XXX How to give a good Blowjob

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by Harmonys_Decade, May 9, 2004.

  1. ZePpeLinA

    ZePpeLinA Jump around!

    how dare your guy tell you you suck at blow jobs (Sorry about the pun!) he should be grateful he's even getting one.

    try to practice with a banana...that seems to help you get some practice...

    ...but on the real thing use, your hands and mouth at the same time, coordinating your moves to his breathing and you'll be fine.

    practice makes perfect

    :p
     
  2. migle

    migle Senior Member

    As a boy i must say that it's your boy who sucks for hating it, you should leave him with no blowing for some time, but this is just my point.

    Anyway, if you want to learn, you just have to practice. My ex, at the begining, didn't know how to do it, but after some time she became incredibly good.

    And the secret is hiding your teeth behind your lips, and get it really sallival, really really wet.

    I hope you find this useful, but i stay thinking that he should be more polite.
     
  3. Third Eye

    Third Eye Member

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  5. We_All_Shine_On

    We_All_Shine_On Senior Member

    you don't have to like it... I hate giving Bjs, ugh...*shudder* but yeah, watch your teeth, make sure theres alot of saliva, and yes, gagging is normal...

    the bets thing i guess is maybe watch porn I guess. cuz then you get to like, see how to do it....sorry it's a gross suggestion, but it'll prolly work.

    and he's being a dick(i love puns) because he should be grateful...
     
  6. eyeoffatima

    eyeoffatima Member

    He should definitely be grateful that you tried, but he shouldn't be thankful to be getting head if its bad head, i mean, would you? girls act like guys are lucky to get any head, and then think they deserve to get eaten out all the time. Psh, fuck that double standard! If i give good head to my gal, i expect some good head back(not every time, of course, sometimes i do it just for doing it... but, as a general rule..). The ol' golden rule!

    As for tips... just ask him what feels good, and what doesnt. As with all sex, communication is KEY.

    just my $0.02,
    peace
     
  7. ronnyromance

    ronnyromance Member

    Umm so he should be greatful for bad head??? I think not. If the blowjob sucked what is he supposed to be greatful for? It obviously didnt get him off. Get some practice on bananas or something like somebody said and watch some pornos. Then you can give him some head that he will appreciate. Another thing to remember is that guys vary in how they like their blowjobs. For instance some guys like it rough with alot of rough jerking and some will like it soft and slow. The biggest thing you need to work on is not gagging. When the chick keeps stopping to gag it ruins the blowjob. This is probly why he mostly hated it. Try learning to breath through your nose and not being so sensitive to a cock touching your throat. Another thing is you need to take in more than just the head as well. I hate when girls just suck the head and basically just jerk you off. We want it all in your mouth.
     
  8. AOFpunker

    AOFpunker Member

    Just keep it simple for now. Start out by running your tongue up the underside of his penis because I've found that to be really stimulationg for guys. Make sure you lick the whole thing so its well salivated. Then, just start sucking it like its a popsycle. Since you can't get it all the way in your mouth, wrap you hand around the base and coordinate you strokies to that of your mouth. Honestly that probably feels better cuz the other day my man was telling me how he wishes he was "bigger" so that i could use my hand while i sucked. But anyway..... Try to make eye contact with him during it cuz that seems to get guys really excited. And just have fun with it. Maybe lick/suck on his balls a little while workinf his dick with your hand. I'm not a guy by any means, but my boyfriend seems to enjoy this a lot. Have fun! Hoped this helped you some
     
  9. AutumnAuburn

    AutumnAuburn Senior Member

    If he is willing to offer that you aren't doing a very good job, then he should be prepared to give you advice on what to do.

    The reason why you got vague advice before, was probably because everyone is different. Some guys like it slow, some guys like it fast, some guys like a lot of suction, some guys don't like suction, some guys like you to concentrate your mouth on the head and use your hands on the shaft, some guys like it deep, some guys like teeth, some guys like their balls sucked or massaged, etc, etc.

    It really helps if you can read body language, because then you know what they are enjoying and you can keep doing it. Also, ask him, straight up. "Babe, I want to make this good for you, tell me what you enjoy."

