You totally arn't gay

I came out at college- I talk about my girlfriend openly with my good friend at school. Just friendly, normal "OH I see my girl this weekend! I can't wait!" type stuff. Now everyone knows and a few people have said "NO way! Really?" But not in a rude way. One guy didn't believe me (but he wasn't being a dick or anything) so I opened the laptop and showed him a not too racey but very cute pic of us kissing and he finally believes me LOL

If somebody says those things they probably are just curious or can't understand it bc they never experienced it. Most people are honestly pretty cool with it I have found.

 

Nah, I prefer being bi. That way both gay and straight people feel you understand them. I guess it works one of two ways: Everyone accepts you, or no-one does.

 

That's exactly how I feel about it.

 

I met my friend's friend Kerrianne last weekend in NYC and I started talking about my girlfriend and such. Kerrianne just stared at me and said "but... you're too pretty to be gay. You're wearing a Burberry scarf for god's sake!!!" She was really really freaked out I guess... Hahaha

 

And....you get a bigger pond to choose from.

 

I think the thing about bi people that annoys some gay people, is that they have the option of "being straight" and not having to go through all the crap that gay people have to go to. Also I think (some) gay people feel that people who are bi dont totally understand what it's like to be properly in love with the same sex. Not sure if you understand what I mean but I hope you do.

 

I don't think bi people can "decide" to "stay straight", as having the ability to fall in love with people of both sexes doesn't mean you can choose who you fall for.

Oh and @topic: My girlfriend's mum once asked me: "How come you don't look gay?" which was meant as a joke though. And some friends I came out to said they would never have guessed, but there was noone who said I couldn't be gay. ^^

 

it is so horrible the things one must endure. high school was an absolute torture. i did not fit into the male sterotype as a youth, young adult. i was into art, acting and i hated sports.

the ignorant comments, the name calling, the idiotic perceptions of what a gay/les/bi/trans person looks like, dresses, speaks, behaves are unbelievable.

ignore those that belittle you. seek out supportative friends. stella, does the school you attend have a gay organization? people that make such comments have closed minds and are unwilling to see us as the wonderfully diverse people that we are.

 

R u a lez? Really? OMG!!
You were such a pretty girl when you were little. Is it because your mom sent you 2 Catholic school? But you are so pretty in dresses, you have such nice legs and a big bosum!! Does your mom know??<-------- that 1 really cracks me up when asked.
Yep, typical questions I get whenever I run into my mom s old friends and they find out. Now, my answers 2 those questions............ready? U better pee 1 st or you might pee ur pants laughing!!


My answers:::



1.Yes I really am a Lez.
2. I know I was pretty when I was little, now I m very cute and sexy!! hehe
3. Yes, its def. mom s fault( a typical blame our parents answer lmao)
Yes,you see, it s mom s fault cause all those short skirts, knee highs, and see thru white blouses w/the little bow ties( ewwwwww I so hated the bow tie thingys, I really wanted to wear a real tie like the boys and long pants)
4. I still have nice legs, even if I now have tattoes on them and my g/f just loves my bosum!! She snuggles up 2 them every chance she gets!!
5. Yes, my mom knows I am and guess what? She still loves me 4 it and being myself and being happy.
The answers? Cute
The look on their faces when all questions are answered? priceless!!
LMAO but still all is true.

 

The easiest way to deal:

"You're not really gay."
"Uh, yeah I am actually."
"Prove it."
"No, I don't really care if you believe me or not. Go ahead."

It always worked for me in high school. You don't have to try to prove your sexuality to anyone, that's just silly, and let them know that! The harder you try to prove it, the more it'll seem like you're doing it for attention

 

The worst thing I heard wasn't actually in relation to me specifically. It was something about how gay men aren't allowed to donate blood in some places. Someone said to me "well, at least that way they're not passing their gay gene on to anyone else."

I've just finished high school, and although I haven't openly come out (to me, coming out is telling your parents. Once my parents know, it really doesn't make a HUGE difference to me who else does, because I've already told most of the important people in my life), I am CERTAINLY way more relaxed since I left high school. I wouldn't, under ANY circumstances, have come out at high school.

In my first year at my last high school, I was found writing a letter to a friend (a FRIEND), and it began with "My dearest, darling", and the name of the person I was writing to. For that, I was cornered and questioned by people I barely knew about my sexuality. That was probably what put me off coming out at high school...

 

my situation was kind of opposite. in highschool, people would ask if i were a lesbian, and when id say "No, Im Bi" they wouldnt believe me. i honestly have no clue what made them think i was completely homosexual. and if ever i asked, i never got a straight answer.​

And for reasons that are vague, i dislike calling myself bi. i prefer to say im 'open to love'. Maybe its because I get kind of annoyed with girls that say theyre bi, when theres no indication that they truly are. i am not sure if its 'in' to be bi, cause its a like a 'bi-bomb' went off and there are hundreds of 15 year old girls saying they are. ahh, i get frustrated but what does it matter. i know myself alot better now, and thats all that matters. right/​

I didnt realize i could like girls until i was 14, when i had my first girl crush [which was heart-aching, she was straight and i was hurt that nothing could ever happen between us]. To this day, i prefer girls over guys. So if bisexual werent a word, and you had to be either gay or straight. id be gay for suure.​

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im super boggle-headed. so i hope you can make sense of this ...​

 

I am bi but married, so I don't get many comments because not many people know... My friend, however, was at a party not too long ago. She is a lesbian, and was sitting on her girlfriends lap... a girl at the party walked right up to her and told her she couldn't be a lesbian because she was wearing high heels! OK, She's sitting on her girlfriends lap, kissing her and holding her hand, with a shirt on that says " I dig chicks" What the hell do high heels have to do with anything??!!?

 

My ex boyfriend told me he doesn't think I'm a lesbian. I dated him when I was fifteen. I was more than vastly confused. And, more to the point, we never did anything. Ever. I mean, not anything. But he thinks the fact that we were "boyfriend/girlfriend" in name means something. He said, "maybe you're bi...maybe." Then I was like, "Dude...I have a girlfriend. And I don't like boys." And then I told him who my girlfriend was and it turned out he had a crush on the girl. Go figure. But that's about the most homophobic anybody has been to me yet. I go to a VERY liberal school.

I did have people tell me I was a lesbian before I ever came out though.

 

flirt with her.

 

Lesbians can't get men?! Someone needs to educate this girl.

It bothers me when people try to decide your sexuality for you, period. I had a close friend who was a male lesbian, and needless to say he was quite effeminate (he considered himself a woman). However, he didn't want to tell people because he knew he wouldn't be accepted. Everyone continued to push him towards men and make gay jokes, even when he explained that he liked women.

Society has a habit of categorizing people into binaries based on stereotypes.

 

Sloppily stick your tongue down her throat as you firmly grab her buttock. I think that will convince her.

 

lol, who knows? i have yet to convince any of my friends, even my best friend who is gay wont believe me... and this would be after actually having been with women...
i think it has to do with dissonance, people have a set way of thinking, and when anything arises to contradict that, they dont like it not making sense, so they fight to keep it the way it is in their heads... instead of simply changing the way they think, they deal with it by denying it...

 

Try explaining to this ignorant girl that not every lesbian is a certain way.

Maybe think of some examples.

 

My sisters response to me saying I'm not Christian was. "... yes you are." lol. and I said i really wasnt and she yell "YES YOU ARE!" lol.

If shes into followign gossip and stereotypes shes not very informed. hasnt she ever heard of the "Im a lesbian" "thats so hot" thing that tends to be thrown around in tv shows and movies. and dotn forget that alot of guys look up lesbian porn.