore by the thought of being with older men. She becomes more admiring of their experience and of their greater sophistication than what she's seen in the young dudes. And, there's more materialism at stake - that is huge.

When I was 21, I had to work like a dog for female attention from 21 year-olds. When I was 35, it began to be as opposite as night and day. Twenty-something chicks were hunting me.

For men, it's about falling in love. For women, it's about business.

 

@Tarp dont ruin a good thing you have with your wife. I envy what you have as I had a not so good relationship. I let myself mentally wander toward some women who were more desirable than my ex but with time I realized things may have gone bad between us, other woman. Maybe not, who knows.
And I got to discover flaws that made me grateful that I would have despised.

I also had some fwb after. Some I was very attracted to but it took a reality check to see it would have been challenging relationships.
For different reasons for each, yet there was no denying the attraction and everything.
I still keep in touch with one of them strictly on a friendly basis.

While it could be very nice to be with that younger woman what would be your intention with her? Her intention with you?
How compatible would you be with each other after the initial romance settles?
I am sure you will derive other questions on your own if you have not already