    Also, on the gagging... I've found that again, every guy is different. The angle of the dangle varies from guy to guy. Get into different positions to see which one triggers it the least. I have found, that in general, if I can hang my head backwards (say, over the edge of the bed or something), then he has more of a straight shot in, thus less gagging. Similar to that of a person who swallows swords, you need to have your airway straight, so everything goes down smoothly. But, some guys like it when girls gag on them, the squeezing feeling of the gag reflex feels good to them. The only bad part is that you may vomit, if you aren't used to it. In that case you just have to gracefully swallow it back down...

    I don't recall who mentioned it, but yes, you need to be enjoying yourself. Guys like a girl who enjoys sucking their cocks. So, look up at him and smile, once in a while. Make humming noises, like you are enjoying it. Let him know that pleasing him, is pleasing you. Even if you're gagging, you can still enjoy it. The gag reflex is just a physical response to stimuli, it doesn't mean you don't like it. Be sure to let him know that...

    But, overall, I would say the best advice you can get is to ask your partner what they want and listen to their body language. Know your partner, know what they like and don't like.

    Good luck. :)
     
  10. Alomiakoda

    Alomiakoda Boniface McSporran

    Is it just me who has a problem with jaw ache? :p
     
  11. Rockstock2004

    Rockstock2004 Member

    I really enjoy getting head. The first time my Ex tried it, she gagged, and bit me. I was sore for a week. Though i didnt get mad at her at her. She tried it, that was the thing. She didnt have to just do that to me at all. I told her simply, it's alright what you did. If you don't ever want to do it again, ill understand you are scared, and wont ever ask you again. She told me she really wanted to please me like i pleased her. i said, it dont matter how you please me, im not always 100% wanting to be pleased. I just liked pleasing her, and didnt care what I got back in return. After a couple weeks she tried again. She didnt gag, or bite, she even took it all the way. So he should be lucky you even tried it hun, cuz if it was me, I would say, you tried, you did your best, and it was good, not can I please you, lol, pretty much how it went with my ex.
     
  12. Fractual_

    Fractual_ cosmos factory

    i agree with the person who said you should enjoy it! or at least pretend you are!



    and hey the guy isnt completley wrong, its very disappointing to get a girl to go down on you and then find out shes terrible at it.
     
  13. Chongo Blanco

    Chongo Blanco Banned

    When my girl blows me should kind of circles her tongue around the head of my dick. Wow is that amazing. You should ask him what feels good and what doesn't. Don't feel bad for not knowing, and he should not get mad at you if he fails to tell you what he wants. Also if you want some extra practice let me know. If nothing else works tell him that all the other guys you blow like it and see if that changes his mind.:)
     
  14. David

    David Member

    Giving a Blowjob is like anything else it takes practice. First of all you should want to do it, if not, you won't enjoy it. Best way to learn, ask your boyfriend what he likes, no two men are the same. Don't worry, if this is something you really want to do, you'll be fine. One thing, it was really shitty of your boyfriend to be as crass as he was, he should have coached you, do you think all men know how to eat pussy well? Nope, you ladies have to show us how it's done and what you like. Peace.
     
  15. vanilla

    vanilla Member

    I think Zeppelina meant 'appreciate' more than 'grateful'.


    Your man should appreciate the fact that you gave it a go regardless of the fact that it was good or not. If he doesn't appreciate it, even if it was good, you would be thinking whether you want to do it again or not.

    I have the same problem with gagging too. So like many people had said, I combine my hands and mouth. So far so good.
     
  16. ZePpeLinA

    ZePpeLinA Jump around!

    /\ yeah that's what I meant. appreciate the fact that sucking cock can be a hard (sorry about the pun) task, it takes skill and lots of dedication. if she didnt do it "properly" the guy should appreciate that she at least tried.
     
  17. Bonky

    Bonky Member

    talk to him during the act! I always did that,it's the best,trust me. and don't be embaressed :)
     
  18. xaosflux

    xaosflux Sysop Lifetime Supporter Super Moderator

    No, don't start humming your favorite song :p at this point either , espeically if it's "Don't want no short dick man"
     
  19. AutumnAuburn

    AutumnAuburn Senior Member

    ROTFLMAO!!!

    I guess I should've specified... Hum, nummy noises... LOL Not songs... LOL
     

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