Wow! I'm Pissed Off!

so true.

And OP it DOES stink that they dont want to throw in on the party favors. I often like when the person hosting the party provides the many items and then AS GIFTS other people coming bring weed, psychs, whatever.

As BBAD said, often and it is a shame, people do not see the bigger picture.

Keep on truckin

 

When something like that happened to me I just said "fuck it" and quit throwing parties.

 

I've always made it a practice to bring my own weed, and share, when attending a "party".

But the last real "party" I was at was back in '68, when I was trippin', and just decided to get naked and do a yoga headstand in the entryway, just inside the front door. Everyone entering had to witness the magnificence,,lol.

Since then, I've only been to spontaneous gatherings, where we smoke, play music, and don't worry about who brought what. I dislike "planned" gatherings.

 

I disagree with you on a couple different levels. In order to keep from going astray, asking for financial help to host a birthday/420 party will always be incredibly ridiculous. Even more ridiculous is getting mad at the refusal of guest. I prefer to surround myself with people who are not socially inept, so I don't forsee this ever being a problem for myself.

 

I'm deeply hurt by your disagreement. I just granted you a gold star for your post about your frustration with your job. I fully realize that you are wiser than the rest of us, and can only hold this against you, despairing of our pitiful condition, in comparison to your own extensive wisdom in knowing how to select your preferred companions.

Having said that,,

CHEERS! LOL

 

If it makes any difference, my select and preferred companions are fewer these days. Quality over quantity is my unofficial slogan.

 

Lady......Get Over Yourself......



Cheers Glen.

 

It DOES make a difference. But I usually don't choose to be so selective, until the "accidental companions" show themselves to be sub-standard. I'm usually initially quite open and communicative, and in time, learn where, and with whom, not to waste my time.

We're in agreement. I probably matriculate with more people than yourself, however, since I'm always looking for new contacts in my field of music, and also looking to network with those who are knowledgeable in ways I'm not.

But as you say, I'm finding fewer and fewer people that are really adequate, let alone "preferable", in forming on-going relations.


edit: ,,but I'll keep you in mind,,on my "short list",,lol

 

Stop expecting others to return your favors.

I know it would be nice if it worked out positively every time but it just doesn't.

If you want to help do it without sending the bill.

 

Errr, so you both refer to other peoples adequacy or quality as humans....and you wonder why you have no friends?

Ironic since I'll wager that by adequacy and quality you really mean people that arent threatening to you: i.e ones that are dumber, uglier or poorer than yourselves

 

Well, MayQueen all I gonna say is I hope you are a bit less stressed now and that when the day comes that it be enjoyable for whoever is there x

 

It's usually not long until substandards shine in their, well, substandard-ness. I'll keep an open mind long enough for that to happen, but like I've mentioned above, it usually doesn't take long for that door to close.

 

Why you wish to "wager" in such a personally demeaning manner escapes me. However, your ignorance is not lost on me, seeing that your assumptions are so completely wack.

Why would you assume that neither of us have "friends"? The "friends" we do have are real ones, not the imaginary ones that you must, by default, consider the "whole world" to be. The world in general is not simply a big "hippie gathering". There are people that wish us ill will. Perhaps you are one of them? Your words seem to imply this.

If you have no discernment, to be able to choose, between one or another person, as adequate for a real friendship, then why are you judging the two of us as inadequate yourself? Are not our personal choices valid, as pertains to our lives? Or would you have us in your image?

 

I wasn't supposed to host the party, our friend offered to host the party at her house and said she would cook some food. So I said oh that's nice then I will make some special brownies and some green and that's when they said "oh we will share our green also" this wasn't supposed to be a huge party it was 3 couples and we are all friends (not swingers) So it's not like the whole thing was my idea and I never asked anyone to pitch in any money. That's the whole part that pisses me off. If they didn't have the money in the first place they should have been honest with me and I would have told them to come to our house and we will have fun with what little we have no big deal. But both of the other couples backed out making up bullshit excuses. Aren't friends supposed to be honest with each other? Damn I'm not that much of a bitch to where I would have just completely flipped out on them. I'm a very understanding person. I'm over it, I made other plans and I've decided not to let it get to me anymore...fuck it.

 

I actually agree with this. Made me realize something, I'm either going to have to get younger friends or gay friends with no kids. Problem solved

 

At the same time, it's not always good manners to ask everyone to bring something. If they really wanna party, they will help, I guess....

I don't get that dudes problem with 4.20 though, I see nothing wrong with celebrating it..... If you don't mind, can you tell me if this is her 22nd birthday?

I'm also not sure if gorilla is trying to make being 40 sound fun or not........ kinda does. But he was mostly spot on.

Just consider the psychology behind it: people are, by nature and especially in our culture, stingy, and a few of us are not. But when someone's on the fence, or might bring something if they forsee a good time, and you tell them they have to, reverse psychology kicks in HARD.....

 

No she's not 22, lol, she's going to be 39 this year.

 

nice, mine is "show me your boobs."

 

Hehehehe!!

 

Oooh, older women....

Just wondering, I once knew someone with that birthday.