Young and Innocent - But not as innocent as I thought

It's probably been asked 1000+ times over, but seeing as I'm inexperienced I'm asking it again.

I'm only on my second sexual partner, and I'm not going to lie, I'm pretty scared I'm going to scare him off if I tell him what i like in the bedroom.

I'm a submissive. I like being tied up, and the guy to take control. I like being told what to do etc. That's all normal, but I have a 'rape' fetish too. Not to the point where a random stranger could rape me and I'd love it, but for my sexual partner to do so. I'm terrified about telling anyone because I'm shy.

Is this normal? And how do I tell him? He's told me to be open and honest with him, but how do I tell him something like that?

 

I totally get that. I don't know that I would say the actual word rape to him. I would just say things like "I like it when you physically force me to do things" That's what I tell my husband. Just tell him how you like it rough and tell him to not be nice.

 

Aw, it's actually relatively common I think considering how extreme it can sound. Which makes perfect sense when you consider that "rape" is - surely - a natural part of the animal world. Doesn't make it ethical, of course, but it's natural.

So what I'm saying is, it's fairly clear from an anthropological perspective why you would want it, in a sense at least.

I can imagine that it's hard to tell him though. Maybe start with the submissive side of the fetish and work on from there?

BDSM, for example, is very popular (even if I myself have never been a fan)

 

Rape is not a part of the animal world.
Consider that in order for coitus to be successful, the female's body (of any species) has to be in a certain position (exactly what position depends on which species). However, in most species, the male animal doesn't possess the manipulative skills (aka hands) needed to position an unwilling female.

Sex between animals may look forceful. Fights between males may be fierce and occasionally deadly. But forceable rape doesn't happen.

Rape is not a part of the animal world. But neither is cunnilingus.

 

Shy You Say, But Not Too Shy To Go To The Trouble Of Joining

A Forum, Then Telling Us All Your Love And Sex Issues....???

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Cheers Glen.